Hypermesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Alright today thanks. But I like weekends. I wake, I eat, i snooze, I drink, I watch telly, I tend to vomit only once or twice.... ask me again tomorrow!

Hope today's a better day blueberry

I will do eallison!! have you taken your docs note in yet??

yeah, took it in on Friday. Went down like a lead balloon. But sod him. My health and baby come first.

today mango is bad. Owch. My stomach hurts!

Hope everyone is feeling ok this weekend :)

I've just weighed myself, and I've lost 3lbs this week (am 19+2 weeks). I feel so ill, think I need to request another sick note tomorrow, as have spent 5 hours in bed since first getting up today. Makes me feel like a failiure!

ealission That boss sounds a pain - I hope he's a women with Hyperemesis in his next life. I'm so glad you got that note.
Penguin You are NOT a failure, you're doing a brilliant job at surviving this and making a baby.
Blueberry How are you know, dare I ask?
elizabethsmum That stomach bug sounds like the last straw.
Meerka I know you've been unwell, and OH - hope you are a lot better; you are always so empathic about others' suffering...

I was glad it was Sunday this morning... Our priest came up to me and hubby this morn and said "I hear you've got good news". Now, we've not told him. I must've looked quizzical, cos he said someone at work had told him, it had "slipped out" but he wouldn't tell me who. The only person it could've been was the head. Similarly, an assistant head asked me on Tuesday "is it common knowledge? Congratulations". I thought that has I hadn't told him, it must be. So many people at work know, and/or are asking me, who I haven't told. I'm really sure that the people I've told as friends won't have told anyone, so I really think that yhe head has told senior leadership and the priest it would seem. I sort of understand him telling senior leadership cos I've been off ill and I suppose it affects operational stuff. But they could've had the decency not to say anything to me til I told them. And there's loose lips somewhere with people asking me if I'm pregnant. I decided I couldn't be bothered denying it, as my scan is a week on Mon and I'm 12 weeks on Thursday, so ill be telling people soon. But it just makes me so angry that more people at work know (some of whom I don't even know their first names -yhe nature of teaching!) than important people in our lives like friends.

If it had been at school when the priest said something, I think I would've gone and shouted at the head.

on the mend thank you, it'll take a couple days yet. Been lucky though, half the Mums at school have had this and it's lasted 2 weeks!

hoping everyone surviving. ealli very glad you got that note in.

And agreed, penguin you are NOT a failure. You're growing a baby with a bad illness attached. Society expects women to just manage but it's completely unrealistic in many aspects. (if men went through this they'd be a lot more sympathetic!)

Eallison - I had a similar thing in the school I work in. It seemed to get out to a few people, despite only my boss knowing. After my 12 week scan, I was planning on telling everyone else who didn't know. I was pulled aside by someone and told not to bother, as everyone already knew. I asked how now everyone knew, not just a few people, and basically, we have our diaries out everyday for briefing etc. In small writing, I had put about my midwife appt later in the day. Someone read it (these things happen) and rather than having some decorum about it, she went and told EVERYONE!
I was fuming, people would go quiet as I walked in the staff room as I was lunchtime gossip etc. I'm still very, very pissed off about it. Yet despite everyone knowing, no one offers to move up on t sofas for me to sit down during briefing....
It wound me up so much, especially as it's a high risk pregnancy, so before the scans, we didn't even know if the baby was healthy, so I didn't want everyone to know!

Sorry, I appear to have gone on a massive, massive rant here...just trying to explain I (sort of) know how you feel!

No penguin, sometimes we need to rant. That's would drive me mad; people knowing but not making allowances like letting you sit down. Luckily I've barely been in, and when I am there I'm not in earlier enough to make it to briefing!

It's just so annoying that it's no longer your news to share, isn't it?
Decided with dh not to go in tomorrow. He doesn't think I'm safe to when I'm so lightheaded and falling over a lot. Going to phone Drs for sick note, and ask for liquid version of iron supplements as the tablets are making things worse. Also have consultant (for me this time, not baby) on Tuesday, so will discuss it all with them then. Just feel so bloody guilty. Been off nearly two weeks now.

I totally get the guilty feeling; I'm rocking it most of the time. I feel like in letting everyone down:work, family, hubby, baby, friends... I know I'm not, but feel like I am, if you know what I mean!?

Glad you're gonna get yourself to docs and try different iron supplements. Remind me, how far along are you?

Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. The rational part of me knows I can't help it, but in my hormonal moments I feel very low. I feel so guilty cos of dh too. He was waiting and waiting for me to feel better in the 'magical' second trimester and I'm worse. I'm 19+2

Tmi question: anyone else notice that they feel more queasy when they need to go to the loo (#2)?

eallslison Never worry about tmi - that 's a side effect of bowels being full, i believe- and it makes things so much worse for the poor women who get bad constipation with the Ondansetron. How are you coping with getting bowels moving with those suppositories, etc?
I feel for both of you about people not showing the courtesy to wait for you to tell them - lol - when one of my workmates threw up into the wastepaper backet every morning at work years ago, I pretended to believe it was a stomach bug till she was ready to say .
Meerka Hugs; take it as easy as you can says Mother Hen.

penguin poor you- I was exactly the same as you with dd1- felt worse in the second trimester- particularly weeks 18-23 and had a couple of admissions around that time unfortunately, bu then did perk up a bit after that. it is so depressing because everyone, not least yourself, feels that you should be somehow 'over it' by now and all you feel is worse. I too felt like a total failure (even though neither of us are!!) big hugs.

eallison how are you today?

meerka hope you on the mend

wave to all

I think cos I'm largely living on tinned peaches I'm doing alright with the constipation; there must be lots of fibre in peaches!

I'm struggling today. Had to leave work after 3 hours after having had 4 vomiting /heaving sessions. There was a particularly dicey moment at the end of a lent service when I was silently willing the priest to hurry up so I could dash to the loo! Feeling useless today. Realised only have enough doses of ondansetron to lat til tomorrow morning, rang the doc and they said they couldn't fit me in til weds. So I cried. And then they said to ring after one. So fingers crossed! I do feel like things are getting worse not better. Trying really hard t o stay positive, but can feel myself slipping into a funk. I think hubby can see it too, cos he's stepping up the compliments and loveliness. He's not normally a complimenty boy!

eallison Don't despair, it takes longer for this to subside than ordinary ms, but even the unlucky minority who have it througout are nothing like as ill later on as they are round your stage. You'll almost certainly feel a lot better, but it does seem endless. I wonder if the tinned peaches would be good as a suggestion for bowels for those suffering there?

Penguin Poor you, I hope it lifts for you soon. It can be delayed until after your stage, so don't despair either.
You shouldn't feel useless at all, as Meerka and elizabethsmum say.
You are doing brilliantly not cracking up. You can feel like it..

Hi all looking for a little bit of reassurance or similar experience, so far my anti sickness tablets seem to be doing the trick. The sickness hasn't disappeared but is definitely more manageable. On to my next woe... Over the weekend I developed a really sore ear, been to the dr's today and it's an infection, he gave me antibiotics (omoxicillan)

So now I'm on two sets of tablets and the guilt if that is the right word is really getting me down. Not sure if it's guilt or disappointment but any experience of how to get over this would be really appreciated because feeling so low can't be good

cluelessdil - poor you- feeling rotten with sickness is one thing but worse whem something else also crops up! glad that your anti emetics are working and making symptoms more manageable. I wish I could report that I enjoyed pregnancy but I have been through two very rough hg pregnancies and so I'm afraid you can guess what the answer is!! (I am not pg now btw- just here for moral support). don't feel guilty about the meds- I was on up to five or six at a time sometimes. they only prescribe anti biotics which are safe to take when pg (I was left to suffer thtough a chest infection once as allergic to penicillin and the alternative was not safe to take in pg so could not be prescribed). it is very isolating to feel like this, particularly when noone else to talk to about it but believe me everyone on this thread has been there so you are not alone.

clueless which meds are you on?

The guilt thing, is it about meds? If you can, please try not to. The fear of meds came from the thalidomide problems which were severe, but seventy years ago now and they woudl never have got through the existing testing. The meds now used are considered safe and all of them have been used for well over a decade, some for much longer.

About amoxycillin, I'm afraid I'm biased: I'm a total fan of the stuff. Doctors prescribed i/v amoxycillin for me for 7 days when I had a uterine infection leading to sepsis. They literally and certainly saved the life of my baby, and there's a good chance they saved mine too.

The feeling low sometimes comes because we are all shown preg as a lovely happy condition. Unfortunately it's not always like that and once you start talking to people, a lot do have horror stories. I think the glowing radiant pregnancy is often a myth and the reality is a lot more chequered for a lot of people.

If you are managing to get through the day and out the other side then it's a success, with HG. It's the sickest many people have been in their lives and it's a shock to adjust to. But it does pass. It really does

blueberry how are you? penguin glad you took today off, rest is one of the few things that helps HG.

ealli hope you managed to get more ondansetron from the doc ...

Getting better here thank you lucinda and eliz'smum :)

No success at my 2 pm phone call, gotta try again at 5. Which is just the best time for me! Hopefully hubby will be home in time to pick up the script.

Thanks elizabethsmum and meerka so kind of you to reply.

Ear is still really sore and I've just been sick but honestly reading that has lifted my spirits. I'm even thinking maybe I should confide in people especially family. I really wanted to wait until the scan - I'm 10 weeks and scan isn't for another 3. DH is really good but I do feel quite isolated which he would be gutted if he knew because he's been so supportive. If internet kind words make me feel much better maybe some kind words in rl from people with experience will do me the world of good. I'm conflicted about that.

meerka I'm on stemetil as well as the mood villain (I tried to type out amoxicillin and predictive text intervened there but mood villain also seems apt!) I know the guilt is irrational I really trust my dr, I think it's just disappointment more than anything that my body isn't some glowing beaming natural pregnancy. I think you are right about the pregnancy myths!

Hi everyone, I have not been on for a few days had to go into the hospital but I have meds now??.

Although as soon is I got home I'm back to square one! Vomiting can't keep good or tablets down.
I think it may be smells in the house setting it off. Anyone else felt this? It sounds crazy but I dismt notice any smells in the hospital and as soon as I got home I can smell everything :/.ay be coz I'm off fluids and IMs.

Welcome clueless, don't feel bad for taking meds if you are better that's better for the baby.

Hope everyone else is well

Clueless, I'm amazed you've not told family already. They've been invaluable knowing, mainly deflecting queries from others.

Goats milk: not recommended. Tastes like goats cheese. Even if you try to turn it into milkshake; cheese taste is stronger than any milkshake powder. Ick ick ick. Maybe it'll be alright making a cheese sauce. Except I can't eat the cheese.