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Anyone else not finding out what they're having?

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HannahB86 · 03/04/2015 20:32

Just want to know out of curiosity really. I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and hubby and I have decided not to find out whether it's a boy or a girl but I seem to be in a minority of people I know who are either having babies or have recently had babies and all found out. For me it's more important tomorrow to see that everything is ok with baby not to know the sex of the baby (if that's the right term??).

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Gemerama · 03/04/2015 20:38

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GoooRooo · 03/04/2015 20:39

I'm not. Second child. Didn't find out with the first and didn't regret it

Hotpotpie · 03/04/2015 20:43

I'm not either, was lovely having no idea with my daughter, even if they didn't tell me when she was born and I had to ask they whipped her away straight away so didn't find out for a while!

youlemming · 03/04/2015 20:52

We didn't find out with our first when most around us knew what they were having. It was lovely to find out on the day with OH looking first and then telling me as the baby was born.
Think people are just so used to controlling everything in their lives that they need to know to get everything prepared but we found it as easy to go neutral.

We are finding out with number 2 but only to help get our first get used to the idea as she's got her heart set on a brother!

ishallnamehimsquishy · 03/04/2015 20:52

Me too.

It's no 3 for us and people seem that I don't like finding out.

crazypuglady · 03/04/2015 20:55

We won't be finding out. I'm 12 weeks with my first and DH and I have always said we would be having a surprise when the time came. I can't wait for DH to be the one to tell me what we've had.

Alyx80 · 03/04/2015 20:59

Didn't find out with any of my 4, the moment they were born and we found out was just magical

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HannahB86 · 03/04/2015 21:01

Yes that is the exact same reaction I get! And it's beginning to get a little annoying lol. My SIL said to me last week "Oh but it's so much easier to prepare if you know what you're having". I felt like saying what so I can't get anything ready just because I don't buy everything in pink or blue. I completely respect people's decision to find out especially with a second or third baby but as it's our first I think not knowing will add that extra bit of excitement when I'm in agony in labour lol.

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seaoflove · 03/04/2015 21:16

I'm not, and this is my second child. I was tempted to find out this time, primarily to figure out whether we would be able to reuse all of DD's clothes, but DH didn't want to find out.

I'm 33 weeks now and glad we don't know. It's just something to really look forward to finding out.

It's definitely unusual though. Pretty much everyone who talks to me about the pregnancy asks if I know the sex. But I get a lot of positive feedback about not knowing

MrsNuckyThompson · 03/04/2015 21:22

I didn't find out and was happy with that decision. I was definitely in the minority in my NCT group and most others I talked to at the time.

Elledouble · 03/04/2015 21:23

We haven't found out. I can understand why people do - I can't wait to find out when we meet our baby - but it just felt right for us. Most of our friends did the same.

Pinksuitcase · 03/04/2015 21:25

We didn't find out with DD and haven't found out this time either, drives me crazy when you see Facebook posts saying 14 weeks until Poppi-mae is here!!

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HannahB86 · 03/04/2015 21:27

It's so nice to hear so many people who have made the same decision as us. I just hope I stick to my guns tomorrow and don't give in to temptation!

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Dreamcatcher1980 · 03/04/2015 21:34

We're not. Didn't find out with no1 and make sure we tell who-ever doing a scan that we don't want to know. When people ask me I say I feel like I'm having an elephant!!!!! I am huge! Do get the and looks but just laugh and say all we want is that it's healthy.

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WindYourBobbinUp · 03/04/2015 21:41

We didn't find out, people thought we were weird but it was a great decision for us. Don't show anyone your scan picture though - not everyone was respectful of our decision and pointed out his boy bits. I wasn't sure they knew what they were talking about but it did take the shine off the surprise a bit!

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HannahB86 · 03/04/2015 21:43

Then I'll make sure to close my eyes in certain parts of the scan.

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ItsADinosaur · 03/04/2015 21:59

Didn't find out with either DC!

Debinaround · 03/04/2015 22:06

We haven't found out. My DH wanted to with our first but I didn't. When I had him my DH loved telling people what we had, his name and weight.

I maybe would have found out this time if he really wanted to but he didn't. He said he loved telling people and can't wait to do it again.

avocadotoast · 03/04/2015 22:53

We haven't found out. I have to go for another scan at 34 weeks so I'm hoping baby doesn't flash anything obvious at us then!

vicky123uk · 03/04/2015 23:58

We aren't. Pregnant with DC3 just had 12 week scan. We did with both previous pregnancys have ds1 who is nearly 5 and then had DD who was stillborn at 36 weeks. This time round all we want is a healthy baby to take home at the end.

Fleurchamp · 04/04/2015 09:02

We're not finding out, seems we are very much in the minority where we live.
Remember to tell the sonographer at the start. I had an extra scan yesterday to check on some fibroids, so not all about the baby, but she still checked the baby over and had to quickly turn the screen away when we told her we didn't want to find out.
She was surprised, said it was the first one this week - and it was Thursday!

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HannahB86 · 04/04/2015 09:13

I think it's such a shame so many people are so desperate to find out. After reading all your comments on here I can't wait now for for hubby to be the one who tells me whether we have a baby boy or girl.

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MishMooshAndMogwai · 04/04/2015 09:21

I did with dd and regretted it but haven't this time and have had nothing but negative feed back! It's waring very thin now and I'm very close to telling the next person to butt out!

No I'm not boring or selfish for not finding out, it's my baby and I want a surprise! So does Dp and so do our dcs! Just because I don't want to be awash with pink or blue doesn't make me ridiculous!

Stick to your guns, op and look forward to that surprise at the end!

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