Finally pregnant! Did you really wait until 12weeks to tell everyone?

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It's taken us over a year but we've finally put a (second) bun in the oven! Hurrah! I want to shout it from the rooftops, talk it over constantly, start to plan and prepare and generally be openly happy!

Trouble is, I'm only six weeks pregnant. I know why people wait until the 12 week mark, but did you? And if you have older children (my little boy is three) when did you tell them? We live counties apart from our family so he doesn't see them enough to spill the beans.

Congratulations.

Without wishing to put a downer on things, when my 12 week scan indicated a need for amniocentesis, I was glad my daughters didn't know (all was fine).

That sounds stressful- poor you! I take your point though. I was just wondering if it would be easier to tell him to be gentle with my tummy if he knew.. But you do have a fair point.

I wouldn't tell a child this early. Firstly, it will be very hard for them to deal with if something goes wrong. Obviously the chances of that will be much less if you wait until after 12 weeks to tell him. Secondly, 9 months is a very long time for a 3 year old to wait for something. He won't understand the concept of a baby coming in 9 months time.

I told my parents before 12 weeks as they would have guessed anyway when I didn't drink over Christmas! Also told my best friend. All people who I would tell if something went wrong anyway. Told other friends/family after 12 week scan.

Oh and congratulations

He doesn't need to be particularly gentle at this stage. I would just stick to general stuff about being gentle with others.

I agree - tell some trusted adults if you need to spill.

Pretty much everyone knew by 8 weeks when I was hospitalised eiyh hyperemisis. We hadn't specifically told DS (then 2.4) but he told one of his nursery nurses that I was having another baby so he'd clearly worked it out.

We told parents and our sisters straightaway. i also had to tell my manager.
Everyone else was after the 12w scan.
I'm glad I didn't tell others as the wait for the scan was so long and I was worrying until I saw the baby on the screen. I couldn't handle everyone asking how things were in those weeks

Yep, HG meant that everyone knew by 5wks. Had to tell otherwise they'd worry why I was in hospital hooked up to a drip.

Sorry, meant to add my congratulations.

For a minute there I thought you were Kate Middleton, BikeRun

I'm 15 weeks pregnant and my 3 year old doesn't know yet. I still think it's far too far away for her to wait. She doesn't need to know yet.

Maybe after 20 week scan I will tell her.

With DD1 I accidentally told a friend at 9 weeks, so we also told our parents. Then everyone else at 12 weeks. DD2 we told our parents at 8 weeks after an early scan so that they would babysit DD1 for the next scan. We then told DD1 after the 12 week scan. She was nearly 4 and my DM thought it would be impossible for her to wait that long for a baby to arrive, but she was fine with it.

Congratulations!

We did wait the 12 weeks. With the exception of one friend who I commute to work with and very quickly got wise to my horrendous morning sickness. But even with her once confirmed I asked her not to mention it again until after I'd had the 12 week scan.

I told lots of people, friends, before I was 12 weeks. Not family so much because I'm not all that close to my Mother and she tends to 'announce' for me, like baby births on facebook less than an hour after they've happened, pregnancies etc., so I didn't want her doing that (again).

I told my 4.5 year old that she was getting a baby brother or sister after the twelve week scan for DD2 and it's awful but I actually can't remember when I told her about this baby coming, it's all just gone so fast and in a blur! DD2 isn't even quite two yet so we just casually started talking about the baby in my tummy and things once I got a bump, I still don't think she understands and I'm 39+2 now!

Congratulations on your happy news! xx

After having a mc at 6 weeks back in November I am now almost 11 weeks pregnant and do and I decided to be very selective about who we told so the only people who know are my parents, my boss and my best friend who had guessed anyway. Couldn't bear having to break the news if it happened again and if I'm honest it's been nice keeping it as our little secret, although I'm dying to tell a few more people now!

Congrats OP! I told a few close family and friends before 12 weeks, but only those who we would have gone to for help if something had gone wrong. We did have a bit of a scare (all fine) but I was glad we'd picked carefully at the time.

Congratulations!

I told my parents, best friend and sisters on the day I got a bfp.
Told work at 16 weeks and everyone else (friends and other family at 17 weeks).
Told my parents, best friend and sisters it was twins at 13 weeks (when we found out) and everyone else at 20 weeks.

We told our parents after the 12 week scan, friends and work after the 20 week scan and DS1 when he told me I should eat less as I was getting fat.

We told parents, grand parent (only one left) & our brothers/sisters the day after positive test - all were sworn to secrecy. I told my boss at 5-6 weeks as I had real bad 24/7 sickness so it had an impact on my work. I told 1 friend who was pregnant also so I could get the low down on what happens at appointments etc she is still my rock

I'm 21 weeks and still haven't told people apart from our families no friends know

We told our three year old DS after our 20 wk scan; we waited to find out the gender of the baby so we could say 'you're having a baby --- ' (sister, as it turned out).

We told family, friends and my work after the 12 week scan. We'd had a previous MC at 7 wks, then a baby who was diagnosed with trisomy 13 (patau's syndrome) at the first scan (we TFMR at 14 weeks). With both my successful pregnancies we waited until we got the all clear re T13 before we announced to anyone.

I've just (this morning) got my bfp after 13 months of ttc no.1. I live abroad, and have no intention of telling my family until I go home for a visit in July. So much can still go wrong, and I need to be as certain as I can (at least 20 week scan). I don't want to have to give bad news after good news.

I waited until the week before my 12 week scan to tell parents, then family after scan. I told work when it was noted I seemed to be struggling, bad 24 hr nausea, when I was about 16 weeks. Then we told close friends leading up to 20 weeks. Everyone else has just started to figure it out.

The best advice suggested on here is to tell the people you'd go to for support should anything be wrong. It's not a nice thought that you'd have to share personal information with people you wouldn't normally share with should there be any issues. Sorry to put a downer on things but occasionally things happen.

Saying that, the majority of the time everything is fine - so try to relax and enjoy keeping your little one a secret. Once the word is out everyone shares their irritating very helpful advice in everything from symptoms to childbirth with you . I couldn't have stuck that for 40 weeks!

After mmc in November I have told parents and two close friends, I think couple of others have guessed as have horrendous sickness.