very scared 9 weeks but just had miscarriage

[coolcat135]

hi guys previousley i had a miscarriage just afore christmas and in 2012 i had a full term stillbirth and lost my preciouse wee boy i am single as was in a domestic violence relationship and have just found out im 9 weeks and my due date is close to the date my son passed and im just so scared i get through these three months and then they dont make it at the end am i being daft anyone else had this experience before as i dunno what to think thanks D xxx

I so sorry for all that you have gone through, your reaction is completely normal

Statsic wise only 1% of babies die after 9 weeks, would it be possible to have an early reassurance scan? I know in your situation that statistics aren't always comforting but sometimes it can help.

Pregnancy after a loss is so much tougher emotionally, do you have an RL life support someone who can attend appointments?
During booking in they will go through your history, so be prepared. But you shouldn't have to constantly repeat your history if you find your midwives/hospital do want you to give a history each visit ask them to write something on your notes to alert them to your losses.
My hospital did this for me and it made appointments so much easire.

I'm due (very soon) right around the same time my DD & DS were due its so bitter sweet I do expect to have a twinge of sadness and for me that's ok too. Having another baby doesn't make the baby that has been lost any less important in your life, its ok to move in a love another baby too.