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BFP after IVF anyone scared as I am?

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whittlefish · 21/12/2014 15:10

Recently got a BFP after first IVF and am so happy but was so prepared for failure I'm now a bit scared to get excited thinking something will go wrong. Anyone else going through the same?

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whittlefish · 04/01/2015 17:56

Welcome fluffynut an congratulations. I'm nearly 8 weeks now and still no real morning sickness although in the last few weeks have been feeling more nauseous but find if I eat regularly it helps. I've gone off chocolate a bit but other than that not too bad. I'm a bit gassy too and have acid. I found the scan makes it seem a bit more real I keep looking at the pic to remind me lol

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Pipbin · 04/01/2015 20:06

Hi Cupcakes, I remember you. Good to hear it's worked for you too.

I have had very little morning sickness. I mentioned this to my midwife who said that this is often the case in IVF pregnancys as you get progesterone support.
She said that morning sickness is caused by your body going into overdrive to produce progesterone. As us ladies are already getting progesterone so our bodies aren't going all out to produce it so we get less symptoms.

So, shall we make a list of scan dates.

MuddyWellyNelly · 04/01/2015 22:13

Adding myself to the post-ivf terrified crew. Had 3 unsuccessful own egg rounds and finally a BFP after donor egg. Am 10+5 today. Had first scan at 7+2 and second at 8+5. Now waiting it out until next Thursday for my 12 week scan. Just as terrified for this as the others. However as I've been blessed with almost zero symptoms I'm managing to keep myself distracted with other things. squeezing my boobs and examining the loo roll

Glad we're all as unhinged as each other

joycep · 04/01/2015 23:21

Whittle - your Dh is spot on and my best friend said exactly the same thing to me. I think what I am doing is almost planning for the worst so I'm prepared in case it happens. I allowed myself to get excited in the past and I think I feel I jinxed it so this time my brain is telling me not to believe. It's basically fantasising about catastrophe which clearly is very unhinged! I do need a different strategy quickly!

Fluffy - I had no morning sickness and that was twins. I spent hours googling for people who had had twins and no morning sickness as the doctor had told me to expect to be very sick. I didn't find it very reassuring but having read how some people suffer makes me realise in hindsight I was lucky. Proper retching started about 12 weeks but only if I ate too much sugar or was hungry. Interestingly that was when I came off my progesterone support so perhaps that really is something tondo with it.

Ahh nelly, I squeeze my boobs everyday and still as nervous about going to the loo at 18weeks as I was at 8 weeks! Am I the most unhinged on here...I woukd think yes!

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whittlefish · 05/01/2015 11:37

Hi muddy I think the no symptoms thing def seems to be a theme when on progesterone having said that I'm
back at work today and feel very sick the only thing that helps is food so must be too hungry.

joy is that this pregnancy you are with twins? I am worried when I come off the progesterone it will make me feel worse. I dot think you are deranged I think it's perfectly normal given what we all have been through. I know what you mean about being nervous going to the loo I thought it was only me! I know it's all fine but every time think I might see something that shouldn't be there.

Must stay positive, just keep swimming

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albertgirl · 06/01/2015 00:08

Yup, I'm totally with you all! I'm now 28 wks, #1 IVF, and I didn't relax at all until I got to 12 weeks. I don't think it helped that I didn't have any symptoms or sickness and so it was really hard to believe that it was happening. Also, I think when you've struggled to conceive and then do IVF you know so much more about what can go wrong, because you've read so much about it! It did really help me seeing the 8 wk and 12 wk scans, particularly as I knew that the miscarriage risk drops dramatically after that, but if I'm honest I'm still struggling to believe it's happening, and I've only bought a couple of items so far.

strawberry1202 · 06/01/2015 13:26

Hi everyone, can I join in too? I'm 35 weeks after our first round of ivf, for which I feel very lucky, but still pretty scared. I too had no morning sickness but did start feeling v tired and going off lots of food I liked early on. Unfortunately as the pregnancy has progressed I've found more and more things to worry about, which is apparently normal but surely heightened for those who've struggled. My main thing is the baby's movements, every time I haven't felt it for an hour or so I start to worry and have to go and lie down until it kicks me. This is more manageable now I'm on Mat leave but was a nightmare when I was still at work! Luckily, the baby seems completely unfazed by all of this, happily growing at a rate of knots and showing up completely normal on every test or scan...it's just me that's lost it!

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whittlefish · 06/01/2015 20:54

I know it's a bit of a personal question but has/ did anyone have sex before 12 weeks? I'm a bit scared to do anything although with the progesterone gels it's a bit gross anyway but just wondered if anyone else had the same sorry if too personal

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MuddyWellyNelly · 06/01/2015 21:40

Whittlefish between the 4-times daily pessaries, and the general terror, nope we've not had sex since the day before ET. Mr Nelly is being rather patient.

Joy you aren't the most unhinged at all. We will just share that honour . I'm a little alarmed that I will still be feeling this way at 28 or 35 weeks though. Yikes.

strawberry1202 · 06/01/2015 22:30

We didn't have sex in the first 12 weeks either, both too scared and yes the pessaries weren't exactly conducive!
Muddy don't worry I'm sure you won't be as bad as me. A fair portion of my anxiety has I think come from the fact that my pregnancy has got progressively less straightforward as I've gone along, and ive spent quite a bit of time in hospital, completely unrelated to the ivf...so there is hope. Once I started feeling the baby moving it was a lovely and very comforting feeling.

joycep · 06/01/2015 22:59

Whittle - yes this twin pregnancy I escaped morning sickness. Just retching after 12 weeks but as long as I kept myself well fed I was fine. The loo thing is annoying. I had a heavy bleed at 7weeks which was a horrible shock so I still feel nervy.

Strawberry - I'm sorry you have had difficulties in this pregnancy. But your finishing line is very close now so I hope everything is plain sailing from now on.

And what's sex again? Haven't had it since August! i was advised not to have unprotected sex so I've taken it that one bit further to celibacy. I feel like I have to be a bit careful with the cervix witha twin pregnancy.

FluffyNut · 06/01/2015 23:33

Wow, you all read my mind about sex! I also am terrified it might jolt something and I know I wouldn't relax anyway. Thanks for reassuring me guys, I'm now happy to maintain the celibacy!

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whittlefish · 08/01/2015 12:48

It's funny the things you worry about I'm convinced I'll get to my 12 week scan and there will just be nothing there

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Pipbin · 08/01/2015 23:03

You me both Whittle. When is your scan? Mines the 19th.

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whittlefish · 09/01/2015 07:59

26th so we aren't too far apart I just want to be able to tell people as I'm really struggling with work feeling exhausted and nauseous I'm sure people thinking I'm being lazy but just can't concentrate on work.

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whittlefish · 09/01/2015 09:23

Can I ask does anyone else find it hard to stay full? in starving all the time and struggling to find things to keep me full. Any suggestions?

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Marmot75 · 09/01/2015 12:39

Hello all. I am 7 weeks pregnant after egg donor IVF. Had a scan yesterday and all is well - saw the embryo and a nice fast heart beat :) I'm struggling to believe it's really happening as it's been 3.5 years since we started TTC (we have a 4.5 yo son) and 3 unsuccessful IVF cycles with my own eggs and 2 biochemical pregnancies too. The scan was some reassurance and I'm now allowing myself to use the words 'I'm pregnant'.

Rumplestrumpet · 09/01/2015 13:51

Hi all. Glad to hear we're all doing well (apart from the craziness, but that's ok). Congrats on the positive scan Marmot, use those words - they finally belong to you!!

On the sex, we eventually decided to give it a go at 11+5 and I had sudden red bleeding. It terrified us both and we just cried at the thought that it was all over . It was a huge relief to discover the next day all was well, but DH now swears he doesn't want to try again until after the baby is born! I'm hoping to seduce him ina few weeks (midwife said we should just wait a couple of weeks and it should be ok) but he's adamant it won't happen. I'm always up for a challenge though !

Pipbin · 09/01/2015 18:57

I had my last injection today!
I've been injecting every day since September.

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whittlefish · 09/01/2015 19:03

Blimey rumples that must have been really scary but so pleased all is still ok

pipbin woohoo that's great is it the last of your progesterone?

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Pipbin · 09/01/2015 20:06

It is Whittle. It's just up to nature now.

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whittlefish · 11/01/2015 18:58

Fingers crossed it's all smooth sailing for you

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whittlefish · 13/01/2015 09:11

Has anyone been experiencing nausea? I was smug at the beginning because I wasn't but now feel sick a lot, haven't been sick yet but come very close and it's really getting me down. I seem to be the worst in the evening I'm hungry for dinner then get halfway through and can't finish it then spend 30/40 mins wanting to be sick. Anyone else having this and know when I might end?

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FluffyNut · 13/01/2015 11:19

from my own experience, which is probably different as I'm only 6 weeks, is not to go too long without eating, even if you just eat a rich tea bic or a dry cracker. It stops your stomach acid not having anything to process. don't feel you have to stick to any rules about eating - just nibble away. good luck x

FluffyNut · 14/01/2015 13:39

does anyone else suffer with waking up in the middle of the night- I'm waking in a panic thinking I've forgotten to take my ivf treatment and that I'm a few days late with it.
It's really horrible as for that time I think I've blown it and it'll effect the pregnancy.
also im very windy. not pleasant. today I'm sat at my desk quietly letting little puffs go and feeling so tired! still don't really feel pregnant though, just want to go home and do normal stuff.
Hope everyone is ok, how are you doing joy, you must be showing about now?

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