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Following on from my shall I or shan't I find out thread.......I had my 21 week scan today and......

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LadyTophamHatt · 30/08/2006 14:32

who wants to know then??

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SherlockLGJ · 30/08/2006 14:43

Why did you cry ?

MarsLady · 30/08/2006 14:43

Congrats!

MrsFio · 30/08/2006 14:43
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LucyJones · 30/08/2006 14:43

congratulations Will this be number 4 then? Just think you'll have all these men looking out for you in years to come

fireflyfairy2 · 30/08/2006 14:44

Oh and all the DIL's!!! You'll have years to read up and practice the bitchy remarks

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LadyTophamHatt · 30/08/2006 14:45

yes the main thing is everything was fine, baby doing all the things as per text book 21 week baby should.

I was/am sad at the little girl I'll never have but that why I had to find out now. I just couldn't feel dissappointed with a newborn boy atthe birth, it would have felt so wrong.

I'm fine now, no more tears....just feeling a little fuzzy around the edges.

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magnolia1 · 30/08/2006 14:46

Congratulations hun xxxxxxxx

we need to start meeting up and swapping kids

Pinkchampagne · 30/08/2006 14:46

Congratulations on your baby boy.

HappyMumof2 · 30/08/2006 14:46

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Scoobydooooo · 30/08/2006 14:47

Awww LTH congrats on another gorgeous baby boy, i am soo glad you found out so that you can get your head round the idea of another boy, Anyway they may be wrong so you may still have a pink one

dejags · 30/08/2006 14:48

Congratulations LTH.

Not surprised you had a cry. I have two boys and even though I'll be delighted to fall pregnant again and be grateful for whatever sex we get, I am not so secretly hoping for a little girl. Yet a little boy will be a blessing too iyswim?

I think that's a normal reaction, but there's nothing for it. You sound like a fab mum to your kids and your newest little boy will be lucky to have a lovely mum like you.

dejags
x

PS bugger about the names though - best you get those baby books out.

dejags · 30/08/2006 14:49

I meant to add a big in after that congratulations by the way.

PeachyClairHasBadHair · 30/08/2006 15:22

Can imagine how you feel, like I did when I found out about ds3 only even more so i would guess.

personally i found knowing helped me to bond with Ds3 reallye arly, and he and I have the most amazing relationship now. By the time he arrived I was completely prepared for the blue scheme, and just looking forwards to him, you know? having a name to call him by early on also helped personify him i think.

Hugs, LTH. Still jealous of you

FoghornLeghorn · 30/08/2006 15:24

I am not surprised you had a little cry LTH, I;m sure most people in your position would secretly have a little hope of having a girl.
At least you know now, it is for the best and now you get on falling in love with your beautiful little boy. Much better to find out now.

Congratulations
Did DH want to know too in the end ?

fattieSlapper · 30/08/2006 15:25

Aww just think how much easier it will be and the fact that they can share so much easier.

still not convinced? have my DD for the day...you will hand her back wit a smile on yoru face and the remark....give me a boy anytime!

Gobbledigook · 30/08/2006 15:26

Awwww LTH! Congratulations! Another little boy is fabulous! On my life, if I was to have a 4th I'd love another boy - a little gang of 4 boys would be fab!

I know what you mean about 'mourning' the girl you won't have but ds4 will not be loved any less and it will be brilliant fun (if not a bit noisy!).

x

Gobbledigook · 30/08/2006 15:29

It's strange because I was convinced ds3 was a girl because I was smaller than with previous pg. I didn't find out he was a boy until he was born and I didn't feel a jot of disappointment. It was at his birth that I felt most elated (compared to the previous 2) and I bonded with him immediately. He's still a real mummy's boy and I wouldn't swap him for the world.

I think the day after his birth it kind of hit me I wouldn't be a mother of the bride and all that kind of crap but it didn't last long - you know you'll be the same - you'll love him to little bits once he is here.

hermykne · 30/08/2006 15:31

ladytopham - its quite brave of you to admit how you're feeling, now u have 19weeks to get to know him, it'll be a great wee team

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LadyTophamHatt · 30/08/2006 15:42

Thanks girls.
I don't feel so teary now and I'm very glad I found out.

I know this sounds ridiculous but I have such a hard time with the Ds's, with them ignoring me, arguing all the time, never doing as they are told, interupting, answering back etc etc bloody etc that in my mind "my little girl" was going to make it all different.
She was going to be a sweet little thing who would alway listen to me, never ignore me and was just a perfect little thing.

She was going to make it all different.

Now I know that boy or girl they aren't going to be perfectly behaved and with 3 big brothers she would have been lead astray and be just as....well...naughty.
Just in my mind it was all different, thats what made me cry....not having that differnet child.
And yes GDK...the mother of teh bride thing was there too.

Mad isn't it??

It'll be fine once he's here, i'll be able to savour every second of him and enjoy him from the start and at least I know what I'm doing with boys (even if i can't get them to listen etc), cleaning a poo-y girls nappy always makes me feel slightly ill. Ewww all those grooves to get the poo out of.....ewwwww.

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CheesyFeet · 30/08/2006 15:52

Congrats LTH

I'm not surprised you had a cry tbh.

Sounds like you've got it all sorted in your head already though.

Look forward to posting on your birth announcement thread though!

I take it your dh knows (iirc from your first thread he didn't want to know and you weren't going to tell us if he didn't know)

CheesyFeet · 30/08/2006 15:53

Preview cheesy then you won't write tripe.

Too many thoughs and terrible grammar. Sorry

CountessDracula · 30/08/2006 15:57

Oh lth but hahahahaha at little girls being sweet and perfect Shall I lend you mine for the day to put you right?

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domestickler · 30/08/2006 16:07

my boy is way easier than my girl

congrats on your little boy.

Totally understand where your coming from about girl too.

I have a girl but may also not be mother of the bride!