feeling really low about being pregnant

[milkyman]

I am 4wks, have a 22mth ds who was conceived on clomid, I have pcos. Never thought I'd get pregnant on one night . I hated pregnancy and the newborn stage, I had pnd after a horrfic birth. I cant do it all again. I am 39, happily married, solvent etc.. I should be happy I know but I'm desparately sad.

Your pregnancy has come as a shock so take some time to get used to the idea and come to terms with everything. Make an appointment with your gp and discuss your options and see what support systems are on offer to you. The Family Planning Association may also be able to offer you support and advice. Be honest with your dh too, he needs to be aware of how you are feeling. It's early days so try to stay calm and don't be too hard on yourself, things will get better.

Remember that every experience will be different. I would go to someone for some advice and support

Every pregnancy and labour is different. I understand why you are hesitant about going through it all again. Can you get some support and advice? I have no idea who you would ask though. Perhaps start at your GP?

I really hope you feel better about it soon but I understand how much of a shock this must be. And confusing, conflicting emotions as well. If you're continuing with the pregnancy then it might be worth discussing how you're feeling with a therapist or starting with your GP as red suggests?

Congratulations and good luck in equal measures.
xx

Go easy on yourself. Don't tell yourself "I should be happy", as if you don't have a right to feel anything else... You have every right to feel what you feel about the pregnancy. Talk to your GP and explain how you feel - if you think you won't be able to talk about it, try writing it down and handing it over for him/her to read.

And give it time - you may feel differently as time passes. Not every birth is horrific - there are lots of things they can do if you're especially anxious about it. I was offered an elective c-section due to anxiety (in the end I had an epidural and it was all a really positive, calm experience, sooooo far removed from what I was expecting!).

Just keep talking to people who will listen.

Thank you, can't get a gp appt. Have made an appt at family planning clinic. Can't cope with my toddler at the moment how would I cope with a newborn. Was happy a month ago, one stupid mistake, all I do is cry. I just want to drive away and never stop. Its like all the feelings I supressed 2yrs ago are flooding back.

Bump

I hope the family planning association will be of help to you, it is tough in the beginning juggling a toddler& new born but once you settle in a routine it would get easier. If you go ahead with the pegnancy you could think about getting someone in to help out at the start until you feel able to cope. Everyone struggles at some point so don't push yourself too hard, weigh up your options and don't make any impulse decisions. Do what's right for you& your family

How are you feeling Op? Did you go to your meeting at the family planning clinic?