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Did it take you 6 months or more to conceive?

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JessieMcJessie · 16/03/2015 06:30

Have been ttc for 6 months now with no joy, getting more and more miserable. We've had a few tests and no obvious issues.

I'm curious to know if taking 6 months or more to conceive is actually fairly normal or whether I am already at the point where it's going to mean assisted conception for us. Does anyone have any encouraging stories of taking 6 months or more to get there but getting pregnant naturally in the end?

Thanks.

OP posts:
lovesmycake · 16/03/2015 13:33

12 months till we conceived DS1. It took 15 months to conceive DC2 currently 16 weeks pg.

I am early 30's, nothing wrong that's just how long it took us. It is really really hard. Best of luck.

MadeInChorley · 16/03/2015 13:48

I've never conceived naturally. Many years of DTD, timing, charting, Clear Blue ov testing, temping, then IVF all over a 10 year period starting from when I was 30.

We have 2 DCs (apparently "synthetic children" if you believe certain fashion designers in the news today Hmm)one early MC and an ectopic pregnancy.

glasgowlass · 16/03/2015 13:55

DS1 - 8 Years. Multiple failed fertility treatments. Fell pregnant naturally.
DS2 - 4 Years. Used no form of contraception for all that time. No fertility treatment. Fell pregnant naturally.

JewelFairies · 16/03/2015 14:18

dd1 - 8 years and 5 mc
dd2- 2 years and 2 mc

aphrodites · 16/03/2015 15:03

6 months for our first, almost 4 years and counting on number 2.

Teapot74 · 16/03/2015 15:11

1 year at the age of 27. Found it v hard as everyone else in the family got prey. 1st month :( Got pregnant after having a smear. I swear it helped.

Crumbelina · 16/03/2015 15:19

20 months for number 1 after numerous tests, Clomid and Tamoxifen. I'm only 8 weeks now and hoping that nothing goes wrong!

Still moaning about nausea though ... Hmm

Tftpoo · 16/03/2015 15:22

I was on the depo for a long time. It took 12 months from the last injection before I got pregnant. I do sympathise with you, it felt like forever and we were really starting to think it wouldn't happen for us. I started using OPKs and discovered that I ovulate really late in the cycle. Once we found that out it didn't take long to conceive - and it was twins!

NewMrsX · 16/03/2015 15:46

15 months first time but that was sadly an ectopic.

We had to have a 3 month break before trying again. Currently nearly 6 weeks after 7 months and awaiting a scan to check it's not another ectopic.

I know it's hard to believe but both times I fell pg were the months I had stopped thinking about it and planned holidays etc

yummymango · 16/03/2015 16:03

Yes, first baby took a year (we had a miscarriage during that time), and this pregnancy took several months. Hang in there, I know lots of people who have tried for a year or more but got their bundle of joy in the end. Good luck!

HereComesYourMam · 16/03/2015 16:09

Took us 18 months. Hang on in there OP, and good luck!

LIG1979 · 16/03/2015 16:36

Took 11 months with the 1st and had 2 mcs in this time. This time took 7 months and no mcs. Both times I got pregnant around the time I was starting the testing to figure out why I couldn't get pg! For some people it just isn't an easy road.....

rocketleaf · 16/03/2015 16:40

Over 3 years. We were 'seeing what happened" for far too long. Started fertility investigations, found nothing apart from slightly low sperm count. Started charting, did that for about 6 months then did sperm meets egg and conceived within two months (on the day we were referred for assistance in fact) I'd defo recommend charting/OPKs etc. Find out when you are due to ovulate and have sex every other day in the preceding week. It'd hard! I feel for you, but 6 months is not long at all so don't let it get you down.

teejayem · 16/03/2015 17:35

Am 31, Came off cerazette in feb 2014, took me until late May to have first period, was unsure I was even ovulating (no symptoms etc), found the whole thing very upsetting, felt body wasn't doing what it had supposed to, felt BC pills had ruined me after being on them for 10 years so stepped back & took a bit of a not trying not preventing stance and booked our wedding, and then got my BFP early oct. It's the biggest cliche ever, but we conceived in the month where we didn't dtd when supposed to, DP was out of the UK for nearly the whole month and I had shifted all my attention to wedding as opposed to conceiving. In total it was 9months of trying & I'm Currently 28wks pg with our little boy.

GnomeDePlume · 16/03/2015 17:47

2 years (and a couple of early false starts) for DC1, 2 weeks for DC2 & DC3 just took over.

During those first 2 years we did start to despair. Baby making sex because we were supposed to. We had various tests, we were starting to face the possibility of needing intervention. In a way we had given up. Couldnt believe the BFP.

Second time around we had assumed it would take just as long if not longer.

DC3 was totally an accident. She was born practically clutching the copper coil.

popalot · 16/03/2015 17:48

Yes, then my friend told me to check when I was ovulating and realised I am an 'early ovulator' and we tried at a different time of the month on a different day using the ovulation test and bingo.

WheresItTo · 16/03/2015 17:54

Hang in there! It took over 18 months for DD and around 8 months for DS. I was told that was in the normal range of time to conceive by consultant (who I saw for morning sickness stuff). Hope you have good news very soon!

munki · 16/03/2015 18:04

#1: first month of trying
#2: first month of trying
#3: EIGHTEENTH month of trying

Honestly, I think it is largely random. I wouldn't worry after just 6 months, now you know your ov patterns from the opks I would ditch them and see what happens, and much as I hated it when anyone told me to relax when I had trouble conceiving number three, just relax! I think it does help, as hard as it is to do.

Enjoy 'trying', and cherish your last few months of unbroken sleep, lie-ins, spontaneous nights out, spending money, I could go on....!

Christelle2207 · 16/03/2015 18:18

DS1 -13 cycles and a heck of a lot of DTD/stressing/charting/OPKs and the rest
DS2 -had unprotected sex ONCE.

RockMummy · 16/03/2015 18:44

Another one here who never conceived naturally. 8 years, 6 lots of fertility treatment, and DS (aged 11) conceived through donor eggs, born three months before I was 41. Was not so lucky using the frozen embies but I count my blessing everyday, having one healthy son.

Aquilla · 16/03/2015 18:58

Really recommend the app WomanLog. Worked for us after 4 months for dc1 and then it was 'first time lucky' for dc2.

Sojii · 16/03/2015 19:00

Took us 14 months for me. I know how frustrating it can be. But my doctor said that's quite normal. Don't give up hope. Just try to relax. A holiday works for some. x

TooManyMochas · 16/03/2015 19:06

DC1: Thirteen months of intensive TTCing - vitamin supplements, ovulation sticks, the works
Second time: A week! Sadly that pregnancy ended with a miscarriage at twelve weeks
DC2: Two or three months - I can't even remember exactly

I was 31 when I had DC1 and 34 for DC2.

Jenny1231990 · 16/03/2015 19:25

Stay positive, with my second it took us 18months, it was hard, we thought that there was something wrong with us. I felt like it's all I could think about and was so upset every month.
I finally fell pregnant when I kind of gave up and started planning my engagement party. Our daughter is now 9months old, I fell pregnant when she was three months old with baby number 3,and I feel extremely blessed.

It will happen soon. Goodluck x

Woolyheads · 16/03/2015 20:22

Took about ten seconds. Did it once, for which he apologised, gave birth 8 months and 3 days later. For anyone looking for optimism, we are both older, I had been on the pill for decades and our blood groups are incompatible. Oh, and his medication should have rendered him infertile. Definitely reason to stay positive for those trying.