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Hi, i read about this site in a magazine and am expecting, im really young and worried hoping to talk to someone that can ease my worries?
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ha ha charlee before i read this post i always thought i was the youngest at 17.

Hello, I am 19 years and 8 weeks pregnant it was scary at first but now I have made up my mind to give the best to my baby, though I still havent gptten the courage to tell my parents cause I dont know how they will react, I dont stay with them and so they dont know, I have told my Boyfriend and he is so happy about it and ready to help me all the way, I am praying to God to give me the strength to go through this especially with the fact that am reporting to college on 28 of August. May God bless you all and may you always have the best.

hi lovelyAngel, I'm pregnant 2, I'm 20. There r a few other young mums on here 2, its good 2 talk 2 people around the same age as u!
Good luck with the pregnancy, sure it'll all b fine. its good that u've got the support of ur boyfriend!

Aww thank you yea i was dreading telling my mum she was pretty upset to begin with and disoppointed but is now looking forward to the prospect of being a young gran! Hope it all goes well with telling your parents sure it will!
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its really good when you have family around for support, i wasnt living with my parents when i got pregnant and wasnt surprised with their reacttion when i told them about my first pregnancy.
used to them not wanting any thing to do with my family, but i have lovely supporting partner

Aww thats really good to know my mum wasnt keen at the prospect cause of my age but now its really excited..not sure whose more excited..me or her!!

do you know if you r going to be studying next year?

Yea once hes born im going to startgoing back to half days at school after xmas.
How old is your DD or DS?

my dd is 2 in oct and ds is 5 weeks

are you at school now?i went to school right up until the day i went into labour at 38 weeks and i am so glad that did so i didn't get left behind and have to redo the year or anything. cos he was born in june i've had all the summer holidays with him but am going back to my studies in september. i know at the end of the day it will be best for my baby if i have a good job so this spurs me on to do this. the way i see it the quicker i get my qualifications the quicker i can get us some money and nice things.

Well i wentup until summer hols started in july and its hols now but im 28 weeks and mum isnt keen on me going back cause of the rough corridors and its a huge school what school did you go to and what age were you?

i went to a school in stourbridge and i was 17. i found it was best to miss out on as little as possible so i didn't feel excluded and to give me the best possible chance of catching up with the work. don't let your mum persuade you not to go back if you want to it's your decision not hers.

Yea i know,i would like to go back cause i take first GCSE in november and want to do well

so if you dont go back til after xams will you miss that?

Is it possible for you to take your GCSEs through a 6th form college rather than school Kat? I know my old college offered GCSEs too. It may well be more flexible timetable wise and less rough, most people by that age having chosen to stay on in education and less likely to give you a hard time. maybe allowing you to do the key GCSEs like maths and English and maybe science then the following year add to them either just doing more GCSEs or along side another qualification. Just a thought. I'm finding it hard enough to get back to studying now having spent a year abroad from uni theoretically studying so taking time out like that would make it very hard to go back. I'm at uni and due at Christmas, planning on going to classes right up to the holidays and as soon as possible after, although I'm lucky enough to have been able to go part time.

i agree with indith. i was ill with chicken pox during my pregnancy and had to be off for almost a month and it was right after the easter holidays. although i was itching to get back cos i was worried about failing my exams part of me wished i hadn't had to. i reckon if i hadn't had my exams right around the corner i may not have. everyone thinks i should be taking a year out before uni but i know myself too well and i reckon if i had a year out i would never go back. besides i'm also doing a year abroad in a couple of years time so that will be a sort of year out anyway already making my course 4 years instead of 3. i don't want to prolong it to 5 years before i've finished!!i get fed up way too easily so the shorter the better!

Oh are you languages nappy? I do Spanish and Russian. year out is HARD. Its fine for those with no ties at home but by the second term most of us were dying to be home (then I got pregnant and it got worse but thats a whole other kettle of fish!) Must say I am going part time so I will be extending it to 5 years and I know by year 5 I will be itching to finish. But I guess your LO will be older so better creches etc, the uni one that takes newborns fro me is horrible!

im doing spanish too. i am really looking forward to my year out but i wish it was only 6 months not a year. gonna be very hard with a 2 year old!!what uni were you at and where did you go in your year out? (sorry for the hijack!)

I'm at Durham. I did my first 6 months in Russia which was amazing teaching English then since I'd gone through all the faff of organizing my own placement for Russia I just went on ERASMUS in Spain. It was terrible! Saying that I think it was mostly the uni I went to (Alcala de Henares)since a lot of people had great times on ERASMUS placements at other unis, and they give you lots of money which is always nice! Might not be ideal with a 2yo though! I did find a job out there too and ended up teaching again which is quite good money but then the lifestyle os not good for with a kid as its mostly nights.

mind you, if you do manage to find yourself a nice job of some sort then a year in a Spanish creche and your LO will be better than you!

Sure Kat won't mind the hijack, she'll be too busy beaming at her new baby girl!

i'm hoping to find my own placement in spain teaching english in a school where my ds can attend a nursery aswell. i'm probably being way too optimistic though here. did you teach english in a primary or secondary school? i would prefer to do primary but not sure if this is "allowed." also i wasn't sure, can you get an extra job outside of your work placement?

my friend is coming to durham to french and spanish. also what were you referring to when you said "might not be ideal with a 2 year old" and what is mostly nights - the jobs that are available? sorry it's late and i can't make much sense of it - probs me not you! you mentioned in an earlier post that the uni creches are horrible? now i'm worried cos my ds will have to go into one if i can't deal with leaving him at hom with my mum and coming back every weekend. i can't get him in at the moment as there is a waiting list though and i couldn't put his name down til he was born. have you had this problem? where do you live? have you managed to get family housing okay? - they said it was 18 months wait in cardiff - how ridiculous!!

Sorry for confusing I'll try to be slightly more organised!

Ok my uni creches: there are 2, a big one and a little one based in one of the colleges. The big one seems ok for the older kids but didn't have a very nice feel to it for newborns (i'm due december so bit of a consideration for me!) and they only take the little ones for full days. But, the other smaller creche is really nice. They have loads of students who volunteer and sit and cuddle babies while reading to older kids and so on. But for me its a bit pants as they only take them from 6 months! Same as with you the waiting lists for the big creche are evil, they wanted a deposit and details of exactly when I would be needing the creche back in June to secure a place! As if I knew then! I still don't know!

No idea what family housing is like at Cardiff, ours is ok and they would have done their best to get me flat but dp and I decided to rent privately to get somewhere more central. I'd keep on at tehm for family housing but also try to go househunting a bit. Check with the student union housing office you may well find quite a few of the houses and flats aimed more at postgrads still on the market and could end up better for you.

I was working for a private language school, this sort of work is very much centred on business and adults although most have some kids classes too. However, business tends to be very early mornings and then adults evenings with kids coming in in the afternoon, usually just after school which is why I said it wouldn't be great with a 2 year old! The great advantage though is that it is almost always available! In fact my boss would just about emply anyone! Are you looking at British council placements? These tend to be in secondary schools and the pay is ok since it includes your flat. You normally work 4 days a week, it just depends on the timetable of your school but the number of hours is always the same. The day off is normally Friday as they are used to people wanting to travel, some people only do 3 days and have Monday off too. There is loads of work for teaching though and summers are good for residential schools and kids camps where the work is day time and you get your accommodation provided. Since you have plenty of time to plan ahead I would seriously reccommend spending next summer doing a good TEFL qualification to put you in a better position if that is the sort of thing you want to do on your year abroad.

Hope that helps!

oh so did you get your job on your own accord outside of the erasmus placement? i didn't think you'd be allowed to do that. haven't really looked into it much yet as i don't start until october. will have to look into whether they offer TEFL. i'd like to talk to you more about this so my email address is pink__diamonds at hotmail.com

btw is your dp doing languages too then?

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