Weirdest reactions when you told people you're pregnant?

[tindel]

As I'm now 17 weeks, I've pretty much told everyone that I'm pregnant. Most people have been lovely about it - even had a couple of people crying because they were so pleased - but two reactions have definitely stood out as being a bit odd and one slightly rude, imo.

First one was when I announced it at my team meeting, which was mainly done over teleconference. After I'd said it, I had people saying their congratulations and then my boss said "Yes, well done Tindel". Well done? For what? Getting knocked up? I know it was meant nicely, but it just seemed a bit weird to be praised in the same way as if I'd finished a work project!

The other one, I'm still not sure if I should have taken offence at. When we went to tell DH's parents, MIL's first reaction was to turn to him and say "And I suppose this is your doing?" FFS, who else would it have been, given that we've been together for more than 10 years?

So share - what has been the weirdest reaction you've had when you've told people you're pregnant?

My father said, with deep pomposity, 'Qualified congratulations' - because I'd only POAS and hadn't been told by a doctor. That was annoying.

Sister in law said 'oh no'. Silly bitch

And a bit off topic - when I excitedly showed my parents the scan pic of DC1, my mother giggled and said, 'It looks like a piece of toast.' My parents dedicate their lives to deflating me...

My boss said 'i didn't know you were trying' because yeah I always share details of my sex life with my boss

He did then clarify with 'god that was a stupid thing to say, why would you tell me , congratulations'

Sorry to be adding another one, but I honestly couldn't believe what my FIL said today. On seeing my 20 week scan pictures he said, "poor little wretch". I mean, what?!?!? I had to leave the room before I said something that I'd regret. Am I just being hormonal and over-sensitive? I guess he was joking, but . . .

My father said, 'Did you have to provide a urine sample?'

lorelai what on earth?! I dont really understand what he meant by that but doesnt sound nice!!

MIL jumped out of her seat, shouted "YES! Back of the net!" And high-fived DH.

My sister was the best though. Her jaw literally dropped. I thought it was just a figure of speech, but hers actually did suddenly drop. It was awesome.

hobNong
"lomega why did your dh's cousin react in that way?! How horrible and strange."

Because she's a nasty little cow who can't bear to see anyone happy, I guess! I asked MIL if she was ttc and therefore envious or upset, but apparently she "really isn't into kids"

I assumed she must be TTC, if not that's really odd behaviour. Sounds like you're well shot of her!

Took my senior in work aside to tell him coz I needed a risk assessment as I work with chemicals.

"is this a good thing?"

Er yes

"congratulations then"

Ma said "You're not?! How will you manage? This will make things very difficult."

Boss said "You're fools to yourselves."

Good job I have a sense of humour!

Amy - I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought it sounded awful! My FIL does say the oddest things sometimes. DH is always telling me that I over-react but "poor little wretch?!?!?" Why would someone say that?!?

I got "Was it ....stage whisper... plannned?"
From a friend I'd met during an MA at Oxford. She'd finished her PhD, I hadn't. We were both married. She couldn't figure out why anyone would want a baby before they'd got a proper professory-job.
I laughed and laughed and laughed.
She apologized when I said "That was bloody rude you know? I'm a married woman of 30. I know that contraception and abortions exist. Do you think I'd have an unplanned baby?!"
Her defense was that I was drinking, so was not serious about it (it was a mocktail, and bloody delicious).
Silly mare.

That was 2DCs ago. They still don't have any and she's confided that she's never wanted any. I am zero percent surprised. :)

Dc1

Best friend hammered the phone down and didn't speak to me for ooh, 6 years.
Other bf- you don't have to have it.
Other bf- shit- now I'm the only one without kids.
DM - oh dear. I thought you couldn't have children
Df- what?
Dsis- I hope you don't have a boy. I'm the one that has boys.
Db- what?
Mil- who's baby is it? ( WTF)
Boss1 - that's great. Would you accept a directorship?
Boss2- I suppose you'll be resigning then.

Dc2

DM - oh dear. Is that a good idea?
Df- another one?
Mil - can I have dc1 then? As you'll be busy. ( WTF)

I got my mum to tell my dad who said "i thought she was being a fat little bastard eating everything in the house"

My MIL when i found out it was twins (not a planned pregnancy btw) "well what are you going to do with them?" Keep them. That's what!

Boss "you'll be living off beans on toast now mate. Maybe the ones with the sausage in as a one off treat. You're gonna be skint but the best years of your life ahead of you. Be prepared for 5 shades of shit- cause no one tells you about that"

This tread has made me smile!
I m expecting after a bit if a big age gap - partly our decision, though there was 2 mc along the way (not many know this).
The reactions have been funny
My mum - 'are you serious? Well I didn't see that coming '!!
A colleague at work was a bit 'OMG ' and kept referring to how 'you 'found myself accidentally pregnant ' even after a gentle correction of 'oh this was actually planned' she still keeps hashing on about how it was 'unplanned'
Friend 'but you were my go to person, how can you have another dc'?

A "friend" at the time said "I guess I'm happy if you are".

Very strange, needless to say I haven't seen her in two years.she was pregnant at the time too.

Told colleague reçently since I won't be able to do X task on her team as I will be on mat leave for six months at the time.

Colleague replies - "oh. I thought that was the case last week. Anyway won't be needing you to do X task anyway as I have invited to lead Big Team in Big City, just waiting for my interview"

Wow.

My first pregnancy was twins, and I got a lot of 'are they IVF?' type questions. I wish I'd had the guts to tell them no, actually we had just shagged!

I had another one after the twins (all boys) and it surprises me that people fairly often ask me if I'm having another, or when I'm going to 'try for a girl'.

Reading the thread has reminded me of my phone call to my grandad, many miles away, to tell him I was 'expecting' ('pregnant' being a rude word, of course).
He said 'well you'll have to lose all that weight quickly, you're too fat to have a baby'

My in-laws collectively do try to see the worst in every situation so it is rather draining but my SILs' reactions to our latest baby were great... (For context, we lost DC2 in pregnancy and have never made a secret of the fact we'd like a big family.)

SIL1: I didn't know you were trying.

(What I wanted to say was, "Do you want me to check with you first before I have unprotected sex with your brother?"

SIL2: [Silence, then in a very cold voice] Is this happy news?

Mil told us she was 'gobsmacked'.

First pregnancy, MIL reacted with disapproving shock and disbelief: 'A BABY? A baby? Whaaat?'

We were in our thirties, married and had been together a long time so it really wasn't that shocking. She just loves a bit of drama.

When I told an old school friend she said: 'Was it a mistake?'

This pregnancy, I have shied away from big announcements because I just think people often react so oddly. I sent texts and emails instead - much easier. But I did tell my gran face to face as I thought it would be a lovely moment. She said: 'Oh. Are you happy about it?'

Gah!

When I told my colleague I was expecting again, he said: "Oh no, don't leave me in the office on my own for a year! I'll go mad."