36 weeks, exhausted and coping with toddler!

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Anyone got any tips for coping with a toddler when you are in late pregnancy and soooo tired you feel like you could fall asleep on your feet?

Ah, 40+6. Trying really hard to be zen and accepting. Had a half hour stand off with the toddler today over drinking a glass of water (she's on some kind of self imposed drought, no idea why) which was fun, it was very hard to keep my crazy hormonal emotions under control. In many ways my emotional control is similar to hers right now.

Good luck with the party tomorrow weebairn. We have now run out of plans, as we had pretty much assumed we would have the newborn by now. Next thing in the calendar is MW appt on Monday am. Am pinning all my hopes on another sweep...

Yeah I don't think I have any plans after Friday (40+3) … wail

It is hard to explain to people who haven't been pregnant or who haven't gone overdue exactly what happens to time after 40 weeks… like sci fi

Sorry about the standoff Ms Sampson. I have similar. Though toddler has been angelic today (and sleeping better this week). I have still cried for no reason! Trying to just read a lot of novels when DP insists I lie down and pretend I'm not pregnant. Next midwife appt is 40+1 and I just don't even want to go!

You probably don't even need another sweep. 98% of women will go into labour naturally before 42 weeks. So tomorrow you have a 14% chance of labouring, and the next day a 16% chance, and the next a 20% chance, and the next a 25% chance, and the next a 33% chance, and the next a 50% chance, and the next a 98% chance! (My stats might not quite be right but the concept cheers me up.) xx

I remember last time spending ages googling for a distribution curve of delivery dates vs EDD! Very hard to come by - as are most pregnancy stats. I work in research so constantly find lack of numbers v frustrating. Ideally I'd like the curve for first vs subsequent children! But that possibly makes me a bit sad...

In the absence of that thanks for your stats weebairn. The 98% is particularly comforting.

Oh, I just googled again, and found this -

spacefem.com/pregnant/due.php?use=EDD&m=09&d=21&y=14

The real stats are actually more depressing than yours :( I wish I hadn't done it now!

Lol glad I'm not the only one....

Not sure I believe that link though, surely more people go overdue than don't, so the 50% by due date can't be right? Unless that's just first time mums I'm thinking of. I swear my midwife told me last time that the average for a first time mum was 41+3!!! Don't have any proper sources sorry!!

It's enough to drive you a bit crazy. Hope you can make done nice plans for next week, and then go into labour tonight anyway xxxx

Yes, all the data I found showed a fairly standard bell curve, centered on 40 weeks. The 92% by 42 weeks spontaneous stat, and alarmingly long tail scared me though, so I stopped looking.
I might go for a less scientific approach of booking a massage for Tuesday instead Maybe a non refundable deposit would do it??

were you induced last time? how was it?

I only went 5 days over (well delivered in early hours of 40+5, went into labour late on 40+3) and I swear time stopped!!

Yep - reported reduced movement at +8, was then on a clock and told increasing risk, so was induced at +10, gave birth +11. I had started having mild contractions on morning of +10 though, as well as a show, and went into pretty quick labour very soon after pessary, so I suspect I would have gone naturally around the same time. It was OK, but induction meant monitoring which meant not being able to use pool or midwife led unit. I REALLY want to avoid it this time if possible. Both mum and sister went 10+ days over with first children, and +4 or 5 with second, so I was hoping for it slightly sooner myself...
But yes, the last week has gone on forever. And although it might seem like I am joking about feeling like I am never going to give birth, it has actually begun to feel like that.

I feel like I know what you mean though don't really have any right to say that as not quite at due date yet. Couldn't sleep last night and can't stop crying today. Dd was up at 5am... Birthday party shortly and if anyone says anything about how huge I am I will probably just cry again. Been having period pains and cramps on and off for 2 weeks now and just can't believe it will ever amount to anything now.

Yesterday was my own due date (scan changed it to Tuesday) so maybe I was just a bit subconsciously hopeful last night. And have heard so many jokes about how planning a party will definitely make me go into labour. Meh.

Am shutting the curtains and going to try and just sleep a bit while she's napping.

I've had a pointless row with DH and am getting really hacked off with a friend who keeps volunteering helpful tips about setting off labour, so I know where you are coming from re mood... And I was like this pre due date, I'm sure.
Hope the party goes well, and you don't get too many annoying comments about bump size or similar. Although I'm not sure what the right thing to say to me would be right now!

I might turn my phone off if i go overdue again. I did last time. The last straw was when my landlady rang me at 10pm because my car wasn't at the house snd she "was worried". I was at my mum's having tea. Grrrrrr and off went the phone.

Ah, but then how will you check mumsnet when you're out and about?!

(having said that, I've just ignored a call from my parents. I just don't have the strength...)

Haha that is a problem. I'll just have to go to wifi cafes with the tablet!!

Eurgh. Every little beep of your phone just makes your heart sink.

Party DONE! DD was thrilled so that made it all worthwhile. 11 kids and 15 adults, I am shattered!!

My mates were mostly lovely and told me I looked great (lies) and not big at all considering and was doing brilliantly for hosting. Not that I did that much, DP cleaned the flat this morning, I made my brother clean up afterwards, and have kept my mum behind to look after DD while I lie down now!

2 of my mates did say "it could still be 2 weeks mind" - SHUT UP!

MrsSampson arrrrgh the how to induce labour tips!! THEY DO NOTHING or no one would have to be induced! FUCK OFF!

I managed a trip out to the shops on friday to stock up dds painting supplies so our daily routine has been (and will continue to be!) painting after breakfast - messy as she likes! Then into a nice long bubble bath til close to lunchtime. Bit of telly then naps all round.

Have the dreaded blooming pregnancy piles now too so am just so keen to stay still! Cannot waot for this pregnancy to be over.

My lovely friend had a baby today (she was 40+13!) and he is the cutest looking little cherub and she looks amazing in the photo! I just want mine here now tooooooo.

Lol weebairn sounds like you nailed the art of delegation! Well done though that's really impressive.

Argh think that's good for her but i'm so jealous haha. I'm not even 40 weeks yet sods law i go as overdue as is humanly possible. Oh and high 5 piles twin. I have had them since about 32 weeks i think!

Just gone to +1 with dc2, had cramps for a few weeks that don't go anywhere, bit despondent I'll go into labour naturally, I didn't with dc1. Just can't see anything ramping up and supposed to avoid induction this time...

40+13! I'm not sure I'd have any friends or family still talking to me by then, I'm being a bit, ahem, snippy with them at the moment. ...
Nice work on the party weebairn. And I'm glad to have found a fellow raspberry leaf tea sceptic. Having said that I'm foolishly now pinning my hopes on today's second sweep. 9.30, wish me luck!

Ms she has been an absoloute trouper! She travelled 300 miles each way at 40+6 to attend a family wedding and was very pragmatic about it all - if I go into labour there, fine, they have hospitals there! Meanwhile im spending 80 percent of my awake time on the couch watching Ben and Holly with Dd

If I get to 40+13 I'm pretty sure I won't speak to ANYONE. hah. Good on her!

Good luck with your sweep MsSampson! And yes even though I am skeptical of everything, I'm still taking raspberry leaf tablets - well it can't hurt! I had a long labour last time but a pretty short and relatively easy 2nd stage so maybe they helped??? I'll probably have a sweep at 41 weeks too - probably. But I'm not going to eat any sodding pineapple… and I do long walks and sex all the time anyway (not with any great speed or skill any more!)

Slept better last night and feel a bit more relaxed and would just like to come by the weekend, if possible, please baby… Have sent DD to nursery today and am going to read novels and drink nice tea.

39+6

If I get to 40+13 I might start drinking!! (I am only joking of course, apparently alcohol is a labour retardant )

Very impressed by your friend think. She's a better woman than me. I don't think I even left the house yesterday (what's worrying is I can't remember?)

Already on episode 2 of Topsy and Tim. It's going to be a long day!

I have been drinking throughout the 3rd trimester…

Not a lot, but pretty often !!

when I said drinking, I meant drinking in earnest! One of my best pregnancy moments came when I found some sparkling wine in Lidl's new French range that's only 7.5%, so I can drink two glasses and feel celebratory... (it's a bit sweet, but whatever...)

Yeah I am so over having one glass and then feeling a bit bad about it even though my logical brain tells me one glass is fine, studiously avoiding google telling me a sniff of alcohol will damage my child forever, and then doing it again 2 days later.

I am pleased to note a bottle of champagne has quietly appeared on top of one of our cupboards, good old DP, I'll be having some of that after birth!! and then presumably keeling over as not used to drinking properly any more