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Weirdest reactions when you told people you're pregnant?

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tindel · 24/04/2015 10:21

As I'm now 17 weeks, I've pretty much told everyone that I'm pregnant. Most people have been lovely about it - even had a couple of people crying because they were so pleased Smile - but two reactions have definitely stood out as being a bit odd and one slightly rude, imo.

First one was when I announced it at my team meeting, which was mainly done over teleconference. After I'd said it, I had people saying their congratulations and then my boss said "Yes, well done Tindel". Well done? For what? Getting knocked up? I know it was meant nicely, but it just seemed a bit weird to be praised in the same way as if I'd finished a work project!

The other one, I'm still not sure if I should have taken offence at. When we went to tell DH's parents, MIL's first reaction was to turn to him and say "And I suppose this is your doing?" FFS, who else would it have been, given that we've been together for more than 10 years? Angry

So share - what has been the weirdest reaction you've had when you've told people you're pregnant?

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CheerfulYank · 25/04/2015 05:48

My first, my mother hung up on me. Hmm My second, she was pleased but wondered why I "bothered" as I already had the perfect child. Hmm Hmm

With my third I preempted her by saying "I need you to not have an insane reaction". So she was just pleased. :)

hestialou · 25/04/2015 05:53

Spiderman, I get were sil coming from scans freak me out too, but probably wouldn't say it to pregnant lady!!

CheerfulYank · 25/04/2015 06:02

That cracks me up Chilly :o

Also my uncle laughed hysterically and said "you'll have Irish twins!" DC2 and DC will be two years apart. Confused

My parents told me they weren't old enough with my first. They're the ones who had their first kid in their teens!

CheerfulYank · 25/04/2015 06:04

Oh and a lot of people have said "you'll be done now, I suppose?" I'm pregnant with DC3. I tell them "no, I'm not stopping til I get my own reality show actually."

HoppityVoosh · 25/04/2015 06:34

Maileg's post absolutely was relevant to the thread and was clearly in reply to the August due date angst from strangers. Fs, it was only a quick question.

Not really any outrageous reactions here although DH did get "well done" and a handshake from his boss. What is it with well done?!

FurryCat1978 · 25/04/2015 07:00

MIL...within two hours she managed to make me and DH feel rotten. "Whose fault was that, then" and "I'm glad I'm getting another grandchild. I just wish it was wanted."
DH and I have been together for years and this bubba is our first...a tad unexpected but not unwelcome in the least. Haven't been able to talk to MIL properly since!!

RolyPolierThanThou · 25/04/2015 07:11

"Oh well you wont be able to just go travelling anymore now" (my father). We had not long returned from a year long round the world trip. Hardly something we'd likely be doing regularly. And "I didn't think you were the sort" (I'm the most maternal of all my sisters. have always wanted children)

"Was it planned?" (My boss at every pregnancy).

"Oh my god" (my neighbour. And not in a nice tone)

"You could still lose it, you know" (DM) I was 16 weeks.

applecore0317 · 25/04/2015 07:40

We conceived on holiday, happy accident on the first past of our trip and my parents neighbour commented on our post announcing the news:

"seems you were quite productive during that rainy spell in Montenegro"

ummmmm

Onemilliongal · 25/04/2015 08:09

When I went for my flu jab at 12 weeks with my dd who is a toddler .I was so unwell with severe morning sickness (HG) and I had just been discharged from hospital with anti sickness meds , anyway the nurse at the surgery asked how I was feeling and ofcourse I told her and she asked Why did you do it again ? I looked straight in her eyes for few seconds and said because I wanted 2 kids and she looked at my dd and said she is beautiful am sure it's worth a second one.

I found it rude because this is only my second not my 10th and people go through things a lot worse that severe morning sickness but go ahead to have another one

FluffyJawsOfDoom · 25/04/2015 08:10

When I told my husband I got "oh wow! Well done!" Hmm Bit weird!

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SmallBee · 25/04/2015 09:18

When we told my step-Mil, who we only ever sees handful of times a year, she said 'I knew you were going to tell me that!'.
We had always said we wouldn't have kids and never told anyone we changed our mind. It made me think she must have 'known' we were going to tell her every time we saw her which led to all sorts of worries about me having looked pregnant without being pregnant.
She then spent whole of the conversation telling us how her DD might move in with her BF. At the end she said she was glad I wasn't suffering with morning sickness & seemed very taken aback when I told her I actually had it very badly, she just hadn't actually asked.

LuluJakey1 · 25/04/2015 09:20

One of DH's grandmas ' Well it's about time. We thought there was something wrong with the pair of you'
The other Grandma (directed to DH) 'That's lovely. Well done our xxxxx'

Well done for what? His aim? Was me being pregnant just about what he had done, nothing I had contributed (not that I wantd to be told 'well done')

But they do make us giggle.

One of DH's friends 'Good one mate'. ????????

Old lady along the street who I told when I was 6 months. 'Are you sure?'

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 25/04/2015 10:37

My Dad is always quite bizarre in his comments. For context DS was due late October, so conceived late Jan / early Feb

Dad "I knew you were pregnant when I saw you at Christmas"
Me "Well I wasn't pregnant yet"
Dad "Couples always get bored at Christmas"

Dad "When in October as we want to book a holiday"
I give EDD
Dad " So the week before then"
Me "Up to you,could be a couple of weeks either side"
Dad "Well let me know when you have a proper date"

Ummmmmmm?

SummerMeadow33 · 25/04/2015 13:26

I don't post everything on FB so when I told people it was selective in private messages. Most were great, an annoying amount said, 'Who's the dad, I didn't know you had a boyfriend?' and one who DID know I had a boyfriend said 'I can't wait for the Jeremy Kyle paternity test'!!! No justification whatsoever for that; one boyfriend in two years! He thought he was being funny but that got him deleted. For the record, I'd been single for a long time and was open to idea of a donor, so if I HAD gone that route I would have been extra fed up with the 'who's the father questions'.

ScathingContempt · 25/04/2015 15:29

A work colleague asked me if it was planned. Which is rude enough but completely baffled me because I'm a lesbian and she knows this.

Justyou · 25/04/2015 15:41

Mil "hmmm, not sure how I feel about this, I ll have to have a think n let you know later" !!!!
Hmm. Any wonder why I feel different now about her ?

GlitzAndGigglesx · 25/04/2015 16:33

AbbeyRoad sounds like my uncle! He asked for the due date so they can visit after and when I told him he said "but do you think they'll come then as I need to book time off work". How the bloody hell do I know?!

Justyou mine asked if she should be pleased or if she should congratulate us. Apparently I'm going to turn my 4yo into a slave when the babies arrive Hmm. I see her as little as I can

Justyou · 25/04/2015 16:38

It's crap isn't it Glitz? Tried to tell her the day we had booked for induction and all we got was "wait a minute, I m trying to check my facebook" even when dh was like mam this is important we got " i ll listen in a minute I just need to check this your sister has put on"
No help with any of 3dc ever despite promises to them of trips and I like it that way now. Don't get help so don't need to owe anything or listen to the rubbish

itsnotmeitsyou1 · 25/04/2015 16:52

My family were lovely, however my midwife (who seemed judgy pants enough that this was my third pregnancy), asked if it was planned. Only my second time seeing a mw, but assume that wasn't really a relevant question? Could have been a complete accident, with a random one night stand, not really any of hers. I think she should have gathered by my over-excited partner, who was also in the room, that wasn't the case.

helenahandbag · 25/04/2015 17:02

One thing that makes me feel like a 'proper' adult now that I've reached my mid twenties is that when people in my social circle get pregnant the reaction is 'congratulations!' rather than 'oh shit, what did your mum say?' Grin

helenahandbag · 25/04/2015 17:05

scathing

Sorry but that really made me laugh Grin

skyeskyeskye · 25/04/2015 17:29

XMIL. We went to see her after the scan. Gave her the photo and she said - oh you're not are you? What are you going to do?

I was 35, we had been together 5 years, married for 2. She treated me like I was a knocked up teenager!

ImperfectAlf · 25/04/2015 17:41

FIL.."just make sure it's not a ginger"
Because obviously I would be putting it back Grin

Jenni2legs · 25/04/2015 17:43

I had woken up and taken the test with my first wee of the day. Told DH, then called DS(9) and DD(5) got them in the bed for a cuddle and we told them we were pregnant. DS jumps out of the bed looking horrified, 'what now? you've just done it now?!? you've been sexing?!!!!'. Err, no, about three months ago son Grin
He was very happy once he understood the grossest thing I'd done that morning was pee on a stick (which also got a round of 'ewww's' from both kids).

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