Weird stuff people say when they know you're pregnant...

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So, today we told everyone at work (me and DP work in same office) that we're pregnant! I'm 13+3 so have been dying for everyone to know!
Mostly had lovely happy positive responses but some just left me
"Were you trying or just practicing?" oh I'm sorry I didnt know it was appropriate to ask if you had regular sex with your other half!!!
"thats good its what you wanted as you're quite young" I'm 31 you fool.
"Well I never expected that of you" why not- you assume I'll make a bad mother?
"So thats why I always see you stuffing your face!"

I was also subjected to one of the oldest women in the office telling me how to care for my nipples if I intend to breast feed. She rarely talks to me but thinks its now ok to openly discuss my nipples in the office wtf?!!

I also had my 'bump' rubbed....erm thats just my tubby tummy but thanks for that!

I'm only 20, and a full time uni student - so it's obviously not planned. Whilst most reactions have been great (my grandma in tears of joy for example) I had one guy on Facebook chat (an old friend from school) start saying things like "well you're going to prove the world wrong, and show them it's no bad thing to have a baby at this age" No one had ever assumed that anyway or at least no one voiced it.. I thought it was rude to even consider that I have to prove the world wrong :/ I'm in a strong relationship, me and my partner have good job prospects and we are financially well off - and yet I have to justify how it's not a negative thing to have a baby at my age (i am from a middle/upper middle class background so snobbery is everywhere).
Wow. I've never ranted about that before.

I've had people telling me how I've put on weight and look good for it especially on my face, I haven't put more than a few pounds on since I became pregnant. Cheeky sods! I've also had the belly touches from people I don't consider close enough to do that. I find it really awkward though, and I'm really no good in awkward situations :(

most of the above, but mainly "are you mad"

also had "haven't you heard of condoms? "

(#7 is due in July)

I keep getting told by one person that I have that look about my face that all pregnant women get near the end - I said, what knackered, but no. Aparently it's some sort of "special look about you" that makes your face look different which happens when you hit about 37 weeks. I have absolutely no ide what the hell shes on about (she can be a bit barmy). I keep asking people but nobody else can shed any light on it either

There's a guy at my work who I've met exactly twice and twice he's made a comment about my body - last time it was "still only got one in there?" (FYI, I've put on all of 9lb at 30 weeks and the day he said that to me I was going for a scan to check baby was growing properly, which fortunately he was) and I just gave him an unamused look. Third strike and he's out though!

So it's wrong to slap people who touch your bump? asking for a friend :)

Oh yes, lots of "was it planned?" (couldn't win either way), "are you mad? I couldn't do it so young?" (fwiw, we're married, pg in our mid-20s), "wow, sure it's not twins?!" (no, one isn't hiding behind the other, and fyi, I'm not even that big! ), "yes, your face is much fuller" (hmph!), "is your mum/dad happy?" (yes, actually!)...

DSM telling me to slow down or else I'll induce prem labour wasn't entirely appreciated.

The biggest issue for everyone, however, was that I we didn't want to find out the sex beforehand. People actually got annoyed with me! Other pg mums in the antenatal class called me 'brave' (and you'd think they'd know better!), others thought I was being ridiculous. Well, we found out once DS was born, we prepared ourselves just fine without advance notice, and it was lovely. And we will do the same with any future DC. Ha!

For balance, though, when pg and showing I had a woman in Marks tell me that I was blossoming and looked lovely. I appreciated that

I'm 38, have 2 teens, a fairly chaotic lifestyle and the baby has DS.
I've had:
Are you mad?
Was it planned?
Don't you think you're too old?
How will you afford it?
Why do you want another, you already have 2?
And my personal favourite:
Why don't you get an abortion and have another try?

Saggy

fucking hell, that is just a horrible, disgusting thing to say to you! poor you!

when I had my MC (5th pg) the person I though was my best friend said she was happy that baby didn't make it coz she had been worried how I'd cope with five.
it was really tough loosing my girl and my best friend in a short few weeks.

needless to say I hardly talk to her (she is godmother to one of them so occasionally I have to)
and we are going coping with 6 and no doubt when this baby is born will cope with 7.
fucking bitch...

Saggy and Zing, my jaw literally dropped, and lots of happiness and fun for you both.

Thankfully I take absolutely no notice!
Zing, congratulations on number 7.

thanks both. so excited!

and congrats on your baby too Saggy

it will be a challenge with the DS aspect, but there's a lot of support thankfully.
you take care!

"Well if you will have Two" from FIL. I was carrying twins, concieved naturally. It's not like I had a fucking choice.

And breath.

Disclaimer- I am and always have been delighted To have twins and I do not feel that peope having IVF should limit themselves To one at a time. Although my areshole FIL might. I wouldn't know, I never solicit his opinión.

'aw well, there's worse that could happen than a baby'.
Or something along those lines. From MIL after our dating scan.

I went to an engagement party last month - 34 weeks I was. I've never been touched and rubbed by so many people ever lol. I didn't mind that, it was quite cute actually. Everyone was drunk and everyone had something NICE to say.

Ummmm just told work colleagues and for the most part they were nice! But one odd comment.....

"We will buy you nice thick tights for your varicose veins!!"

Eh?!

Anna

when are you due? have you joined any of the antenatal "buses" yet?
I'm on the July bus - maybe see you there.

Hi Zing,

I wasn't aware there were any busses... Where can they be found? My edd is 30th June, just on the borderline!!

I've had...

Was it planned?

You're mad starting again (DS is 14)

Are you married (I'm 40 yrs old, why wouldnt I be married!? and what does it matter!?)

Countless baby death horror stories grr

Does your DS think its weird that his parents are still having sex (what!?)

You shouldnt be driving

... and if one more person thinks it ok to come over and pull my coat open to look at my shape I will punch them (pregnant women are exempt from violence laws right?)

I overheard an amazing one in my office (my last job).

One of the HR managers was pregnant - she was one of those people that just get a lovely neat bump on her teeny frame ( )

One of the senior sales guys had a really long look at her and said "your arse is bigger now you're knocked up" then a really long pause then, thoughtfully "I prefer it though".

Am aghast at some of the comments people have had! How are you not all in prison for murder? I would be (or maybe you are...).

Someone does need to market the t shirt that says "you toucha my bump, I breaka your face". I'd take a dozen.

Anna The June thread is here: June Ante-Natal Bus

Here's Zing's July one: July Bus

I've had two colleagues downright scandalised and screeching at me when I said I wanted to find out the sex of the baby, and since they won't tell us here was thinking of getting a private sexing scan in January. They're usually quite rational and nice ladies!

I had a lot of eating comments from co-workers, who didn't have kids.

"Ooooh you're having coffee, are you allowed to have coffee, is that okay? Well it's nice that you are just doing what you please, and eating what you please rather than listening to all the paranoia...."

"Ooooh and are you having a biscuit with it, so you are allowed biscuits too....."

On and on it went.

I should have gone in with a raw sheep spine in a baguette in my lunchbox.