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Did it take you 6 months or more to conceive?

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JessieMcJessie · 16/03/2015 06:30

Have been ttc for 6 months now with no joy, getting more and more miserable. We've had a few tests and no obvious issues.

I'm curious to know if taking 6 months or more to conceive is actually fairly normal or whether I am already at the point where it's going to mean assisted conception for us. Does anyone have any encouraging stories of taking 6 months or more to get there but getting pregnant naturally in the end?

Thanks.

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Pollaidh · 16/03/2015 20:29

1st time - 2 weeks!
2nd time - 2 months (but ended in mc)
3rd time - 4 months (but ended in mc)
4th time - 3 months.

Early to mid 30s. Diagnosed endometriosis. Used the Zita West trying to conceive book to maximise chances - timing etc. Also both pretty healthy, slim etc.

Gruntbaby · 16/03/2015 20:32

Oh and the natal hypnotherapy people have a 'trying to conceive' cd. Lots of people, myself included, swear by some of their other cds.

shutupaboutstarwars · 16/03/2015 20:47

5 months for ds1 but didn't happen until after we had a talk about how this wasn't going to happen straight away and we should try to relax and enjoy the sex. Month before we were going to start trying with dd, and it was day 9 of my cycle (and there was alcohol involved)Ds2 I was convinced I was pregnant after DTD on day 17 and then think I had early miscarriage . But then did definitely get pregnant the next month. Thought that I was usually very regular but looks like my cycle does some odd things at times

wearenotinkansas · 16/03/2015 21:09

According to my GP at the time 6 months is the average for most women up to and including your late 30's (as I was at the time).

crazycatlady82 · 16/03/2015 21:26

I am 32 and dh is 39. It took me almost 2 flipping years!

I used the clearblue advanced fertility monitor on and off for the last 6 months of that.

My GP had been brilliant and noticed I wasn't using contraception so referred us for assisted fertility in April last year. The appointment came through on the Thursday and I found out I was pregnant on the Monday! Following a weekend of heavy drinking, obviously! The things you do when you 'give up' on the idea of becoming pregnant naturally!

The advanced fertility monitor costs a small fortune and does take the romance out of ttc however I can say hand on heart, that's the reason I am now pregnant.

I am 9+2 so still very early, but very happy to be pregnant. I had also resigned myself to getting a dog and not having children.

My career is also just starting to gain momentum but now I feel I just can't wait to be a Mum!

Clawdy · 16/03/2015 21:39

DS1 - three years.
DS2 - two years
DS3 - six months
DD - complete accident and unplanned! Seems to be no real reason why we tried so long for the first two.

wildpoppy · 16/03/2015 21:41

Two and a half years first time. ten minutes second time. Six months third time.

kayleighferrie1985 · 16/03/2015 21:43

My first 3 pregnancies only took 2-3 months each (dd, mc and ds1). Went on depo injection for 18 months and it took 8 months to fall pregnant with ds2 who sadly was born sleeping last April. Currently 15 weeks with our rainbow, but took just over 6 months. Our rainbow happened the one month i was busy doing other things (December) and we found out on Christmas day- try to stay positive and good luck xx

fannyfanakapan · 16/03/2015 21:48

i could only get pregnant in the spring. I have 2 december and one late november children.

18yearsoftrying · 16/03/2015 21:48

My username says it all.

18 years of fertility treatment.

Good things come to those that wait who have sheer determination and refuse to accept negativity.

Be strong. X

Blondie87 · 16/03/2015 21:56

It took 9 months to conceive- currently 31weeks' pregnant with my first! Wanted to reassure you as I found ttc a difficult experience. Wasn't ovulating regularly, had irregular cycles and found each month it hadn't happened a distressing experience. I remember reaching 6 months and finding that, for some reason, a depressing milestone, thinking it was unusual to take that amount of time. I've since discovered it's completely normal and know of many people for whom 6+ months has been the timeframe. My friend who's a GP said that 15 months is the average, so hopefully you will find that reassuring. Good luck.

BirdInTheRoom · 16/03/2015 22:22

DC3 around 8 or 9 cycles of trying, the last 6 of which were very 'focused' and charted with temp & OPKs!!

DC1&2 just a month or two of trying but was under 35 then.

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JessieMcJessie · 17/03/2015 03:28

Thank you thank you thank you everyone and congratulations to all on your pregnancies. Hearing some of your stories I am now a bit sheepish about feeling that 6 months has been a long time.

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JessieMcJessie · 17/03/2015 04:05

Ooh I have started a "Discussion of the Day"!

Thaks again to everyone for sharing.

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HopefulSmile14 · 17/03/2015 05:58

Hi darling try not to stress I know it's hard it took me 8months with my current pregnancy but we weren't trying when your actively trying it never really works I tried to get pregnant for a year didn't work I forgot all about it and thought it'll happen when were ready and then out the blue there's bfp also it had taken my mom 2years to conceive me after having 3 healthy boys that trying word always does bugger you up!

Honeypot1 · 17/03/2015 08:34

DD1 conceived first "try" when I followed advice from NHS given years earlier when I was getting jabs. DD2 took 3 months when I followed apps and tried to be a bit more scientific.

Lady

Honeypot1 · 17/03/2015 08:38

Aargh, posted too soon!

So, NHS lady said Day 1 is Day 1 of your period. On Day 10 have sex once a day (no more, no less!) for ten days. DH and I took it in turns to seduce each other on alternate nights. I think it worked because DH swimmers were fresh and statistically, one of those days would get me pregnant.

Give it a try and try and have fun (the book 101 nights of Great Sex helped in this area too!)

GoooRooo · 17/03/2015 08:53

It took me 5 years the first time. 18 months the second time (and miscarried) and 8 months this time.

That 5 years were heartbreaking.

I fell pregnant naturally - all three pregnancies.

squizita · 17/03/2015 09:07

1st or 2nd month every time. In my mid 30s last time.

Which I take as the universe balancing out that I've been pregnant at least 4 times but only 1 carried to term.
It took 3 years to have pfb! Thank goodness for what dh refers as his "super speedy sperm". He was most pleased after testing etc!

Boco2 · 17/03/2015 16:32

Hi,

Sorry to hear you're struggling. It took us 8 months the first time and then we had a miscarriage, we're about 10 weeks PG again now after trying again for 6 months. The process is hard but keep your spirits up and make sure you're doing fun things in the background (nice hols, dinners out, nice things from the shops etc). I pushed my GP for a full blood test and it turned out a few of my results weren't good including a borderline underactive thyroid (can cause infertility and miscarriage). I def recommend asking your GP for a full blood profile to check there's nothing wrong including thyroid indicators. Wishing you all the best.

Groovee · 17/03/2015 16:36

Ds took me 9 months to conceive.

lovelyredwine · 18/03/2015 19:19

1st pregnancy- 12 months- ended in mc
2nd pregnancy- 14 months- had dd
3rd pregnancy- 1st month- currently 12 weeks pregnant

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