I have my scan next week. Shall I find out the sex of this baby or not??

[LadyTophamHatt]

I keep swaying from yes I want to know to No I want a surprise.

I will list below some the reason why I want to know and why I don't want to know.

I want to know because-
I have 3 boys already and if i really truthful to myslef I would love a girl. It's only a slight sway towards wanting a girl...maybe 48%-50%. I was looking through a name book earlier and I realised that that 2% was huge to me.
Disappointed is the wrong word, it's too strong, sad ins't really right either but I can't think of the right word....but if I had another boy I would feel sad that I didn't have a girl.
If I find out now I'll be able to enjoy my 4th boy completely from the word go without having a a little sad thought that he isn't a girl.

I also want to know becuase I feel so differnet this time. I want to get my head straight and thinking sane again. Maybe finding out will help.

Finally, I'm crap with surprises. I always have to know what I'm getting for B'days and xmas and if you think about it it's one or the other, not a choice of 50...the surprise isn't that big.

I don't want to know because-
I have known what I'm having each time. I wasn't told with DS1 but always thought I saw a willy on the scan, which I obviously did. So not knowing would be a novelity

Dh would perfer a surprise so I'd love to know and see his lovely reaction at a 4th boy or 1st girl.

Lastly my mad irrational PG head thinks that if something goes wrong now, before the crucial stage where they could save the baby knowing what I'm carrying will be really really awful.
I know that the chances of something going wrong now are highly unlikely my head has been a bag of worries since I found out and this is just the newest one.

Help me out girls, what would you do?
I know if I come away not knowing I'll want to know but if I do find out I'll wish I didn't.

I told Dh about the dream when he came home from work. I think he knew straight away that I had to know then, I asked him if he wanted to know too and he said "Why do you know already??"

Men eh??

I really hoping he'll decide not to find out, I'd like him to have a surprise at the birth.

I know it was only a dream but it really left me feeling shite and has really freaked me out.

So did you find out???

it's not until wednesday, Flowerpot.

I still have 5 LONG days to wait.

God...your name is flowerTot not pot....I'd did that earlier too didn't I??

I must learn to read

LadyTophamHatt when i had my first son we chose not to find out (although i really thought it was a boy),as it made very little difference to us so long as baby was healthy.

When i was pregnant second time we decided not to find out, (i thought this was a boy as well).

Sadly, he was stillborn.

With my 3rd pregnancy i really had to know what i was having.
I so desperately wanted a boy(i can't explain why, but i just did), not as a replacement for the one who died (as some so called friends said).

At the scan i was told it was a girl.

At first i was totally gutted.

Towards the end of my pregnancy i had some problems and had to spend a lot of time in hospital.

I kept thinking please don't let me lose this baby as well, and i became so protective of my unborn child.
I also felt a huge amount of guilt for not wanting a girl.

When she was born nearly 4 wks early i was so happy that she was ok.

I'm glad that i had time to get used to the fact that i was carrying a girl, as i think i would've been a wreck otherwise.

When i had my 4th pregnancy, i had to go to one scan alone and i found out i was carrying a girl. (my partner didn't want to know what we were having, so long as baby was healthy)

I never told anyone that i'd found out and it was my special secret until the day she was born.

Sorry if i've rambled on too much.

I think you should find out so that if it is a boy, you'll have plenty of time to get used to it, and if it's a girl you can keep your happy secret.

GOOD LUCK.

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I can't bear the suspense Lady Tophamhat - did you find out? I am two sons and my 20 week scan is next week and I feel exactly the same...shall I...shan't I...

I'm curious to know, but my partner would like a surprise. I'm convinced it's a boy - because years ago a tarot card reader - told me I would have a boy.....

LTH just wondered if you found out in the end?
I have my scan on 28th, DH doesnt want to know, i'm torn between finding out or not. i'm going to ask if they can get a scan pic for me of a gender shot kinda thing. that way it will still be a surprise but i might have a bit of a clue, lol. i really want a little girl, but i have one gorgeous ds already & would love for him to have a little brother aswell
anyway hope if you found out that it was the result you hoped for.
luv sarahlou xx

We found out lately from a 20-week that our second baby has clubfeet, and also that it's a boy! The gender thing was overshadowed by finding out there's a problem (correctable problem but still...) hope all goes well for you.

20-week SCAN that should say

yes, I did find out.

I'll have a DS4 in january.

Congrats. How do you feel?

heres the thread i started after the scan....

I'm so pleased I found out....I'm feeling good about it now so I definatley did the right thing.