IVF Graduates - A place for pregnancy menkulling

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A chat thread for those who have conceived via assisted conception.

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Thanks time, some of those kits look great although very much above my patience and skill level I think! Agree with you and moggle that it is nice to have our own babies to make for - I am another one who has made things over the years for other people's children. Always been happy to do so, but so lovely to be able to do it for my baby now. I just need to start things as opposed to talking about starting them....

General question to all of you...where are you on the buying of baby stuff? I have been looking online a bit and we have been given a few bits and pieces, but we haven't actually bought anything yet. I'm 24 weeks, so I know we have plenty of time (in theory), although time seems to be speeding up after the dragging slowness of the first trimester.

It could be simply the fact that our spare room is currently full of junk that needs sorting out before it becomes baby's room or the fact that we're not going to find out the sex and I want to wait and buy some non unisex stuff once the baby is born.....but I just find myself holding back on buying things. Anyone else?

time that sounds tough, but you have some great projects on your list and some great ideas from the other posters. You must be at 24 weeks now, which is a great point to reach.

hatteras I was holding back, but the news from the 28 week scan about possibly having a premmie sent us in to panic buying mode. In the last fortnight we have bought or at least ordered pretty much everything. I'm working from home tomorrow to wait in for a big delivery - buggy, car seat and isofix base. The carrycot arrived today. We have a good variety of clothes for the baby (although in newborn size which might be too big) and a selection of hospital bits for me.

I had a growth scan yesterday and centime has picked up (25th centile which is the same as the 20 week scan, rather than 3rd at the 28 week scan ). However, the blood pressure is now off the scale high in the umbilical cord (when it was fine before) so I am scheduled for weekly monitoring and probably heading for an early section, which I am very unhappy about. I think I saw a natural delivery as a way to get "closure" over the very medicalised conception, which I hated. I know the main thing is to get centime here safely, but I can't be happy about this. I really, really, really hate hospitals. To the extent that I am shaking when someone talks to me about a section.

Oh euro that sounds tough,

I am having a section, but after a terrible natural birth with my first son, I am rather relieved about it.

Good news that your bubs has picked up on the growth scale this week, but a shame that the blood pressure is high. Do they have a target date to reach or is it just every extra week is a bonus?

They/we are taking it week by week. I have a monitoring appointment (more hospitals) every Monday from now on. From reading on the internet it seems that the pressure gets high, then stops, then reverses, at which point the baby can die, so they need to make sure it doesn't get to the reversing point. But at the same time, they want to leave the baby in there for as long as they safely can.

Euro - this probably won't help but PV delivery is not necessarily the marvellous method that it seems and instead of making you forget the AC, intervention, it might have cemented worse memories. Of course, I can speak only of my experience but I had persistent flashbacks for weeks after mine

euro so sorry you're going through such a tough time. If it's any consolation it's normal to hate hospitals but it sounds like they're monitoring you well and I hope centime arrives safe and sound in the not too near future. Xx

Hope you are ok tIme. I'm impressed by your creativity and patience in vp being able to make all these lovely crafts. I have no patience so can't imagine being inclined (yet alone able) to undertake such tasks.

Sorry to hear your news euro. I know being closing monitored and having a more medicalised birth is not what you want but as long as centime arrives healthily then in the long run I'm sure you won't mind. You're nearly there now, and you've done so well. Stay positive and feel free to have a moan in here.

Beetle: where are you?

Hi to everyone else. Xx

Hi ladies - you really are all very creative. I knitted DS a blanket (by which I mean I did I number of squares and sewed them together!) After the MC I started knitting a really complicated one...but everytime I leave it more than a few days I have to wait until I see my mum so she can remind me what to do....needless to say it is about a quarter done nearly a year on...

I have been quite stressed I thought I had some brown blood yesterday first thing, with the teeniest of red. TBH I may have been imagining it as there was no sign of anything later. Then had really bad cramping all day yesterday. Stayed off work and in bed but it is all just so anxious. Back at work today. I have my NHS 12 week scan tomorrow morning (Harmony follow-up on Tuesday). Just so, so scared it will go wrong at this stage. We are so, so close to being 'safe' - well, as safe as you can be.

val good luck with your scan tomorrow. I've got everything crossed for you. Did you feel better after resting? Let us know how you get on. xx

Oh Val. I know too well that anxiety but you have had several scans and been reassured that all is well. The longer you are along, the less likely there is to be any problem. From my reading here, many who find out bad news at a 12 week scan are told that things went wrong quite a while before so your recent scans stand you in good stead for great news tomorrow. You must share it!

Val, good luck for tomorrow. It is so totally understandable to feel anxious before the scan, not that saying this will make you feel any better, just that we all understand the pre scan scariness. All the logic in the world about how things will statistically be ok etc doesn't take away the fear until you see the healthy baby during the scan.

Euro, glad to hear centime is growing well, but sorry to hear about the blood pressure. It is tough when so much of what should be a 'natural' process becomes medicalised, but hopefully when you have centime safely in your arms, the memories of all the intervention will fade.

Time, how are things with you?

Val: It's bound to make you anxious but cramping is often assign of the utereus stretching. Good luck tomorrow and let us know how you get on. Xx

MENTALLING! GAH! Boobs feel normal, sharp cramps feelings, petrified to be told of another MMC

What time is your scan val? Sending you a hug.

11:25. If I don't implode in the meantime....thanks for humouring me ladies. I am normally a sane, sensible person...honest.

Good luck Val. Thinking of you

Good luck val!

All looked good. Nasal bone there. Legs crossed so no measurements from that. NT was 2.0mm, which of course I think is high but is under the 3.5mm they would see as a concern. Bloods taken. If there is a problem I will get a call in 2 working days.

Roll on Tuesday!

Excellent news!

Great news. Such a relief for you! Enjoy the post scan high. :)

Thanks ladies. Just got home and looked at DS's 12 week scan. His NT looks ginormous!! My risk profile was really low overall. Thank god I lived in blissful ignorance then!

Great news val!

Phew val!

Quick update from me. I went for a scan on Wednesday and my cervix has gone down to 1.5cm (from 2.5cm). I was a bit alarmed but they said this was as expected at this stage of the pregnancy. I'm still on home bedrest and looks like I won't be going back to work.

They said they expected worse, so being at home as well as re-starting the progesterone looks like it is helping.

It's strange because they are saying I'm doing well considering my history, but I can't help thinking that that is still not very good, and still worrying about my little boy arriving far too early. They have said they would be happy so long as I get to 30 weeks, but that feels like a very unambitious goal!!

But I feel stable and no symptoms of infection. Baby is nicely kicking away which is always reassuring and he is growing exactly as he should be. I think he was a little above the average at 20 weeks which is a great sign, hopefully he will take after his mum and put on far too much weight! Just hang in there little one. gives tummy a reassuring rub

So a long couple of months stuck at home, but every day is worth it. I let myself out from time to time, but mostly it's just home in front of the laptop/TV. I'm making sure I get up and move to the sofa at about 9am as I don't want to sleep all day and be up all night. Plus making sure I get dressed and showered, and do some kind of activity each day. If the baby arrives early I think we need to make sure we are ready earlier than planned! My hospital bag is already packed!!

Hi - can I tentatively join you all, although you all seem a lot further along than me. I'm 8 +1 today. I had a scan on Wednesday and all looked ok. Still terrified though. I read on the misscarriage association website that once you've seen the heart beat it's 96-98% likely you will have a live birth. Now I know that in the world of percentages I've not been doing very well (3 ectopics and one failed round of IVF) but I have to cling on to something. Currently trying to work up excuses not to drink tonight (dinner out with brother) and this weekend (hen party).