My hubby2b applied for the prison service last december we knew it could take months and carried on regardless well I got pregnant dd due 18/8/14 and tonight about 5 mins ago my h2b has got his start date 14th july! This is great news financially but I was kinda hoping it would be after dd had arrived, he has to do 2 weeks away training in rugby and me being a tad poorly with this one and coping with a unruly 3 year old leaves me cacking my granny pants sumwhat! And it also leaving it periously close to due date by ecs. I know paternity leave is out the window but he didn't have any when ds was born as he had only been in that job 4 weeks,he says jokingly I'm only being fair lol can't have time off with one and not other, I told my mum tonight and she went nuts but I know if he defers etc he will lose the job, 4 years ago I made him choose job or house and he gave up his job of a lifetime all be it seasonal for a rented house so I dnt want him to choose again, any ideas how I can cope without crackin open a large gin and tonic