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just need to offload had early scan

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:31

Hello this thread is purely for off loading purposes as I've no one in rl.
Today I went to a walk in early pregnancy clinic as im preg I thought five weeks ish and having major cramps. They were so marvelous. Did me a scan which showed gestational sac and egg sac all looking good. They've made me an appointment for 2 weeks to check for heartbeat. Thank god for nhs.
I'm in a tricky situation with this pregnancy as im 44, my husband left a while ago and I have also had gynaecological cancer .
Ex h wants abortion. Best friend thinks I should terminate. But..something is telling me to stop and just be for now..i see my cancer consultant this week for a post op check up so I shall ask his advice.
Thanks for listening and again I would say the nhs is amazing. Even though I've had no bleeding they did everything they could to make me feel totally relaxed (wwas worried I might be time wasting)
Thanks for reading x

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:39

Thank you very much that's kind. I have two great dc and im pretty sure this'll be my last chance so...darent tell anyone else in rl because it'll be more negativity !

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PacificDogwood · 08/03/2015 21:43

Aw, that is so lovely to hear that you felt well looked after.

I agree with giving it a little time to let the simple fact of this pregnancy sink in, talk to your doctor about the ins and outs of your options and THEN make a decision.

Gemerama is of course right: it is not up to your exH or your friend to tell you what to do.
Everybody and their dog will have an opinion of course Hmm but the decision is yours, and yours alone.

Wishing you nothing but the best Thanks

PacificDogwood · 08/03/2015 21:43

I was 44 when I had DS4

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:46

Thanks ! I could buy them all flowers they were lovely, from the ward clerk to the nurses and the sonographer.
21 year age gap dc 1 to dc 3 ...
i actually feel very lucky to have the chance even !

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PacificDogwood · 08/03/2015 21:49

A tin of biscuits always goes down well on any ward IME Grin

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:49

How was dc4 @ 44 ? Was the pregnancy straightforward ish? If you don't mind me asking

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Canshopwillshop · 08/03/2015 21:50

You sound like you really want this baby. I wish you luck and a happy, healthy pregnancy.

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:51

Yes will defo take them something next time! I couldn't believe how I took a train spur of the moment and just walked in..They even looked pleased to see me. Lovely people.

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:52

Thanks can. ..yes I do don't I! X

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PacificDogwood · 08/03/2015 21:52

It was absolutely fine: great pregnancy and normal (fast!) delivery on his due date Grin, my 2nd VBAC.
I did have all of mine late (DS1 aged 37) so did not have a big age gap.

Have you told your older children?
Or do you want to wait and see until you know where you are going with this?

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:55

No not told anyone else, I think mainly because it's so early only 6 weeks and my age may be a problem/ cramps was worried re possible miscarriage. If I make it to 8 weeks I will think about telling dc1 he lives away at uni.

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pnutter · 08/03/2015 21:56

That's really good to hear Pacific

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RhiannonElward · 09/03/2015 09:38

OP I wish you the very best of luck with your pregnancy, it sounds like you've earned some luck and you sound so happy to be pregnant it's wonderful. I feel like sending you a tin of biscuits :)

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pnutter · 09/03/2015 09:44

Thank you Rhiannon :-)
Just found out exh has blocked my number so I'm guessing he is out of the equation re any decisions !
So, I'm 44 single (separated) and this baby will be all my own work !

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pnutter · 09/03/2015 10:09

Bless you Gem. Quite scared tbh. Trying not to panic.

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fattymcfatfat · 09/03/2015 10:17

im sure everything will be fine. if it makes a difference my aunt found out she was pregnant and had cervical cancer at the same time. they advised her to terminate so they could start treatment immediately (20 years ago) she refused, had her son then had treatment. she is fine and her DS is fine. she was also in her 40s at the time. good luck

RhiannonElward · 09/03/2015 10:18

Exh might come round, but you have to do what's right for you OP, you can't make decisions like this based on anything but your own personal feelings. If you want this baby then keep it, you can do it on your own. It won't be easy but I don't think it'll be something you'll ever regret :)

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pnutter · 09/03/2015 10:19

Thank you fatty Wink

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pnutter · 09/03/2015 10:20

I'm literally alone no family either so it's daunting. No I don't think anyone ever regrets having a child no matter how hard the circumstances.

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gaggiagirl · 15/03/2015 22:33

Hi pnutter just thought I would drop in with a link to the new October thread here really pleased the scan went well. You are doing brilliantly.

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pnutter · 16/03/2015 00:04

Thanks gaggia. .not doing so well ! Bad sickness and feel shattered!! Also wondering if I will cope single handedly. Just want to do the right thing..
Thanks for remembering me though x

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sandgrown · 16/03/2015 00:10

21 years between DC2 and three and the older ones love him. They are almost like a second set of younger parents. Sure you will have lots of support so make the decision that suits you .