Found out it's twin girls and people's reactions are making me upset

[Evie2014]

We just found out that the 20-week babies I'm expecting are both girls. I've only told a few people so far but now I don't want to tell anyone else in case the reactions hurt me more. So far I've had two people say: "Oh, what a pity one of them isn't a boy." One person even said (in presumably what she thought was a comforting way), "Don't worry, they do make mistakes- maybe one of them will turn out to be a boy."

I have a feeling this is going to get worse the more people we tell. We are expats living in a country where boys are valued more than girls. I know people are stupid but I can't help being really upset and angry. I am beginning to dread people commenting on my bump now, in case they ask the gender and then I have to deal with the "commiserations".

I'm probably over reacting here. Any nice comforting words?

Congratulations Evie, all the twin sisters I know are lifelong best friends

People are nob heads. We found out last week that DC2 is DD2 and ive lost count of how many people have asked me if im dissapponted!! My general reaction is how can i be disappointed in the daughter i havent even met yet! Ive told MIL to get over her disappointed before she arrives cos if she dares start when DD arrives then she just wont see her!!

Congratulations! I have twins. It is the best thing ever. Stuff the stupid comments - maybe people are jealous.

Congratulations x
2 daughters - fantastic
I have 2 daughters now 18 & 21
When the second was born all we got was 'oh what a shame,it would of been nice to have one of each'!
We decided we only wanted 2 children - quality of life etc etc
Wouldn't have it any other way - very happy x x
Just ignore them - as long as your babies are healthy and happy that us all that matters x
Good luck and congrats !
I hope your little family will be as happy as we have been x

Congratulations, I'd LOVE to have twin girls!

wtf? Who wouldn't be over the moon at twin girls!?

Congratulations OP!

has OliviaMumsnet commented yet?

she had twin girls in December and she is very happy!

Congratulations OP.

I also have twin DDs, much To the PIL's disgusto .

Either ignore, ignore and ignore some moré or, if you can do it go all PA on their stupidity and press for exactly what is wrong in their opinión with having twin DDs. Tell them you want a full and detailed explanación. Shuts most people up rather quickly.

Congratulations OP.

I also have twin DDs, much To the PIL's disgusto .

Either ignore, ignore and ignore some moré or, if you can do it go all PA on their stupidity and press for exactly what is wrong in their opinión with having twin DDs. Tell them you want a full and detailed explanación. Shuts most people up rather quickly.

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Op, I have two boys and I always get this stupid attitude of "you poor thing, wouldn't it be nice to have a girl?". No, I'm happy with two healthy boys. I'm pregnant again now I know the reaction if it's a boy again. I honestly don't care either way as after an mc in Oct, I will be happy with a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby, boy or girl. People can be thoughtless and pls don't let this upset you, your twin girls will be utterly delightful. This again is the reason we will not be sharing the name of the child before birth - too many opinions!

is it possible to say you don't know. i am only expecting one baby and genuinely don't know, my next door neighbour (who is in her 90s)thinks i want a girl, i find this a bit strange, but just politely ignore! i will be happy with whoever comes along!! i think twin girls sounds fantastic! congratulations!

Id say the best part of twins is getting to dress them the same haha I'd actually be disappointed to get one of each instead of two boys or two girls. Two girls will be absolutely precious xxx

MASSIVE CONGRATULATIONS!!! I have already DREAMT of having twins (only the one for me though this time!), and two wonderful daughters will be AMAZING!!! :-) Please don't let others' utterly IDIOTIC comments ruin this most exciting time for you…

MASSIVE CONGRATULATIONS!!! I have always DREAMT of having twins (only the one for me though this time!), and two wonderful daughters will be AMAZING!!! :-) Please don't let others' utterly IDIOTIC comments ruin this most exciting time for you…

Ooh you lucky thing, I am hoping this is twins inside this tummy of mine and not just all the junk food I've been scoffing

Please call them Jessica and Elizabeth!

Two girls are great, my two are 18 months apart and such partners in crime you wouldn't believe it. When we had DS though lots of people said 'you've got your boy now' approvingly (not quite as annoying admittedly). Thinking the best of them I think everyone assumes you want a 'gentleman's family' with a boy and a girl so try and think of it like that rather than disapproval of your two girls.

Don't tell people you know the gender or if you want to tell them then say 'Oh we're so happy it's two healthy girls'. Here's hoping you have a happy and healthy pregnancy and two lovely lovely girls!

Twin girls here (6 mths), they are lovely. But you must develop a thick skin, I get loads of idiotic comments (ALWAYS in Tesco) from nitbrains ('you poor thing', 'rather you than me','you've got your work cut out', 'one of each', etc etc) that I now just avoid eye contact or reply rudely to rude comments.

Again thank you all for the kind words. I have taken the advice and now say "Two BEAUTIFUL baby girls we are SO happy!!!" when asked. That jollies everyone along. Plus my own happiness is so infectious it's barging through any negativity.

I suggested calling them Mary Kate and Ashley but somehow DH doesn't seem too keen...

Good for you!!! My favourite retort to 'rather you than me' is 'I quite agree' :) it took us 5 days after baby girls were born to decide on names, not quite sure why we didn't think during the pregnancy?! Good luck with it all, and DON'T listen to the horror stories, for me everything was straightforward (natural labour, have breastfed, no complications etc) hope the same for you x