PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

Aw ickle, everything crossed for you for tomorrow xxx

Hi ickle good luck tomorrow. Whatever happens, at least you know. But take comfort in that your symtoms of ectopic stopped - ie the pain and discharge have gone. And at 3 weeks were very early so prob more like implantation for you? Can you take anyone with you? A family member or best friend? Just so you aren't going on your own... Thanks for CBD stuff, am still not going to use one. As not sure can cope if still says 1 to 2!!

Thanks saggy I'm sorry you had an ectopic. But sounds good that it miscarried and no tube damage. i think tomorrow morning I will be making a lot of phone calls. Got this trapped wind feeling on left side which can also be a symptom but in could be imagining it / could just have trapped wind!

Still in bed (lie in day) so not yet sure what today's discharge will bring. But haven't woken up feeling particularly pregnant!

Hi gang. I've got scan this morning and I'm basically shitting myself. Trying to think positively, and crossing my fingers.

Fingers hugely crossed for you ickle and fedup for scans tomorrow. Hoping all is well for both of you.

Good luck for the scan gold!

Ickle and fedup, try to stay positive!

Welcome getta and any other newbies too! Congratulations! Today you are pregnant.

fedup and ickle I think most of us reading through your concerns are having vivid flashbacks to our own first few weeks. I too had brown discharge and twingey pains. I convinced myself for a few days the pregnancy was ectopic. After speaking to a friend who went through an actual ectopic pregnancy I realised it couldn't possibly be one, my symptoms were nowhere near as severe.

And this is the main problem with Dr Google. You can pretty much find something awful wrong with either you or the baby that can usually be explained away as normal pregnancy symptoms. I'm saying this with the perfect hindsight of 20/20 vision. It is impossible to stop worrying in the early days. In my first pregnancy I was overcome with an overwhelming sense that something just wasn't right. DH told me I was being paranoid. When I mc'd felt like my instincts had been justified - I just knew something was wrong. Those same 'instincts' have been proved incorrect every single time something felt off or 'just not right' in this pregnancy. Every time I've gotten myself into a panic about bleeding/cramping/excessive morning sickness/strange stabby pains/disappearing symptoms and hurried off to EPU - the baby has been just fine.

This fact doesn't make me worry any less. As I write this I'm trying hard to forget my anomaly scan is in five days. And I'm trying even harder to quell the panic that my run of good luck is coming to an end. That I'm going to find that something is dreadfully wrong with this baby and that somehow I've failed again.

The only advice to give is that you will get through the first trimester, that you will most likely have spotting or cramping (or god forbid bleeding) of some sort and it is perfectly common. I would definitely say never, ever hesitate about going to EPU if you feel something is wrong or seeing your GP or phoning your midwife. I had four scans in the first trimester - two at the EPU, one private and then the 12-weeks scan. The midwives I saw were wonderful. They accepted I'd had a horrible experience with the MC, they reassured me I wasn't being paranoid and they took all my symptoms and fears seriously. Post on this forum too - sharing your fears and getting feedback from wonderful women who have been in the same boat is marvellously reassuring. Good luck both of you next week. I have fx for you and I'm hopeful you'll both be just fine xx

For those agonising over HCG levels ( that was me a few wks ago!) I found the link below very useful.

www.babymed.com/hcg-level-in-early-pregnancy

Good lick for the scannees today and tomorrow, fingers crossed for you all.

gold hope all goes well at scan.

Thanks everyone for the positivity and support. Just got to not associate every little twinge with MC or ectopic. Taking DD out this morning to take my mind off things!

kjh thank you for such an honest post, makes me feel comforted some what! Wow, 20 weeks scan soon. I can imagine it's both exciting and anxious. I went through my pg with DD stress-free - what I'd give to be like that again!!

ickle I couldn't open your link but those numbers can't be right. At 5 weeks (3+ weeks on cbd) there's no way you should be a 20,000. It wouldn't be possible (or at least usual) to go from 200 to 20,000 in just one week considering the normal rate of doubling every 2 days.

(I made a mistake in my last post because I misremembered 6 weeks as being 3+)

As every one else says, the week indicator is just not accurate. In my last pg, when the test did flip over from 2-3 weeks to 3+ exactly on the 5 week mark, the pg ended in mc. In this one it didn't and I'm now almost 17 weeks.

Have now been able to open the link and I have found where they say 3+ = 20,000. It can't be right though, I don't know if it's a typo or if my calculations are completely off. Every other reference I've found says you should be around 2,000 at 5 weeks.

Good luck with your scan today, we have all been there and we're all thinking of you and hoping for the best :)

It's all so confusing! Gave in & bought another cb digital (bad ickle!) but it has now moved onto the 3+ mark. If I go by LMP I am 5+5 but is that based on a 28 day cycle? I think I mixture OVed the 15th Nov as had surge of 13th & 14th which if that's true, would I only be 5+2?

This time tomorrow I'll know whether it's ectopic or not. As I said earlier all the symptoms have gone but I have a feeling like I've got a "lump" of some kind in my ribs. Sometimes I can feel it, sometimes I can't. Really hope I'm imagining it!!

mixture? Mean "must have"!!

Morning ladies, especially the ladies on first trimester on symptom watch!! I'm right here with you. I'm 8+4 and still trying to take everyday as it comes. Doing the regular pants check, worried that I'm not feeling as sick, my boobs aren't hurting as much, or I'm not as tired as i was. That I'm having mild cramps. My Mum made a good point. Just like everybody is different and individual so is every PG, because we are making individual people. So I'm trying not to worry and panic that my symptoms are lessening. I haven't had a scan yet, but when I have my booking in appointment at 10 weeks, I'm going to talk to the MW. I didn't get that far with my last PG. So crossing all my fingers. All I can do it try not to panic. I'm not really succeeding, but I'm trying.

The hand holding on here has been great so far, and together we can all get through this. Today we are pregnant.

Hey everyone...can I please join you. I need some handholding over the next couple of days.

Currently around 6 weeks pregnant, having an early scan on Tuesday morning to check location of pregnancy as I am classed as high risk following an ectopic pregnancy 6 months ago which unfortunately ruptured at 8 weeks and I lost my right tube.

I am so scared and wishing my life away until Tuesday so I can have some answers! I too have been stressing about the CB digital tests...not tested since Thursday when it still read 2-3, was really tempted to buy another yesterday but I have resisted.

I don't really have many symptoms either which doesn't help the paranoia!

I recognise a lot of you from the conception thread, glad you all seem to be doing well!

X

It is a typo! CB confirmed it! It should say 2, 000 not 20, 000 in the leaflet.

Ickle I hope all is fine tomorrow, and you haven't had any horrendous pain? I've read that ectopic pregs are excruciatingly painful. Obviously, you really don't want that but it's good to know how sore it can get, so you know what warning signs you need to look for.

Hi overanxious, I know I'm so overanxious! Sorry yo hear about your ectopic, but sounds as though left tube is doing it's job!

I had the scan this morning. They were very annoyed with me as I didn't really meet the criteria for a 40 quid scan. The receptionist won't be winning customer service awards, but the sonographer was lovely. Most importantly baby looks like a baby, moving and kicking and waving and sonographer put me at 10+6, which I'm really pleased about, as that's a little ahead of my dates. Got nuchal scan on 23 december so hoping we can share some good news with family after that.

Thanks Kat My scan is at 8.30am so luckily first thing done and dusted! How far along are you now? x

Hi getagold...glad your scan went well. x

Not having the best day. Didn't sleep well last night, so had an extra nap this morning but still exhausted. Off food so haven't eaten much today. Don't really feel sick but just very 'meh' about food. Just want to SLEEP!

Kjh5 thank you for your note, it really meant a lot to know you totally get what i'm going through. this is way harder than the mc. but i knew it would be. I'm essentially an emotional wreck. Would have found it hard anyway, but with blood for a week now i'm just really wrestling with this one and trying not to totally lose the plot.
I like the bit about "your just not right" feelings actually being incorrect. as so much is always about 'instinct' but i think we talk ourselves into stuff sometimes. Probably a protecting mechanism. DH said to me earlier though that perhaps we should prepare for the worst. He is as freaked out as I am by all this.
I'm calling EPU tomorrow morning but do think its too early for them to scan me. Wow, good luck for your anomaly scan, that's gone quick!

Naughty ickle, naughty! but please your numbers have risen. I'm not doing one again, i'm really not. Just going to wait if/til i'm far along enough for a scan and take it from there.

geta yay for scan news! sod the silly receptionist, what was the criteria you failed to meet?! Great news though,and give me hope as i know you from the other thread and the bleeding / gunge you had like i've got now.

louzel i like your mum's comment. that is true. I'm spending the whole time comparing this pregnancy to my first and second (mc) but whats the point, right? Its a different person (just welled up at writing that, as what if i never get to meet them, what if its just another stupid big sac like my mmc?). ugh. this is so hard.

nerdy they are all good signs and symptoms.

just wanted to say best of luck to all you who've got scans this week - I will keep my fingers crossed for you that they go well

It is so hard - this pg is such a worrying time for us all in this early time

I am 5+4 and am panicking about my lack of symptoms but feel like nerdy - absolutely shattered and like I just want to sleep and am not feeling sick but just very "meh" about food like the thought of it is very unappealing when Im normally a BIG eater and the one thing I get very excited about. I did feel nauseous yesterday which I was very happy about! as it was the only reassuring symptom Ive had yet - the only thing that made me less nauseous was to eat - very weird but it did pass thankfully in time to make the dinner in the evening for the family

just wondering if I went for a scan at 6 weeks is this too early?

Having an emotional moment so excuse me for sounding melodramatic or depressive! Tried talking to DH but he's getting annoyed with my pessimism. Got the scan in 14 hour's time and feeling so sick at the thought, wish it was morning sickness but again it's another day with no pg symptoms at all. Don't know how I'm going to cope if it's discovered it's ectopic. After this horrendous year of MC, 2 surgeries and being told we'd need fertility treatment to conceive, I'm not sure I can take any more bad news.

Sorry if I'm ruining your Sunday night - just needed a ramble without being told to stop wallowing.

Blueskies- my pregnancy related nausea always eased off when I ate. Combination of tiredness and low blood sugar always made it worse xxx

Ickle- your dh probably doesn't know what to say to make you feel better. If he's anything like mine, he tries not to dwell on things too much. Keep talking on here xxx

Hello everyone thank you so much for all your lovely messages about the arrival of my little guy. I haven't had a chance to catch up since he was born but will hopefully get some time tomorrow. We only got out of hospital tonight, Leo had a suspected infection so they made us stay in while he was on an antibiotic drip. But all is now well thankfully!

I just wanted to thank every single one of you for helping me through every day of this batshit crazy journey. I really don't think I would have got through all of the ups and downs without the help of you all. You are like close friends and I am so lucky to have found you all.

Hopefully tomorrow I'll be able to catch up with everything I've missed while I hand the reigns over to DH for an hour or two!

Big love and heaps of posifrickintivity to you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxx