Negative comments about weight gain

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Hi all, this is my first ever post although I'm a long term lurker! I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant and all is well so far but I've been really upset by something a family member said last night and just need some advice on letting it go!

I've always been a little bit overweight and struggled to maintain a size 12. I have overindulged a bit this pregnancy (my first) and already put on 24lbs! Last night my family met up for dinner, there was about 9 of us and as I got up from the table to go to the loo my aunt loudly said 'oh my God, even your bum has gotten big, its huge!' She kept going on about it and finally I tried to laugh it off and walked away from the table to the bathroom, whereby she pointed at me and kept saying to everyone 'look at it! Look at it its so big!' My heart just plummeted. Once out of the room I could hear my DB and SIL telling her to stop it but I feel so humiliated. I've tried to brush it off but I feel so ashamed of myself and my body Just looking for any tips on stopping myself dwelling on this and how you deal with comments like that? (If anyone else even gets comments like that!)

Oh and maybe some tips on defeating carb cravings in pregnancy??

I do feel bullied by her but I don't think she means to be cruel (hopeful?), she's just really insensitive and blunt. But... I have decided my retort if she does it again, i'm going to say it must be genetic as all the women in our family are fat, aren't we?

I do hope my weight gain slows down, I just find my energy levels drop if I try to cut out carbs and I get really moody and end up crashing and panic snacking on bagels slathered in peanut butter! I'm naturally quite hard on myself anyway but really want to enjoy this experience so going to try and give myself a break and focus on keeping me and baby healthy!

I'm really sorry everyone has had all these negative comments, about both small and big bumps/bums! Its 9 months of being public property essentially, sigh.

That's great ohthegoats! I guess sometimes people are just genuinely interested in the process of it all, glad your dad took it on board when you spoke to him after your counselling

Just to make you feel better ive put on nearly two stone lol and i really dont care tbh. I. Not huge but you can tell as i was a slim 10-12 lol now a 14 :) and ive struggled but managed to get those negative thoughts about hiw i look and weight gain out my head as i used to have an eating disorder.