New and worried....

[Daisypops]

Hi there. Just found this site and wanted to air my worries. I'm just over 18 weeks pregnant and worrying about absolutely EVERYTHING. I've just tripped up ONE step and I'm worried it will harm my baby. My midwife has told me to just enjoy my pregnancy but I'm frightened I'll miscarry (had one last year). I really want to enjoy it but don't think I'll rest until my 21 wk scan. Is anyone else as bad as this?

Try not to worry, but I know its easier said than done. For me it got easier as the pregnancy progressed and as you see the midwives more frequently, but you'll never stop worrying even after baby arrives! I think its just a fact of life being a mum, but you get used to it!

Why don't you try one of those relaxation tapes, they are quite good for chilling out and help you feel more positive. Also try not to read too much on the internet as it can make you worry about things you never even knew you had to worry about! Being with other mums in the same boat helps too as you realise you all worry about the same things!

Take care, and I hope everything goes well for you over the next few months.

daisypops sorry to say it but you won't stop worrying EVER..! not even once baby is here. We also suffered x2 mc's and dh & I worried from the day of finding out till now and dd is 15 months.
I'm currently 16 weeks and guess what..I still worry.

Luckily I has scans every 2 weeks with dd till around 21 weeks and inbetween I worried constantly. In part of being a parent and I believe it's even harder following mc's as you are more aware iykwim.

I can't really suggest anything as everyone copes differently. Just wanted to say it's perfectly normal so don't beat yourself up over it. Good luck xx

We also suffered mc the year before we has our ds and when I was pregnant I worried about everything but it was all fine. Your body is alot tougher than you think, I walked into a low beam at home when I was 8 months gone and knocked myself clean out! I as out cold on my back for a good 10 mins, I was obv. really scared but was actually ok, akthough I did have a huge bump on my forehead which was embarassing to explain. Try to enjoy each day and destress with warm baths, soothing music etc and lots of luck xx

hello daisypops,

I also miscarried last year, and I've found being pregnant again quite hard work because of the worry. (This week I have mostly been stressing, for no reason, about toxoplasmosis fwiw).

All I can say is it does get better - I found the 20 week scan helped, and also being able to feel the baby move regularly has been reassuring.

But if you (and anyone else) wants more reassurance, come and join us on the pregnancy after miscarriage thread where there are plenty of people with the same stresses who understand - and some with babies at the end!

Thanks everyone. Twocatsonthebarricades-funny you should mention toxoplasmosis, I have two cats and was so worried that I went and got a blood test. Luckily it was negative. I've addressed that and now I've found other things to worry about. I suppose its only natural. But it helps to know I'm not on my own.

Daisypops, if you have had a fall, you are very unlikely to have done damage to the baby. It is what the amniotic fluid is there for - to cushion the baby from knocks etc. If you haven't had any loss (bleeding, water etc) and the baby is still moving (providing you could feel movement before - 18 weeks quite early if it's your first baby) you will be fine.

I worry for Britain. Always have, and probably always will. MN is a great place for sharing worries as you always find someone who can reassure you or point you in the right direction for some help. Take it easy and keep coming on.

Welcome, BTW .

Daisypops

I had a MC last year as well and am now PG again, but am 42. Spent the first 10 weeks waiting to miscarry again (just looking for that bleeding everytime I go to the loo). Now I'm 11 weeks and have convinced myself my baby will be horribly deformed/ill/etc etc due to my age, even if I do manage to get to full term. Was very laid back with first two pregnancies, but the MC last year made me realise how fragile human life is at this stage, so am now totally paranoid. Have been a total hormonal wreck for the last two weeks, during the run up to my scans. Too emotional even to tell anyone I'm PG even if I wanted too. In fact I did tell a friend on Sunday (well, she guessed) and managed to burst into tears!I'm sure the confidence will grow as the pregnancy progresses further and nothing untoward happens. Mind you, my mum still worries about us all the time!

It is so hard not to worry, I know. I'm a bit calmer with this second pg, but still have my frantic times. There is a thread on here for pregnancy after miscarriage that you might find quite helpful and supportive.link here

Hi Daisypops I'm also 18weeks and worrying had straight forward text book pg with DD (nearly 2) had m/c in feb and nowgot this one I have worried over everything from no symptons to having brown discharge& bleeding and now I get the occasional flutters but because they are not everyday worry bout that. I am on thedue in jan 07 thread (in antenatel clubs) and we are on our 3rd thread because 95%of us have spent the time worrying and stressing not just First timers but 2nd,3rd,4th and even 5th timers so feel free to join us (although we have just named the 3rd thread 'the one where we stop worrying & start complaining'!! )

Just noticed they have started a new thread here

Hi everyone, its so reassuring to know I'm not the only one. Fatfox-I also check for bleeding everytime I go to the loo. I'm so daft I even worry when I sneeze! I've had really bad trapped wind so the tummy ache worries me, turns out IT IS trapped wind. Im sure I've felt flutters but then I think it could be more trapped wind IYSWIM! If I address one problem, I think of another to worry about, now I'm thinking my bub isn't growing as I don't look pregnant. Oh well, I suppose its natural to worry and I best get used to it as there'll be more worry when bub is here! Thanks to everyone for your replies.

Yep, I still check for bleeding everytime, too. Had a bit of bleeding with ds and I'm ultra-paranoid. As far as the trapped wind, I've already had a frantic call at 10 weeks to the OB with cramping. She told me to take Pepto-Bismol and it miraculously healed the problem

Its quite hard to distinguish between cramps and wind isn't? 'Specially if you have lower back pain too like me. I know now that if the pain ends in a fart then all is well - never have farts been so reassuring!!!

hi there question for you girls. im about 5week prenant on sunday i had a few spots of blood then some brown discharge which i know is old blood. the day after i had a bath and noticed a tiny little round blob no bigger then a screw head, now im not sure if it has come from me ive got clear discharge and im trumping alot, no unusual pain i am having a scan monday, do you think i am still pregnant im quite worried.

Omigod - Daisypops you could be me I have stressd over every little thing with this pg and I mean, EVERYTHING. Am now 38+2 weeks and am stressing about labour

Everyone keeps saying to me I will worry more when the baby is here but I'm not so sure. I had a m/c last year and it has really taken the edge off the enjoyment of this pg. I just want LO in my arms safe and sound.

No advice to give really other than try and be calm (so much easier said than done).

xxxx big hugs xxx