I'm 18 weeks pregnant and feel like I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Already have one DS who is 8 and fabulous...and one DP who is 35 and a nuisance. I am a trainee teacher so trying to juggle being a mum, with a PGCE course, and running a house, and a dog, and a manchild of a DP. I leave the house at 7,30am, don't get back home until at least 4.30pm and most nights am up til gone 11pm planning lessons and catching up on paperwork. I am shattered.
My DP works nights...and sleeps days....and that is it. Occasionally (when I have nagged him into submission) he will wash the dishes or take the dog for a walk but he never ever thinks to hoover, or clean, or do laundry. I am struggling with everything and feel like I'm about to burst out crying just with the stress of it all.
I came home today after a really hard day at work, picked my DS up, and opened the door to an unwalked dog, a sink FULL of dishes, a washing machine full of laundry, and an even bigger pile of laundry at the top of the stairs. The dishes have been there for 2 days now because I refused to do them after he promised he would...but because he was tired (he went to bed before I left the house this morning and was still in bed until about an hr ago!!!!!) I've had to wash them so I can make dinner for me and DS.
I'm at the end of my tether. I've just put DS to bed and have at least three hours of work ahead of me now...I am tired, my skin is awful, my hair is greasy and I just wanna scream!
Me and DP have just had a massive row because I told him I need more help around the house, he admitted that I do the lion's share of the house work but then said his excuse was that he worked nights...as though that absolves him from any housework. I wish I could just work and sleep....I wish I had no other responsibilities and could just lie in my bed watching shite on Youtube all day like he appears to do.
He has just stormed to work, leaving the sink full of dishes yet again, and a pile of his dirty uniform on my bedroom floor.
Am I being unreasonable in wanting a bit more help around the house? I know I'm being a nag lately but I cant do everything by myself...he demands silence when I bring my DS back from school until he's ready to get up and every afternoon I am a nervous wreck trying to keep DS and the dog quiet...how the hell am I meant to do that when the baby arrives?? I'm worried about how much help he'll be then if he's not that much help now. As he works permanent nights I'll be home alone all night then he sleeps all day so again i'll be alone with the baby all day. I was a single parent with my DS and it was a struggle....but I managed. I thought this time would be different tho and that I'd have an amazing DP who would rub my feet and bring me tea and pore over baby clothes with me!!!
Sorry...massive rant. Just needed to get it all off my chest before I explode! xxx