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I can't believe they said...

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NinjaPanda34 · 15/08/2014 14:59

MIL on finding out we were having twins said... "I don't want to worry you, but I know someone who had twin boys and they both turned out to be gay" WTactualF?!

What are some of the howlers that you've heard been thrust upon you

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Pico2 · 15/08/2014 20:43

Not rude or anything, but in the same conversation my mum said "I didn't think you would" about having more children. And "I thought you might be" about me being pregnant. She often has completely contradictory opinions, it helps her to be right all the time.

ColdTeaAgain · 15/08/2014 20:51

Did she think there was a connection with them being twins and gay or something? The mind boggles!

prettywhiteguitar · 15/08/2014 20:55

Oh and when I told my mum I was pregnant this time she said on I thought you were, you definitely had a stomach.

Well Mother the last time I saw you I hadn't even conceived the baby so how could I ?????

God they just can't be wrong

prettywhiteguitar · 15/08/2014 20:58

I wouldn't mind but I've been running and doing crossfit so have the flattest stomach I've had for a long time !!

micah · 15/08/2014 21:01

junk food addict- it is actually technically possible for identical twins to be boy/girl.

If an embryo is XXY (known as Klinefelters syndrome), then separates into one XX embryo and one XY. All chromosomes are identical except the Y.

Very rare. But possible :).

I have had "well you haven't got long to do something about it if you don't want it" - my mother, on me telling her I was expecting her first grandchild.

On expecting DD2- will you try for a boy if it's another girl?

MyPandaisasecretmonster · 15/08/2014 21:03

Just last week when I told my 'D'm that I was pregnant "You do know it will be ugly don't you"

She also said - "Why on earth have you gotten yourself in to this mess"

tbh I haven't a clue what she is on about as I'm 26 & me and Dp have been together 8 years

prettywhiteguitar · 15/08/2014 21:04

People are obsessed with gender aren't they, I'm always just terrified there's something wrong I don't think twice about caring whether they're a boy or girl

trying2bcalm · 15/08/2014 21:05

3 weeks after having an emcs with my daughter, my husband's nan asked me if I was sure they hadn't left one in there - pointing at my tummy. If she wasn't 92 and known for being a right you know what, I would have thumped her!

prettywhiteguitar · 15/08/2014 21:05

My panda am she sounds as cra cra as my mum

MyPandaisasecretmonster · 15/08/2014 21:10

Pretty I wish she were crazy but she really isn't , just can be a complete cow and I can't put it down to her age/ways etc as she is only bloody 48 Grrr

FreeSpirit89 · 15/08/2014 21:16

The only one I had was a text from ex SIL asking my ex if "Has she had her baby yet?" I was

Oh and ex MIL said that ex couldn't possibly be the father because DH looked identical to me when I was born.

squizita · 15/08/2014 21:30

I got told my dyed hair would upset my future pfb and I should tone it down. Not grow it out, just dye it a more suitably mumsy colour.

prettywhiteguitar · 15/08/2014 21:32

Humm yes sounds familiar I think it's just easier for me to think mine has something wrong with her, rather than just being an absolute cow

DownstairsMixUp · 15/08/2014 21:33

Oh yeah, when I announced I was having another boy, a lady I served at work said, "Oh you must be so dissapointed. At least you can try again as your still young" I said no I won't be, two is enough!

woodwaj · 15/08/2014 22:13

My OH is generally a quiet person. When we announced ours a few friends asked how he took the news...well he was there for the conception and we were trying for 2 years so pretty well!!

Alb1 · 15/08/2014 22:22

I had a customer at work tonight say to me as a slim female walked past us 'Ooo I bet your looking at her thinking 'I might get to be nearly that thin one day soon' I responded actually I'm concentrating on my pregnancy and not
My weight right now! I'm 25, 5ft6, 12 stone and 38 weeks pregnant, so a very healthy weight for someone at my age and stage in pregnancy, the way the woman said it like that should be my main goal made me angry... And fat

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NinjaPanda34 · 15/08/2014 22:28

The number of people who are now twin experts is astounding me!! I have been told countless times now that once we've had them, then it should be job done, as I'll probably have another set after that. Everyone's got a fcuking opinion. And breathe...

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Devora · 15/08/2014 22:42

With dd1, the main reaction was amazement or hilarity, followed by quite incredibly impertinent questions on the mechanics of conception. I am gay. I thought often that if just one person congratulated me BEFORE asking me how it happened, I would be a happy woman.

dd1 is adopted, and people mainly ask if she is from abroad, what I know about the birth family, and then they tell me all the adoptive families they have known whose children ended up burning them in their beds...

nerdsgirl · 15/08/2014 22:43

I have identical twin siblings, and both are gay - so what! Sexual preference has sod all to do with what happened or who you were with in the womb, haha what a crock of shiz.

I've been asked 'was it planned', sigh.
I've also been asked am I excited that i'm going to have a 'ginger baby', seriously the amount of times i've felt like saying would it matter if the father were black, albino or martian.

Ellisisland · 16/08/2014 07:30

Some of these are unbelievable

The ones that get me are gender questions. Have been asked countless times at work 'you will be wanting a girl then?' As I have DS already. Found out yesterday that I am having a boy and couldn't be happier (either way would have been fine) and I just know whenever we tell people I am going to get the whole 'maybe a girl next time' response

prettywhiteguitar · 16/08/2014 08:26

My god Devora that really boils my piss, how can people be so bloody rude ???

squizita · 16/08/2014 08:36

Alb I got the opposite: basically told I would be a fat drab for the rest of my life and how would I handle that (fake sympathy). Mm yeah because no one has ever had a baby then looked just fine a few months after ... and of course I'm such a shallow notch that having to buy the next size up of jeans or having bigger eyebags will be akin to turning into a decrepit hag and I won't cope. Most of my mates have kids and look perfectly presented!

AntiDistinctlyMinty · 16/08/2014 08:46

We have two DS's and I must have been asked fifty times when we'll be 'trying for a girl'. As if DS2 is somehow deficient, or less valuable, by being a boy. Grrrr!

After DS1 was born, someone at work asked me who our donor was. I politely asked what she meant (thinking they might have confused us with someone else, or been talking about money or something) and she said she'd assumed DS was conceived with donor sperm because he was blond with blue eyes and she knows for a fact that my DH is dark. She'd completely failed to take into account the fact that I have blue eyes and fair hair

LittleBearPad · 16/08/2014 08:55

People are sooo rude.

DH sent a pic of DD round to some friends in his office when he went back after paternity leave. One replied saying 'well at least you know she's yours'.

DD did look like DH then but I'd like to think that was a given.

squizita · 16/08/2014 09:01

Anti but everyone knows MAN DNA is mightier than mere lady DNA!

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