Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

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All comers welcome, we're a rolling thread. Newbies, middles and oldies alike, join here for hand holding, knicker checking and general batshit craziness!

Sorry not to look for christine and liesl's new info if anyone has time to edit pse do x

Pixie a nap and a baby is all we ask of you

Mmm mini babybels..

Thanks london that shifts things into perspective Friends have just text saying they're coming over (nothing like a bit of notice eh) so have woken up and now just need to hide the empty biscuit packets beside me

Actually I've just remembered that total is having her baby tomorrow! Best of luck total!!!

I feel a bit silly asking this but when should I be speaking to a MW from my GP? I am 8+3 and haven not kids and just my history of mess up. So far I have had telephone call with my GP at 5 weeks ish mark when he tried to get me EPAU scan but in the end had to get private one and that's my only contact, so have nothing else booked & don't know what to do or expect. Don't want to call them to ask as receptionists are full of 'tude' at my doctors so feel stupid asking?

Dav your GP should have 'booked you in' with a midwife. If s/he hasn't, you can do this directly (via ante-natal at your local hospital). I would try to do this this week: you need to be booked in and have a scan prior to week 13.

My GP didn't book me in one of my lost pregnancies until after a scan (which sadly showed an empty sac) so maybe this was your GPs plan BUT they should have picked up on it by now. Let them know about this error (not booking in a woman with a history of MC) so they don't do it again!

Thanks very much squizita I will give my surgery a call and see when I can get in to see a MW

Hi dav you might need to man up a bit on this one. You need to get a date for your booking in with a midwife. this will then trigger bloods/scans etc. I do find it all very confusing and it has changed each time I have done this and I know what you mean about the tude. That said, you are going to have to face up to the tude, and get the info you need. May as well get the practice in, this won't be the first time you will have to do this to get what you need.

Been struggling today. I don't know why I didn't see this coming. I knew any pregnancy after mmc would be hard, but I thought this pregnancy would be mostly full of fear because of the previous outcome. I naively didn't expect to find myself feeling the sad grief of the end of last year again during these first 12 weeks. I thought I'd just be anxious about the new bubba. Of course it makes sense that I would feel this way but it's made me ever so sad today.

I have buried myself in my knit-kit and now have a little blue dog, that just needs a nose sewing on to complete him. I don't think knitting is for me tho' it bloody hurts my fingers!

Thanks pixie!!

We're actually just sat in hospital now for pre op but been here for ages as doctors keeps getting called back to the labour ward...

I've been trying to keep up but been busy trying to bury my head in the sand! Can't believe it's tomorrow. Nervous

Hope everyone is well and I'll try to catch up properly but so glad your scan went well jbrd and I hope you get further testing sorted Alb

Oooh, I want to update the stats list and add myself, but am scared I'll jinx it all!

Good luck total, not long until you hold your baby!

Oooo total good luck!

I've been in agony all day! Had pain in my lower back and andomen ;,( (real take your breath away pain) with lots of pressure, managed the drive home (thought I was in labour!) phoned the MA and been advised to take a bath and paracetamol.... Soooo let's see

Ooooh the race is on total and fod who will be first! total it's all going to be fine. Remember to keep on top of your painkillers religiously and you'll be surprised at how quickly you start to feel better. Remember big knickers are your friend post section also! (that go above your scar).

london I'm sorry it's hitting you just now. Maybe it's best to give yourself permission to do some grieving in the next couple of weeks and accept that the sadness does stay with you, even when you're moving on to happier times. It is healthier to process this than bottle it up (and I speak as someone who didn't really give myself permission to grieve my mmc properly, just flung myself back into ttc and then pregnancy, and it does creep up and catch me out from time to time still). Have an unmumsnet hug and some

Oh it'll be total

London I stayed in bed all day Friday dealing with aftermath. Despite massive pressure at work I am making cough drop my number one priority. I was really struggling on Friday. My normal reaction would be to buck myself up and get on with it, but my new attitude meant that I found it a lot easier to give myself permission to take some time out to feel sad and freak out. It hasn't meant the sadness has gone away, but I do feel better able to move forward and face the scan having taken the time to deal with last time round and the fears that has generated.

Fod I misread your post and thought you had been horny all day. Each to their own I thought. In pain makes much more sense.

total hasn't been a thread baby for a few weeks and now it looks like we will have two at once. Let's hope that is the only way they resemble London buses.

Ooo total how exciting! And fod aswell, hopefully this is the start of it for you!

Afraid I can't help on the snack front, iv actually lost a fair bit of weight since getting pregnant, ibs has meant I can basically eat nothing other than bread until about a week ago, even the pregnancy vitamins set it off. Slowly startin to be able to eat normal food again now tho (as long as I avoid potato, fizzy stuff n anything strongly flavoured) so I'm sure my weight will rocket up soon. On past diets tho iv found cracker bread amazing for low fat snacks, and marshmallows for sweet ones.

Having a mini wobble now as I jus finally caved to family pressure n told me 12 year old sister about the pregnancy (wanted to wait till 20 week, but everyone's decided now I'm past 12 weeks it's insanity to think anythin will go wrong) n I briefly took DP into mothercare to demonstrate why we can't jus 'buy the cheapest of everything off the internet' which worked quite well, he's now jus as confused by the crazy world of prams and travel systems as I am. It's a positive wobble really, it's jus odd havin a full day of acknowledging the pregnancy in real life!

Thanks for everyone's support on the mw n tests thing, gona talk to DP about it properly again when he's home tomorrow n decide what to do.

Dav I hope ur gp gets it together n sorts ur midwife referral for u, mw's can be hard to track down at the best of times without the gp slowing the process down!

Ooh good luck Total! wow - this time tomorrow you'll have your bubba :) what a lovely thought. Hope you get seen quickly, will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Just been to see my GP for the 32 weeks appt, she really is lovely. Apparently everything is 'wonderful' with the baby, whose head is most certainly not engaged. He's the right size, I'm not putting on too much weight and when I mentioned I hadn't yet had the whooping cough jab she was out the door to the nurses room and had a needle in my arm so damn fast I got whiplash... so guess I've now had the jab!

Fod hope everything is ok (will be exciting if we get two thread babies at once!) Did you ever see anyone about the swollen ankles? I just had a chat to my GP about mine, she said because my BP was good and there was no protein in my urine she wasn't too concerned but that she will keep an eye on me and double check how things are going in two weeks.

Adding to the unmumsnetty hugs London sounds like you need some xx

Good luck total this time tomorrow you will have your baby in your arms :-)

And fod sounds like things could be kicking off :-) exciting!

Just been told one of my best friends is pregnant, and you will never guess what, we share a due date, AND she's got the scan appointment after mine on Wednesday. Beyond over the moon at this as she had cancer last year and was told she wouldn't have babies naturally :-) xx

Wet fish needed at all the smiley faces in my above post. Though must admit it's better than all the doom and gloom of my recent posts!! x

Aww that's lovely news, amazing what can change for someone in a year, she must be extatic :-)

Thank you ladies. I think you are right Pixie and Aoife. I had a good cry in the shower, that always feels 'cealnsing', and I am feeling a bit better now. As I said to DP this eve, with the anxiety, you probably should distract yourself to help yourself but when you feel sad about something that is sad, well that's just how it is isn't it?

Also, mmc was October. The grief really hit me hard end of Nov/Dec. In Jan I literally felt myself emotionally turn a corner. Then we ttc and weeks later I was pregnant. So I went straight to anxiety and trying to appreciate being pg again. So it has been a while since I really had a run in with the grief. I don't know why I thought it would only be sad later in this pregnancy?! Eg my EDD is the same date I was in hosptial last year. Slightly odd logic!

So yes, I think it's a bit like I felt in December -just something I have to feel my way through not get over or get past but literally through. Think there are just going to be even more feelings over the next 2.5 weeks than I expected!

Anyway, enough about me. Kjh can we have that gin and tonic you mentioned earlier?!

Sending you all best wishes for tomorrow Total

alb if there is one thing I have learned this pregnancy it is sadly that some midwives just don't know their arse from their elbow. Sounds like unfortunately you got one of those. Some areas don't do the nuchal scan on the nhs but it doesn't sound like yours is one of them. You can get it done privately for about £100 but you shouldn't have to pay if you don't have to!

Sounds like things could be moving along fod and pixie, hope so! And pots of luck for tomorrow total, how exciting! Wouldn't it be great to have three thread babies on the same day

That's just lovely news about your friend MrsG .

DH is getting big into the prams now. Anything with suspension and proper tyres gets him excited. He has been on car forums asking other blokes for advice, oh dear

Regarding savoury snacks, I had a big thing for breadsticks in the first trimester. You can get little crisp sized packets that fit in your handbag, hopefully they are a bit healthier than crisps. I'm a bit worried I've let my healthy eating slip though - I've put on 3 lbs in the last week! Eek!

I'm so excited for her, it's amazing news and so much fun that we're going through this together.

She didn't know about my pregnancy till today either. Only reason we told each other is because she asked me to have her DC on Wednesday as she said she had hospital appointment. I though follow up for her cancer. I said I couldn't as I had doc appointment. She said she was desperate as no one else could have DC and could I change appointment. Told her no as my appointment was my 12 week scan. She was quiet then cried a bit. I thought it was cuz she was told no natural children etc and was sad for herself. Then she said "that's what my appointment is too". We were jumping round screaming and hugging each other. Just crazy our appointments are one after the other. Gonna go for lunch together with our DHs after if it's good news for us both. Also taking a trip up maternity to see a friend who had her baby last night and will tell her together both our news then.

Horray for posifrickintivity ;-)

That is a gurt lush story giraffe Best of luck to both of you.

mrsg I love stories like that, such wonderful news for your friend. There is hope for everyone

penguin I am lol-ing at your DH asking for advice on car forums!

Don't hold your breath for a thread baby from this corner tomorrow, period pains have stopped again now. Boo hiss. Still, that's another day of sitting on the sofa watching rubbish telly and eating biscuits for me tomorrow, every cloud eh

You couldn't make it up if you tried!!

Good luck to all having babies / scans this week x