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Reduced movements, husband says I shouldn't worry

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ARV1981 · 04/07/2015 07:13

But I can't help it. My twin sister had a stillborn baby two years ago and it terrifies me that the same will happen to me.

I've hardly felt baby move this morning since waking up and usually it's going nuts in there first thing. My husband says I shouldn't worry and that I'm being paranoid as he felt it moving last night. But I'm scared.

I know my husband has plans today which he doesn't want to upset and I think that's why he's got so cross with me for mentioning it. If this was happening to anyone else I'd be telling them to phone their midwife, but my husband's reaction has got me questioning myself.

What would you do?

I'm 29 weeks btw (30 on Monday).

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fairgroundsnack · 04/07/2015 07:51

Please please go and get checked out. The fact that you have a family history of stillbirth makes it even more important that you go in. All the cold water, caffeine etc. might make baby move but that doesn't necessarily mean that there isn't a problem that is causing reduced movements.

EmzDisco · 04/07/2015 07:53

I am 30 weeks too and my usually active baby had a very quiet day last week. I called the midwife and she said to call the hospital. They were so lovely and monitored for half an hour, and said to always call if worried, come in again and again if you need to! As it happen all was fine and dandy, but such a relief. It took an hour max out of my day to get some peace of mind.

Your husband is right to say not to worry as your baby is probably fine, but he is very wrong to suggest you shouldn't do anything about it as he has plans!

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ARV1981 · 04/07/2015 07:56

I've called the midwife and am in my way into get checked out.

Husband's asleep upstairs. I'll leave him a note... he can get the bus.

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Margaritte · 04/07/2015 07:58

Hope everything is ok ARV1981. Glad you decided to take the advice on here & go to the hospital. Let us know everything is ok when you get a chance. I'm sure it is, though it is always best to get this checked.

Cyrli · 04/07/2015 08:00

Very pleased to hear this. Your husband will have to learn that he does not come first. I'm sure everything will be fine, but it's not a risk worth taking.

EmzDisco · 04/07/2015 08:03

Thats good, thinking of you ARV, hope all will be ok, I'm sure it will.

Ashwinder · 04/07/2015 08:04

hope everything is ok ARV. Is your husband always so selfish?

Hestheone · 04/07/2015 08:05

So glad your going to get checked,you and your child come first and I'm really cross with your husband on your behalf for being so bloody selfish

Brummiegirl15 · 04/07/2015 08:06

I'm another saying sod the husband and if he gets pissed off? Well tough shit.

As others have said - have a cold sugary drink and maybe a bit of food and lie quietly on your left side.

If you can't feel anything you must ring your midwife

Brummiegirl15 · 04/07/2015 08:06

Ah sorry x post! So glad you are getting checked out

ShadowFire · 04/07/2015 08:13

Glad to hear you've gone to get checked out. I hope it's a false alarm.

And your husband needs to rethink his priorities.

Flisspaps · 04/07/2015 08:20

Glad you took the advice to get checked out

BBQsAreSooooOverrated · 04/07/2015 08:21

Chances are everything is fine but always best to get checked out. You won't be able to relax until you've been seen. Your oh is a selfish twerp Btw.

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 04/07/2015 08:23

Glad you are on your way.

Turquoiseblue · 04/07/2015 08:39

Good you re getting checked out, as the other s say, probably all fine but good to be sure, and silly to ignore it if you didn't get any movements after trying to elicit some. Hope all ok. Let us know how it is.

SewingAndCakes · 04/07/2015 08:48

I'm glad you're going to get checked out. I think it'd be a good idea to talk with DH about expectations regarding each of your roles before baby arrives. It's harder to address these things when there's a baby around. You'll need a lot of support and he's going to have to prioritise being a father over his own interests.

Hope all is well

Gileswithachainsaw · 04/07/2015 08:58

Glad your going in. of course reduced movements should be checked out. usually it's nothing but we are not told to monitor them for fun.

good luck op

ignore your dick head dh

ScorpioMermaid · 04/07/2015 08:58

hope everything's ok. I had this earlier in the week, (38 weeks) baby is super active but only moved minimally in the morning. by 3pm I realised (I had been out) that those minimal movements I felt in the morning were the only ones I'd felt all day. dh told me to ring mw she sent me for fetal monitoring and luckily everything was fine, she started jumping about as soon as they hooked me up to the monitor but you're doing the right thing. The hospital told me that's what they're there for and a couple of hours sat on the monitor for the baby to move is better than the worst case scenario.

5YearsTime · 04/07/2015 09:01

Well done you. Screw his grumpiness. Maybe he'll realise how serious you were when he notices where you have gone. Hopefully baby is just tucked away in a corner somewhere so you can't feel them.

Topsy34 · 04/07/2015 09:11

Get checked out!! doesnt your husband realise he wont be sleeping much at all when the baby comes??

JassyRadlett · 04/07/2015 09:23

I'm glad you're going in. I had this a couple of times with my first and it was bloody scary, but ultimately all fine.

Your husband may need to learn that his child's physical well-being will always come before his hobbies.

Excitedmummytobe00 · 04/07/2015 09:26

Sorry to say this, but your husband sounds like his being a selfish prick. Your lo's safety is more important than his plans. If he has plans on the day you are in labour, is he going to expect you to wait for him to ready? Please please get the reduced movements checked, esp if you have tried all of the tricks to get lo to move and their are still reduced movements! I hope everything is fine,

Iloveonionchutney · 04/07/2015 09:28

Glad your getting checked, your husband is being an arse.
Let us know how you get on.

MissTwister · 04/07/2015 09:59

I think you're all being a bit harsh! At 29 weeks patterns can change a lot and if OP felt movement last night and it was only 7am when she posted then this wouldn't seem hugely worrying - this is probably what her husband is saying.

Now I am not saying don't go and get checked out at all as you definitely should if worried (I've been 3 times!) but maybe he is just trying to be reassuring as in all likelihood everything is fine.

I hope everything goes well for you OP do update us

OhEmGeee · 04/07/2015 09:59

Good for you op. Is your husband always this much of a selfish arse? Your baby is the priority here, not you playing taxis for whatever he's got planned. I despair.

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