How much will it matter that I wasn't planning a baby, folic acid, alcohol, diet etc? Pls be honest

[GlitteringJasper]

Anyone who has seen my previous threads will know that I wasn't planning a third dc.

I'm 6 weeks pregnant with a very accidental pregnancy.

With my first two, I planned and prepared my body for pregnancy.

With this one, I've been drinking, not eating the amount of fruit and veg etc I'd like, not taking folic acid.

This is remedied now and fridge is full of green veg and oily fish but it's really bad I conceived without doing these things first, isn't it?

I didn't do any of that with my final (also surprise) pregnancy - the baby was absolutely fine....and you're 6 weeks, not 6 months, so for the vast majority of the pregnancy you will be doing the right things. Don't beat yourself up about it - millions of women don't prepare themselves and fall pg and have perfectly healthy babies.

Nope. Ofcourse it is great if you can do these things, but if we put every pregnant woman on an honesty parade, I will bet you that most of them will be accidentally pregnant! Don't beat yourself up!

I still fell pregnant despite taking the morning after pill and took contraceptive pills for the first month without knowing the MAP hadn't worked. As well as nights out drinking and eating junk food. And all has been fine.

It must happen all the time.

My little accident (with plenty of alcohol in 5he first 6 weeks) is off to a superselective grammar school in September and has just captained his football team to victory in the county finals. I don't think it did him too much harm :)

You get folic acid from food so that should be fine, just start taking it now. With the drinking etc, I forget exactly which point in time it is, but early on the baby is using the yolk sack rather than being connected to you, so that should be fine too.

I was taking the pill when I got pregnant with DS, I found out at about 6 weeks. I had been going out and getting drunk every weekend til I found out (a few big nights out for birthdays etc) my diet was not amazing as I was barely eating anything, I didn't take folic acid til I found out. Honestly my son was fine (although he was induced a few weeks early due to my BP suddenly skyrocketing - but that had nothing to do with anything I did or did not do!) He was perfectly healthy at birth and is a perfectly healthy 18 month old!

Many millions of women get pregnant unexpectedly and have healthy pregnancies resulting in gorgeous babies
babies, do not worry one bit!

Well, if you want honesty, it's not 100% optimum. However, I'll tell you how much I think you should worry about it? Not a jot. There are probably optimum ways of doing most things in your life. The diet you eat, the way you spend your leisure time, the amount of exercise you take, the way you drive your car, your posture, how much you bend you legs when you pick up something from the floor and on and on and on and on. It's one of those cases where you file it under 'I'm human and frankly, good enough'. The chances of it having any effect at all are absolutely minuscule. I think you should put the whole thing out of your mind. Sounds like you're still in shock atm and that's enough to deal with without guilt on top of it.

If you were hanging upside down in a crystal meth den, injecting yourself with heroin whilst swigging from a bottle of vodka when you conceived, not only would I be very impressed at your ability to multi-task, I'd possibly say it's perhaps not the ideal way to make a baby.

Congratulations and I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Thanks everyone

The baby will be finex

I'm 6 months pg with my second. He seems very healthy and robust he was an unplanned and very lovely surprise, and it had no idea I was pg over Xmas, so drank dreadful amounts of wine to wash down slabs of banned cheeses.

DS1 was also a surprise. I went to all night raves before I found out and was generally a terrible teenager up until the day I poas. DS1 is now a healthy terrible teen himself no harm done, and the body generally let's you know before you can do harm. It's mums that continue despite the body letting them know loud and clear that can cause harm I believe.

I had an accidental pregnancy. No folic acid whatsoever, no preparing for pregnancy and as a student there was a considerable amount of alcohol and rubbish junk food involved at the start (as well as the fact that the main food group during my pregnancy was McDonalds nuggets).

DD is a perfect, healthy, happy 14 month old :)