Already have 2 DS's WHY do people keep saying ' trying for a girl?'

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Am I being over sensitive??
I find this really rude, firstly it's virtually impossible to 'try' for a particular sex, secondly, why, just because I have two boys, would people assume I am desperate for a girl?
I am happy with a boy or girl, and can see the benefits (strange word to use for this i know) in both fitting into our little family.
I am so excited, but comments like 'ooh hopefully it'll be a girl this time' and 'I bet you really want a girl' are really p*ssing me off. I feel like if I have another boy I'll be met with negativity from others.
I know I shouldn't care what others think and unfortunately say out loud but it is hard sometimes.

I don't know, but I have 2 DDs and am expecting third baby. Dreading telling people I am pregnant and starting all the "oh, you'll be hoping for a boy" comments. I'd quite like another girl!

I hear ya! I have 3 DS and people are always asking if the next one will be a girl! NEXT one?! I think 3 is quite enough thank you very much!! As my name says I loveallmyboys and don't crave a girl whatsoever

I know what you mean.

I had a boy and a girl in quick succession, obviously that then meant I shouldn't have anymore. Then I had 2 more daughters and everybody now thinks I'm either:
a) mad for having 5 dc,
b) clearly have more than my fair share, or,
c) need to have a boy just to even out my numbers a bit or make it fair on my DS!!

Damned if you do, damned if you don't in my circumstances! Try to just fob it off. It seems to be the programmed response IME.

Phew glad it's not just me. The MIL (who annoys me anyway) said to my SIL, 'oh well you don't need another baby as you have one of each' SIL said, 'you do know they aren't having another baby for that reason' So true!! We are having a third because we want another child, the sex really isn't important, and actually when you love your boys/or girls so much, how could you not hope for another of what you already have and treasure!
To have a brood of boys is absolutely cool with me, watching them grow up will be amazing fun, and if it's a girl, she'll be well looked after by her brothers.
I am trying to keep calm when I reply to people saying annoying things, but each time I am getting more and more wound up, I may punch someone soon :)
A girl at work actually said 'oh I hope it's not another boy that would be so boring' Oh well for you maybe, but my house is far from boring. She doesn't have any children so probably has no idea how rude that is.

Sorry that should say, now I'm pregnant again everybody thinks...

I really need to proof read!

Not a lot of people know I'm pregnant yet. I'm 15 weeks tomorrow and I'm absolutely dreading everyone saying these things to me too. I have 2 ds and a step ds that lives with us full time. The close family that know about this pregnancy are sending me crazy with pictures of pink booties and frilly dresses. I am happy with either but the pressure I feel to have a girl is horrible. I feel like I'll let everyone down when I tell them it's a boy.

FernGulllys I totally agree, people seem to think they know whats going on in your world, and try to work out why you're having a other and what you might want. So strange, I never overthink other people lives, it is what it is!
Congrats on being pregnant again :)

I also have 3 ds, with my 1st 2 pregnancies I don't hide the fact that I wanted a girl and was quite upset when I found out they were going to be boys. Obviously when they came I couldn't love them any more and love having 2 boys that have a great relationship. Fast forward 4yrs and find I was pregnant again I also had the same comments as you about hoping it's a girl this time etc etc but I can honestly say I was made up to find I was having a 3rd boy. I'm looking forward to when they're older having 3 strapping young men looking after their old mum. Ds3 is 4 weeks old and I'm also getting asked if I'm going to try 1 more time for a girl! Even if there was a 100% guarantee of a girl I wouldn't have any more babies 3 is more than enough for me.

purplerose my thoughts exactly, even though I am super happy either way, I feel like I'll be letting people down, or not giving them something to be so excited about as they've seen it all before. (That is how they have made me feel, I won't feel any less excited whatever the sex). Those thoughts cross my mind for about 1 minute, then I think Bugga Off to them all, as long as we are happy and most people who we care about are happy whatever we have, that's all that matters, people that make ridiculous comments really aren't important enough to make us feel bad.

lexyloub Haha I have said that to my DH, I'll have three lads looking after their Mum, and that would be amazing.
We are stopping at 3 too, I am so excited to find out what we're having so I can get prepared and start the nursery room off etc, we haven't kept much at all so a huge little shopping spree is in order either way :)

Don't let it get you down. I maintained a silence about sex, names, due dates, well everything really with my last one. I get pretty fed up with peoples comments but just be happy that you're confident in yourself.

Mantra:
Who cares if it's another boy?
Who cares what anyone thinks of the names you've picked out?
Who cares if the baby is overdue?
Who flipping cares?!?!?

You will be ecstatically overjoyed whatever happens as long as the baby is healthy.

And thanks. Well done to you too

Ferngully LOVE that!! Who cares indeed :)
I think when we find out the sex we will keep it to ourselves, that way we can choose names in peace etc

Fern, I also avoided conversations about due dates and name choices if I could as I hate all the have you had baby yet?calls/texts and people giving their thoughts on name choices

I am in the same boat

my in laws and anyone one who is everyone wants a girl or says 'third time lucky'

I am actually desperate for another son!

bluebell it's always the bloody in laws isn't it!!

Oh OP I sympathise with you! I am expecting DD5 - have 4DDs and 1DS. I am 20 weeks and so far have told no one - can't bear to hear the 'not another girl, not another one, your poor son, do you not have a tv in your house?' Etc.....

I heard it all the last time with DD4 - why can't people mind their own business?

I love all my DCs regardless if girl or boy - all I pray for in pregnancy is a healthy baby. DH and me are so happy with this surprise baby but it's a shame that others won't feel the joy. Unfortunately I will struggle to keep it quiet for much longer as starting to show

Good for you! I think we will do the same this time.

I always find that people start with it really early as well! "Haven't you had that baby yet?!" No because extraordinarily, I wouldn't be happy giving birth at 34 weeks thank you very much

Another one I hate, "gosh aren't you a size?!" Yes, because I'm growing a human within the confines of my body. Duh!

I actually think it's pretty cool to have three the same, of either sex! Kind of more unusual than two the same or a mixed three.

A bit special.

Good luck OP. Ignore the knuckleheads.

I get the same OP but other way around, I have 2 DD's and I am currently 41+1 with DC3, don't know the sex and I constantly get comments like 'I hope it's a boy for you this time' it really annoys me

Thanks sylvanians knuckleheads LOL!

I'm in the same boat fixup, have two DD's and people assume it's fine to comment on my pregnancy / bump / choices / size of car / anything really.

My work colleagues have all started calling me "fatso" as apparently being pregnant means you are fair game for all sorts of rudeness from people!

I just grit my teeth and tell myself they mean well...

Elloguvnor when they say "hello fatso", you must reply "how's it going, ugly?!"

FernGully I hate the 'haven;t you had the baby' comments just as much, and don't get me started on the 'size' comments, I have a little bump already and the only person so far is the MIL, no surprises there!! She walked in the door looking down at my belly, whilst saying ' ooh already a belly' How rude!!!!!! It's just a little baby bump, and the MIL is short and quite a large lady too, I wouldn't dream of commenting on her 'belly' LOL!! Imagine!!

I have 3 girls, when we fell pregnant with dc4 everyone commented on trying again for the boy, I thought that was annoying till we found out we were having a boy! not only had my careful hand me down system been messed up but people kept telling me in front of my girls how much better boys were. I got quite stroppy about it in the end and people stopped commenting but I feel your pain. I have since had people ask if we will try for a brother for him!