Already have 2 DS's WHY do people keep saying ' trying for a girl?'

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Am I being over sensitive??
I find this really rude, firstly it's virtually impossible to 'try' for a particular sex, secondly, why, just because I have two boys, would people assume I am desperate for a girl?
I am happy with a boy or girl, and can see the benefits (strange word to use for this i know) in both fitting into our little family.
I am so excited, but comments like 'ooh hopefully it'll be a girl this time' and 'I bet you really want a girl' are really p*ssing me off. I feel like if I have another boy I'll be met with negativity from others.
I know I shouldn't care what others think and unfortunately say out loud but it is hard sometimes.

Maybe the only way not to be offended/annoyed by other people is not to go out at all. Ever.
Sorted.

blowinahoolie Well, I don't need to tell them anything, of course - but we do know (we chose to all three times - always seemed weird to me to get such extensive ultrasound pictures of heart valves, tibia etc. and then just fuzz over the genitals, so we let them tell us) and I don't like the idea of either lying to people, or else saying that we know the gender but are not saying. The latter in particular makes it into much more of an issue somehow than it really is. I'm certainly not planning on telling anyone anything - I'm just preparing for how to answer when they inevitably ask.

I also don't volunteer any information about my pregnancy. I'd rather talk about any number of other things, like what my weekend plans are and how I'm getting on with the dissertation I'm trying to write. But since I've been visibly up the duff, no one ever asks me anything that is not pregnancy-related. It's another major grievance.

willnotbetamed I agree totally, It's hard not to talk about it when people ask, and most people are actually lovely about it and have a genuine interest. It's only the minority of rude people who spoil it a little.

emmeline Yep the rude offensive people who can't engage their brains before their mouths open should definitely not go out ever! They are, after all, the minority :)