Weirdest reactions when you told people you're pregnant?

[tindel]

As I'm now 17 weeks, I've pretty much told everyone that I'm pregnant. Most people have been lovely about it - even had a couple of people crying because they were so pleased - but two reactions have definitely stood out as being a bit odd and one slightly rude, imo.

First one was when I announced it at my team meeting, which was mainly done over teleconference. After I'd said it, I had people saying their congratulations and then my boss said "Yes, well done Tindel". Well done? For what? Getting knocked up? I know it was meant nicely, but it just seemed a bit weird to be praised in the same way as if I'd finished a work project!

The other one, I'm still not sure if I should have taken offence at. When we went to tell DH's parents, MIL's first reaction was to turn to him and say "And I suppose this is your doing?" FFS, who else would it have been, given that we've been together for more than 10 years?

So share - what has been the weirdest reaction you've had when you've told people you're pregnant?

XP's reaction was to tell me he'd changed his mind about having a baby and that he thought it would be best if I had an abortion.

Needless to say, we are no longer together and my DD and I are doing very nicely without him.

Everybody else was thrilled for me.

My MIL reacted with horror and said 'What would you know about looking after a baby? I'll not be able to sleep with the worry of it'. And she rang my mum to tell her how worried she was. To which my awesome mum said 'sure none of us knew anything about having a baby until we had our own!'.

You'd think from this that we were teenagers but no we were in our 30s and been together for over 10 years.

MIL is a fantastic granny but such a drama queen.

Both my grandfathers asked when we'd be getting married . This probably didn't seem like a weird question to them (I know one of them was married seven months before their first child was born...) but my partner and I are both divorced and have been living together for a few years, we're not going to just go and get married because the baby is on its way.

Various people asked if it was planned. It wasn't actually, but it's none of your business.

My mum said "well done, you clever girl!"

Pregnant with my dd (my only child) and more than one work colleague asked me if it was planned! Maybe not the weirdest reaction but a pretty rude one I thought.

My brother: "So how did that come about then?"

Me & DH: "Erm... In the normal way...?!"

Ha ha, I also got the "well done" one! Didn't quite know how to take that...

I also get lots of concerned "and how are you feeeeeeeling?" accompanied by that pouty, head side-tilt concerned face- especially from women- I expect they're wanting to enter into a game of pregnancy-symptom oneupmanship...I just nod and (honestly) say 'Yeah, feel great! Never felt better! This pregnancy lark is a breeze, isn't it!?" and bounce off.

I can feel the daggers from their eyes stabbing me in the back as I happily skip off.

No odd reactions at my pregnancy, but my DSis, who had the temerity to not marry her DP first, had a few 'is this a happy accident?' and 'so you'll be getting married soon then?' comments from the church-goers in the family. FFS, it's not 1955...

BurningBright, that is horrific. Glad you got away from that nasty piece of work!

Some of these are hilarious, but the ones implying that the DP is not the father make me fume! How can people think that's an acceptable thing to say, even as a supposed joke?

PIL didn't really believe us at first, they asked when we were due and we said 23rd September. Cue lots of 'ooh what a horrible time to have a baby, that's the worst possible birthday etc etc. They thought we had said December. Their maths clearly wasn't great unless they think pregnancies last 12 months and my birthday is near Christmas so yeah I felt good after that

With DD3 my mum said maybe you should take DH to the vet :0

Because of the work colleagues asking if it was planned, I sort of got it into my head that if I was planned and I hadn't told work I was planning it, they'd be annoyed at me for deceiving them. Leading me to announce my pregnancy to my manager by saying 'I'm pregnant. It wasn't planned or anything.'

I don't know why I did that. I feel so embarrassed when I think about it. Plus it was planned! In a 'let's stop using contraception and see what happens' type of way.

"I thought you weren't having anymore?"

(DC3)

More a reaction to my due date (29 August), than being pregnant, but if one more person comments that my child will be the youngest in the school year, I will not be responsible for my actions. "You'd better keep your legs together until 1 September" is another lovely variation on the theme. Because obviously that's how childbirth works.

These are great - I've had a few people asking if it was planned, but asked in a curious way, not a 'was it an accident?' way. I've found it a little nosy, but have taken it in the spirit in which it was intended, as those who have asked have generally been nice people

StrawberryCheese I'm due in early October and I've had a couple of 'good timing' comments. Mainly from my mum who works in a school and my sister who's a December baby! I've had a couple of smirks about what DH and I must have been doing over Christmas, which is always a pleasant topic of conversation

Lorelai tell them they'll be paying 20k more childcare costs than you (or whatever a year of nursery costs where you are) that usually shuts them up.
I had the opposite, DS was born prematurely at the start of September and people that knew what happened still trotted out the school year thing, one even asked if I planned my premature birth because of that. Er no....late October would've been much easier - idiots

DH and myself are 29 and 31, we've been together over 10 years, married for nearly 5 and people have generally spoken to us with the assumption we were TTC since the wedding. Yet, I've still had several people ask if it was planned.

I was also asked by a colleague if DH was happy with it. Well yes he is, but what exactly did he expect me to say if he wasn't. I avoid the guy as much as possible, it's not as if he's a close friend who I would confide in.

Sil when we announced No3, "If you have one more after this one you'll have 4" - showing off her maths maybe

Why can't people get their head around 'congratulations'! Some of these are quite funny though.

2nd time round my mum said 'I guessed' and my mil said 'I had a feeling it was time, so sort of knew'. Way to kill my buzz, guys. It's interesting that they had this intuition since I had actually thought I would stop at dc1 so was a last minute decision for us!

Another person asked if I was trying to be like Angelina Jolie, having loads of kids, on dc2 . I don't have very much in common with ol' Angie, who does? So have no idea where that came from!

"How did that happen?" (DH and I in our thirties and forties, married for several years, both sitting there whnn we told friend I was pg). Well, how do you think?

my PIL: "well, we hope you won't want us to babysit". Rather took the wind out of our sails!! 18 years on and 2 children later, they still don't really get the whole GP thing (not for DH and my kids anyway, sun shines out his DSis' kids arses, but that's a whole other topic...)

Lorelai DS is due on the 1st of September, I understand people making conversation regarding the school year but the number of people who seem to think it will be my choice which side of his due date he is born is quite astounding.

DS (who had been browsing his 'human body' book), nodding sagely:
"Ah yes, a feeetus in an egg shell. Whose tummy is it in again?".

I also got a lot of "was it planned?" which I thought was quite rude. At work I got a lot of "how old are you?"! Been there 5 years now, but they obviously still see me as a young student, and maybe I should be flattered if they think I look young!
Most hurtful was my best friend who I thought would be pleased for me but said totally out of the blue "well you've got everything now". I didn't realise she might have been jealous of me- I've always been jealous of her lifestyle!

I've had the was it planned comment with ds2 from a colleague which I just ignored
My manager said 'oh thank goodness I thought you were going to hand in your notice'!
And mil said 'oh I thought you might be as you went to the toilet as soon as you came in'!! Which is very odd and has made me quite conscious when I go round. We do live a few hours drive away so surely it's not unreasonable to want the bathroom when you get there -pregnant or not!

My due date is 30th August and when I told my brother he said that I'd planned the timings all wrong! OH hopes that the baby will be a couple of days late so that it's one of the oldest in the year at school!