PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

Oh ickle and fedup really hoping that you are both ok and getting lots of support in RL. Sending virtual hugs and holding thumbs for both of you xx

Kat I had an entire Terry's choc orange for dinner on Saturday night while I was watching Strictly... and nothing else, this baby is getting top quality nutrition I tell you!

For some stupid reason DH and I decided to completely redo our bathroom and so we've had builders in banging around from 8am for the past 10 days and no access to a loo or shower - which has all handily managed to coincide with the back/hip/pelvic pain becoming so bad I'm only getting about two/three hours sleep a night. GP referred me to a physio a week ago and I've heard nothing - can't get hold of anyone at the hospital either so in desperation I've booked myself into the private physio down the road. The thought of having to go into work tonight is making me want to sit down and sob - but I had two sick days last week so there is no way I can just stay at home. I have to say, the thought of early mat leave is becoming more and more attractive.

ickle I wouldn't worry yet, it's still very early. Did they tell you how big the sac was? Were you the one whose cbd test showed 3+ yesterday? If so, and assuming the thing is accurate, which we all know it isn't but let's pretend for now, the you won't be far over 2000 hcg today. According to this chart you wouldn't be able to see the yolk sac until at least 5000 hcg, which you could well be at tomorrow but be able to see nothing today.

www.babymed.com/hcg-level-in-early-pregnancy

I had a gestational sac of 8mm at 5+1 but no yolk and no fetal pole but when I went back one week later everything was in place, growing fine and there was a heart beat.

fedup I'm very sorry about your news, could it also be too early to see anything for you too?

I've had my first bit of good news in weeks today as went back for a second ultrasound after my 12 week bloods came back somewhat high risk for trisomy 13/18 (1:305) and it looks like everything is physically ok and there are no abnormal physical markers present. As trisomy 13/18 are such severe disorders, abnormalities do tend to show up in ultrasounds by this stage and because my risk was only moderate (due to low hormone levels) I have decided to forego further testing and am going to assume everything is fine with baby. We also found out the sex today and we are having a little boy! DH is ecstatic and I am very pleased, for me it makes it just a touch more real now. I am also waiting for test results from the hospital to make sure I'm free of infection so that they can stitch up my incompetent cervix and although I'm scared of the procedure I know it's the right thing to do for my little boy.

I hope it's ok to join you ladies for a bit of hand holding. I am 6 weeks + 5 and am generally bricking it after 3 miscarriages this year. First scan on Wednesday when I'll be 7 weeks and hoping against hope to see a heartbeat.
I have a gorgeous 2 and a bit year old girl who has kept me just about sane this year and I hope more than anything to give her a brother or sister.
Been following this thread for a while now; even during my last pregnancy but was too chicken shit to say hello. So "hello". I think you are all amazing at hand holding.
Ickle and Fedup, so sorry you are having these anxious times. Just rubbish and completely unfair.

ickle and fedup really sorry the scans haven't gone well for you.

ickle dates are funny things. My last period was in September. If you go by that date I am 13 weeks. I am most definitely not, and knew I wasn't. I just randomly had a really long cycle and got pg on it. They've dated me based on baby size I think, and that works with my ov date. On friday I was 8 weeks so I counted back and 6 weeks prior to that was the day after I ov, according to the app I was using. So it could be too early to see much for you. Try to hold on till your next scan.

fedup I'm sorry you're in such turmoil, but hopefully by admitting you they will find out what is going on one way or another. We'll all be thinking of you.

Hello scone welcome to the thread. Good luck for your scan on Wednesday.

Aw fedup I'm so so sorry it sounds bad for you. I hope its not an ectopic. Much love and thinking of you xxx

ickle as others have said, hopefully it's just too early for you, and something will show up next week. Hugs xxx

Welcome Scone, congrats and everything crossed for this one to be sticky!

{{{{hugs}}}} for fedup.
Im so sorry that things look bad for you. A positive point is that if the PG is ectopic then it's early days and they are on the case. The longer an ectopic is left the worse the effects. Take care. xx

medusa, I took the cb test Sat evening & it reached 3+ after an eternity. I'm pretty sure I'm 5+4 based on OV & from what I've read the earliest a yolk sac is seen is 5+5. Wish I hadn't been scanned early. I know they did this as was concerned about ectopic but now that worry' sovereign I've now got the "is it another mmc?" worry. If I only felt pg I'd feel better. What I wouldn't give to have my head down the toilet bowl!

Thanks for the support everyone - you're my saviours at the mo x

"Sovereign'? Should be 'now that's over'. Damn iPhone!

It doesn't get any better. I'm 26 weeks and I'm now worrying about premature labour! My bladder has all but given up and I keep thinking "are my waters leaking"...
And then we have the babies and the worry really starts!

Ickle it really does sound like things could be fine for you. When will they scan you again?

saggy, just one worry after another eh? My pg was DD was problem free til 34 weeks when I went into early labour, she was desperate to come early & she's still an early riser now! Wish I could be more like that again! Just keep thinking back to Feb when I thought all was fine til a scan revealed the MMC. Had the same nurse in the room today that delivered the news before. Trying not to be superstitious.

scone welcome to you! How are you doing? Got another scan next Weds. Going to be a long 10 days :-(

Hello everyone

fedup really sorry to hear your scan didn't go well. I really hope you've got lots of real life support and good care in hospital - as saggy says, if it's ectopic then it's good that they're on the case early. So shit though. Hugs.

ickle keeping my fingers crossed for you that your dates are out and that's why they can't see a yolk sac. Those days waiting for a follow-up scan do seem to take an AGE so keep busy if you can! I think it was you that said about your DH being annoyed with your 'pessimism' (aka totally understandable fear, anxiety and hope - lethal combination) - my DH is the same. And I agree with what others have said, that we probably need this to balance things out, otherwise two emotional wrecks would just be too much in one household.

Actually DH and I had a totally weird conversation at the weekend, prompted by my finding out that one of my friends has just discovered at her 3 month scan that her baby doesn't have a heartbeat - and he said something like, well it's probably just a temporary setback. I tied myself in knots and got extremely emotional (and angry if I'm honest) trying to explain that even if you found nothing but a sac there (as we did for my mmc in March) you still feel like you have in some way lost a baby, or what you hoped would be a baby. He genuinely thinks this is illogical and that you can't grieve for a baby you lost when it wasn't there, or that was only (his words) 'a bundle of cells'. He thought that the main thing that had upset me about the mc was the fear that we wouldn't be able to have children, and therefore the fact that mc was so common should be 'comforting'. I said the last bit was true in so far as there were other people who understood how you felt, but knowing that other people had gone through the same crappy situation was not 'comforting', just sad. God I was boiling with rage (and typing this is making me angry all over again) but really tried to keep calm and explain my point of view. Then he got angry and upset with me because he said he hadn't realised I felt like that and how could he have misunderstood my pain for six months? At which point I gave up because quite frankly the conversation was futile. He is otherwise such a thoughtful, caring, lovely person but I think that it is very very hard for them to understand how ttc and then cm makes us feel. But really AAARGH!!!

Sorry for the rant.

On a happier note, Terry's chocolate orange. Mmm. kat and kjh one of you is going to have to call your baby terry

And santa and kat I'm with you on the building works! Builders arrived to start installing new bathroom and downstairs loo today. Busy planning new kitchen to be installed end feb / beg March - but will probably end up being later. Baby due beginning April - this is so clearly not a great idea! santa have you got somewhere else to go when baby arrives or are you camping out at home?!

Mc not cm, obviously

thinking of you both ickle and fedup - Im so sorry to hear your news - lots of hugs to you both

Im 5+5 and no symptoms so really panicking - slight wave of nausea but nothing really noticeable and I don't have a scan for a few weeks

I think those clearblue digis are so stressful and I hope they're not accurate - I took a test at only 4 weeks and it showed up as pregnant 3+ which it could no way have been as my LMP was only 28 days before so my confidence in them has completely vanished - now panicking what scarily high hcg levels and no symptoms means - google is just not a friend at the moment as it came up with all sorts of scary scenarios and Ive decided that its best to steer well clear of google and tests!

Big hugs to fedup and ickle - these early days are just so hard for everyone - its turned me into one huge worry ball :(

blueskies I have no symptoms either. Trying not to attribute that to anything negative but it's difficult! I only started to develop symptoms with DD around 7 weeks but I'd have had the scan by that point to determine a viable pg. I've only know I've been pg 2 weeks (tested 2 days before period was due) & it's been the longest 2 weeks ever!

Sorry to hear you're worrying about your scan ickle - fingers crossed your dates are a bit behind and everything turns out okay for you, hope the next 10 days go quick for you. X

Fedup - Sorry to hear your news hope you're being well looked after and that it's not ectopic. X

I am sooooo scared for my scan tomorrow morning, don't think I will be able to sleep tonight....

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Fed up I hope you're being well looked after.
Ickle, sounds like your chances are still good so try to hold on to that.
Over good luck tomorrow!

I'm on day 3 of being signed off and so far not doing well with the taking it easy. Although sitting is so uncomfortable I don't have much choice but to be up and about. On the plus side my house is gleaming, iv sorted ALL DDs art supplies so I know what we need for Xmas, and my tree is getting delivered tomorrow. Also have the baby stuff down out the loft which was weird, doesn't feel like time yet, but DP was keen to do his bit and build the crib as I did everything for the bedroom when I was having DD.

Sorry to hear ickle and fedup are having tough times.

I've got some horrible teary hormones. Two weeks of crying at pretty much anything at all. Didn't have this with the others. Yuck. Broadly all right with everything else though but I am wondering whether I've got the start of a rectocele. Fab

fedup so sorry it is not good news, thinking of you xxx

ickle I'm sorry you've not had positive news either, I really hope your dates are out and it could still be ok xxx

scone and over welcome hope you have trouble free pregnancies. Thinking of all of you going through the anxiety of the first 12 if not 20 weeks. It does pass and get better but its so hard working through the milestones of previous mcs and scans

saggy I also know that fear especially since developing a bad cough, my poor bladder is not coping but every time I think oh no is it my waters. Silly but another step along the stressy journey we are on!

Sympathising with all the renovation or bathroomless ladies, why do we think pregnancy is a good time for these projects me and 3 of my friends all undertook bathroom reno in our first pregnancies it was some kind of weird compulsion that overtook us! typically my bathroom was removed the week I fell and could no longer walk due to my pelvis collapsing in on itself, that was fun and another friend's straightforward new bathroom resulted in 4mths of work when the floor fell through while they were taking out the old bathroom! she didn't even get home in time for her baby arriving, they were still living with ILs

incidentally I am at the exact point in my last pregnancy where I ended up on crutches and immobile due to the fall and subsequent SPD. Feeling v lucky not to be as badly affected this time. Nights are v painful turning over but walking short distances is going ok and I'm hopeful I'll manage to stick work out for another few weeks.

janie lovely to hear you and Leo are home

miss lovely news re: your tests and congratulations on having a little boy!

santa sorry your work aren't cutting you any slack, how rude. Not long now though.

So I'm in hospital. Being monitored every hour. They couldn't find a sac in uterus. I had some bleeding in pelvis area but couldn't see where it can from. It's unclear if I need surgery or not with camera to see what's going on so I'm nil by mouth since 11 am. On a drip now but still starving.

So don't really know what's going on. I do know this is breaking me though, and ttc after this will be even harder, if I can do it again at all.

Thanks for all your best wishes xx

Oh fedup I'm so sorry . Massive hugs {{{{{{}}}}}}

I hope everything turns out ok for you ickle. Early days yet but I'm sure the wait until your next scan will be agonising. We will be here for you!

Welcome scone, good luck for your scan on weds, and good luck for tomorrow over.

I've been getting pains at the base of my spine and top of my bum. Am I being paranoid or could it be the start of SPD? I have a midwife appointment on Friday, wondering if it is worth mentioning it.

Oh fedup you poor thing. Life is mighty unfair sometimes. I am sending you hugs and lots of hand holding. Be gentle with yourself and try not to think too far ahead at the moment - get through each hour as it comes. Sending love. x