Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

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Ooo that's a thought cbeebies

I only thought of it because it's what he's doing right now!! I have a rythmic thumping I can feel (this time) around my pubic bone, although this moves depending on his position. He doesn't like hiccups so often fights against it, almost like he's kicking very fast against my belly button to get it to stop. Then he'll have a good stretch out and finally when he stops moving and gives into it the rythmic thumping stops. Sometimes it can go on for an hour or more with him fighting against it for most of that time.

Having a small worry here as I don't think I've felt the little movementy things today. I know it's a bit early for there to be a regular pattern or anything, but I have been getting them everyday. Hmm.

We're doing DIY today - the decorating sort! So I've been sanding and painting. Having a quick snack break while DP finishes stuff off, then back to it.

Very tempted to try the satisfying DH, he will think its his birthday, our anniversary, Christmas and valentines day all wrapped into one.

I bet if I do it often enough he will cave and buy me my iCandy for baby ;-) haha x

Oh suzy that sounds scary, I hope you are ok. What's the plan next? Proper scan tomorrow? Got everything crossed for you.

All this talk of DIY (non decorating type) is surprising me - does no one else get these really scary painful cramps afterwards? I keep having them in my sleep - normally I would be like - this is cool - but instead I have scary cramps for 30 mins. So I'm staying off sex and DIY and hope these night ones stop pretty soon as it's really stressful!

Nerdy how far are you?
I just can't stress enough the importance of gettin checked out once babies are in a pattern. The MHD says 24 weeks, however I went in for monitoring at 20 weeks because I knew without a doubt my baby moved more in the morning and evenin and hadn't felt him since the night before. Thy will not think you are time wasting, they just want to make sure everything is ok too

Nhs not MHD!

Fedup, yes. In the early days I was worried by it, but nothing went wrong so I just ignored it.
Today that's kind of the effect Im looking for! although I do now feel like my undercarriage might be falling off!
Nerdy How many weeks are you? My movements were really sporadic up to about 22 weeks. Loads and then nothing for a few days. Are you having a quiet day today? Ryvita seems to sleep or rest when I do, then go nuts after Ive had a busy days.
Fod Im sure Ive heard of that before. Im certain Ive seen threads about bumps 'buzzing'!
Maybe its some kind of muscle spasm and its a 'warming up for the big event' thing.
somebody has to go off soon, surely!

Suzy, I do hope that they give you a proper scan tomorrow so you know what is happening. I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this bleeding tails off and everything is okay.

Fedupofrainydays, that happens to me when I orgasm when pregnant, apparently orgasm can cause light contraction in your uterus and I think it kinda just hurts a bit as all your muscles are stretched. Apparently it's all safe unless you've been advised by the Dr / midwife to abstain but it does take the pleasure away somewhat.

Fod, congrats on your due date arriving, hopefully not too long to wait now to meet your little one. Along with the sex perhaps a curry? Honestly, the speed bumps and country lanes worked a treat for me in my first pregnancy, so if you get fed up get your dh to take you for a drive. Buzzing does sound like hiccups

I have my 12 week scan on Fri, although technically I'll be 11 weeks and 4 days. Hopefully more reassurance since this spotting but I think we will be celibate for a few weeks at least as it frightened both of us so much yesterday, although I was so lucky to get such thorough treatment at the hospital.

Weirdly, I've felt very 'in the mood' since being pregnant this time which is utterly at odds with what I'm usually like in early pregnancy, even had vivid naughty dreams, which have had me waking up blushing After the months of action to get pregnant this time I am slightly bemused.

Please can someone same tell me I will feel better soon! I was 13 weeks yesterday and I'm still feeling shite. I have zero energy, it takes me ages to move in the morning, and if I go long periods without eating I get sick. Similarly, if I exert myself in any way for a period of time I become so exhausted I can't do anything else the rest if the day. This is dc 3 not dc1. Why do I feel so shit?? DOES it end?? I could always see the end in sight and I can't now

You will.
you're coming into the good trimester now.
In a nice way, it's always good to see people post like this. It's usually the same people who a few weeks ago were worried about not having any symptoms.

Allis I'm a week behind you and feel the same (unless, as Saggy mentions, I feel better then I worry!).

Squiz there is ALWAYS something to worry about!

Hello All, thank you for all your messages. Unfortunately in this instance it wasn't me worrying too much. This afternoon I've passed lots of big clots including I think the embryo. I've saved it all (grim I know!) and hopefully they'll be able to test to see if they can tell me anything.

I'm so sad because we had a mmc at 10 weeks last year and it's taken a year to conceive and then exactly the same thing has happened again. I have a gorgeous 4 yr old boy so I am very lucky but he is so desperate to have a sibling and I couldn't wait until we could tell him he was going to be a big brother.

Good luck to you all, especially those about to pop and those in the scary first trimester. X

Suzy, I'm so sorry, take care of yourself. You're not alone, we've all had why me moments and cried floods of tears because it's all just so unfair. I wish you all the luck in the world next time. Let your self grieve and take time for yourself xx

Hi ladies, I've been staying off this thread as it was becoming too difficult for me, even writing this is difficult, but I wanted to check in and share my news.

Rhydian was born on Thursday at 3:40 am by emergency c-section, weighing 1080g. He was 28+2 weeks gestation. He is in the NICU and will likely remain there until his due date but he is doing really well. I can only hope and pray that things remain stable and that we will take home a happy, healthy boy.

I was diagnosed with incompetent cervix at 15 weeks and put on bed rest, at 18 weeks I was dilated 1cm with only 4mm cervix and given an emergent cerclage. The cerclage failed at 23 weeks and I was put on strict hospital bed rest for the remainder of the pregnancy. I was dilated 3-4cm and remained that way throughout. I battled infection 3 different times while in hospital and was told several times I would give birth within a few days. Somehow I managed to hang on 5 weeks and carry my baby to viability and even hung on another week after my water broke at 27+3. In the end, I went into labour so quickly that all the magnesium and tocolytics in the world wasn't going to stop him. I decided on the advice of the doctors to deliver by c-section to save the baby the stress of a natural birth. He did really well and I am proud of him. It has been an emotional roller coaster and I no where near the point of being able to process all that has happened but the important thing is that so far everything is ok and so, so much better than it could have and even should have been. I don't consider mine a success story but I do think it shows that no matter how bleak things look there is always hope.

Wishing all of you and your upcoming arrivals all the best. May every one of your pregnancies be completely and utterly boring. I'll keep checking in to see how you are and let you know how little Rhydian is doing.

Suzy im so sorry. Its such a cruel thing. I cant decide if it's worse when you have other children or when you don't. Like *CBEEBIES says, take care and look after yourselves. Hopefully if it's what you want we will see you back here really soon. xxxxx

cbeebies I've definitely had that rythmical thudding - does it feel like it's really deep within you?

MrsG we are definitely on the same page

lotty good luck for your scan, im just fed up I think ;) I too have been soooo much more horny during this pregnancy than before which is dead frustrating especially as DH won't give in to me ;(

MissMesusa, OF COURSE you are a success story. You have a gorgeous little boy.
Over 1000g is 2lb +. That's a good weight and he is surrounded by amazing people totally focused on his health.
I cant even begin to guess what you've been through, but as you say he is doing really well. That's great.
Keep positive, look after all of you and keep us posted. xxxx

Yes fod that's it, very deep and sometimes dh can feel it on my bump (but only when he's in the right position)

Miss I remember you! So glad to hear of the 'happy?' Outcome. He's here, he's safe and he's alive. It may not be the pregnancy you thought and in time you will process and deal with everything that has happened, bu for now enjoy your baby (even if he is in the scbu). Don't forget to look after yourself and take time out, take all the help that's offered by friends and family. Hoping your little boy continues to go from strength to strength xx

suzy I'm really really sorry for your loss, hope your getting lots of RL support
medusaa I'm at a loss for words, what a journey! What Heroes you both are! Xxx

Suzy we haven't really 'met' but I wanted to say how sorry I am to read your news. Heartbreaking. As the others say, take time out for you and your family- rest and recover

medusa wow. What a story. Sending you and your family strength and positive thoughts.

So fod and pixie have reached their due dates??? How very exciting indeed!

Right lovely ladies, as promised some time ago, having finally prised the laptop from the cramped and crooked fingers of my teenage son, I have started us a FB group.
Here

The other member is DD, I needed to add someone to open the group. Ill boot her off as soon as I get someone else!