I think it is very easy to sit at our computers and pass judgment over these people who most of us know only from names on a website. I think that posting your personal life on an internet forum where people in rl can read all about it is incredibly stupid, but I also think that there but for the grace of God go any of us. The internet is a very good place to meet people, and it is also a very easy place to get sucked into situations you potentially would never get into in rl. We get to talk to people over the net that we potentially would never talk to otherwise, and we can also form bonds/relationships with those people without even realizing it sometimes. A flattering comment, a bit of online flirtation can easily lead to email conversations and in time phone conversations. And before you know it you could be meeting up with someone you would never have anticipated. And how many of us come online when our dh?s are out at night just to chat? If a nice guy was on here giving a bit of attention we would surely be flattered by it and then that could lead to a stronger bond ett, I speak from experience, this can happen a lot easier than you might think.
I also think that while the man in question did a very stupid thing, he at least did come back on to try to get it all to stop last night, whereas the woman in question posted the threads and then sat back and watched the fall out. She knew what she was doing, but I don?t think he knew what he had got involved with. Yes he was stupid, yes he was outed, but we all make mistakes, and we all have the right to put them right without them being transmitted across syber space. He chose to do what he did, but he didn?t choose to be outed on a public forum. You don?t have to feel sorry for him for what he did, but he at least deserves some sympathy for the way he was outed.