Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

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Ok - so private and potentially embarrassing question but I dont want to bother midwives with something so trivial.

Basically as I'm Pregnant after a miscarriage, since I got my BFP I've been avoiding any nooky or anything nooky related just incase.

Midwives didn't say anything about it to me whatsoever, but im feeling a bit sorry for DH.

I'm guessing its ok to start things off again slowly now my scan is all ok etc? Or should I ask midwife before we do restart?

Thanks (and please no one laugh - I really do feel a bit of an idiot asking this)

Evening ladies

Can i ask a quick question? I have my glucose text tomorrow morning, I can't remember, do I need to fast before hand, Can I eat tonight and tomorrow morning?

Sorry for the quick post, once again haven't been on for a while - but am suddenly panicing that I might mess up the test x

Congratulations MrsG, you must be so relieved! Are you daring to tell anyone yet? Regarding the nookie question, we avoided full on DTD for the first trimester and have mostly stuck to having fun in other ways (IYSWIM) but I think it is pretty safe. Now the baby is moving about so much it seems like she knows what is going on though, so it feels a bit weird!

Welcome red' and good luck for tomorrow allisgood. Sorry I can't help with the glucose question emki.

I had my first physio appointment this morning, turns out the problem is my sacro-iliac joints that join the pelvis to the spine at the back. I got some exercises and she pummeled the base of my back for a good twenty minutes, I feel like I've done several rounds in a boxing ring and lost!

MrsG yes you can do it unless you've been told specifically 'no' (I presume this would be after cervical surgery or for psychological reasons - e.g. I sometimes bleed due to ectropian, harmless but under the circumstances could cause a panic attack).

mrsg you won't be the only one scared to have sex! With my first preg We stopped after 4.5 months as too uncomfy and then took about 6 months after birth to face sex again (it hurt me for some reason) so poor DH was about a year without proper sex!!! This time (after my two mc) I'm def not having any sex for a while (plus couldn't feel like it less) but may entertain if it / when I get to 4 months. It totally safe unless you have weak cervix issues / bleed after sex (the latter because it will
Worry you)

I also think its perfectly safe to have sex if you're up for it!

Also I found my notes - mustn't drink or eat anything (except water) from midnght the night before - phew!

Welcome newbies and well done penguin at the physio session.

I've been wondering about the sex thing too - I didn't even worry about it in my first two pregnancies but since the mc in Oct I'm frightened to now, at least until I'm past 12 weeks. I've read that orgasm can make your uterus mildly contract and whilst I'm sure this would not cause a mc, I don't want to risk anything. Perhaps a crazy association but my husband and I were on a romantic break last time in early pregnancy and a good bit of 'how's your father' was going on, mad but I often wonder if I enjoyed myself too much. Sorry if tmi but I've been a vestal virgin since getting my bfp on 9dpo, am a wee but frustrated now

Ladies looks like once again I am off the bus. Was 8 weeks yesterday but measuring 5. No heartbeat. Just waiting for the inevitable now.

I wish you all the best.

Aoife.

Aoife how truly heartbreaking for you. My words can't help but I will be thinking of you xxx

Oh Aoife.
Im so sorry. Please take care of yourself. Lots and lots of love to you. x

aoife I'm sorry to read your sad news. That is heartbreaking and so unfair. Thinking of you xx

Aoife, so very sorry. Hope the next few days pass as comfortabley as possible. Sending you lots of love. Xx

Oh no aoife. I'm so sorry. Pleased take big care of yourself. Xxxx

aoife I'm so sorry. It's so unfair. I can't remember if that pushes you into the 'recurrent' category, but if you want to talk about testing please come and join the RMC thread on the miscarriage board. Big hugs.

aoife I'm I'm so sorry :-(

I agree with bakingtins, the miscarriage forum was an amazing support and comfort to me, for several months after my loss

Lots of hand holding at this difficult time x

aoife I am so sorry to hear your news. please make sure you look after yourself.

Aoife I'm so so sorry to hear that. I hope you are getting lots and lots of RL support and also from the boards here. Take lots of care of yourself, I will be thinking of you

Oh Aoife how awful. :( Make sure you get loads of support - as others have mentioned the RMC thread is a godsend.

Been following the thread during the night feeds and finally caught up. So sorry to hear your news aoife. Hope uve got lots of support in RL. Take care

aoife I am so so sorry that this is happening to you again, how truly utterly heartbreaking. I had so wished for a good outcome for you, you have been so supportive and cheerful to everyone else on here! Nature is so cruel and relentless.
I hope that you have lots of support to get through this, be kind to yourself. Wishing you lots of strength xxx

So sorry aoife is just shit I wish no-one had to ever go through it x

Aoife, I'm so so sorry to hear that. Life can be utterly cruel sometimes. Sending you lots of love. As the other ladies have already wisely said take all the support from people close to you that you can xx

Aoife I'm so sorry, hope your getting loads of love and support

Oh Aoife that is absolute shitbags. I'm so sorry to hear it. Thank you for holding my hand the last few weeks if there's anything at all you need please shout. Huge hugs xxx

Oh Aoife :( devastated for you. You have been so brilliant and supportive here, I hope you are getting the same love and support in RL. There are not enough words to express just how much of an utter bitch life is sometimes! I know we'll see you back here. I hope you are getting appropriate medical care and advice. xxx