PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

Thanks kata and chocolate
I'm trying not to worry too much but it's the not knowing that I find difficult. I know there's nothing that can be done if it is going wrong, but having to wait through christmas and new year to find out is really hard.

EPU said just monitor it and call them if it gets worse. It's still there but isn't worse. It's basically like normal discharge but pale brown instead of clear or creamy. They didn't seem worried but I'm not so sure.
I would just like to hide under the duvet at this point, but have work to catch up on and christmas stuff to organise. Can barely concentrate though.

Sorry to be on a downer.

Hi Nerdy, I don't know if this is any help, but once I'd got to the point where I started to wish that the baby would just hurry up and miscarry so I could stop having to hope, it seemed to get better somehow. It's a bit dreadful that it has to get to that stage for some of us to cope with PG after MC, but there you go, I'm certainly not going to judge myself for it. Holding hands online, and thinking about you over the next few days x

Nerdy, it's crap isn't it, the waiting. Thinking of you.

Emki, hope the scan goes well on Wednesday!

After being all worried, there were the sprogs, wriggling for all they were worth. Apparently one placenta is anterior, which is probably why I haven't sometimes felt much in the way of movement. We saw them really clearly, and they both look fine and normal and.... both boys, if the sonographer got it right! I am going to be so outnumbered.

nerdy, don't be sorry with us, that is what we are for. remember that no change is a good thing and try to focus on those things you have got to do, it will make the time go more quickly.

the pig, congrats on scan news, twin boys sounds like double trouble!

pig congratulations! Two boys - fantastic, well done you!

nerdy I can only repeat what others have said and if its still the same then you really mustn't worry. hugs to you so stressful.

Just popped in to say come on baby choc! Hope baby makes an appearance soon

Congrats on the scan news ladies, all these DS's! And big congrats on the BFP's.

All good here with DS who is now 17 days old and piling on the weight

Remember, today you are pregnant. Sending every ounce of posifrickinitivity your way and hope you all have dull pregnancies X

pig lovely scan news - twin boys is fantastic!

booty great to hear you've got to 3cm dilated without noticing. Hopefully things happen for you soon.

choc hope you're doing ok. Won't be long now!

santa well done for working up to 38 wks. Hopefully u don't go into labour at work or on Christmas eve.

nerdy hope the discharge stops and u can try and take your mind off things for a few days.

Just popping in to say hi!

Welcome newbies and congrats on the bfps!

congrats thepig- healthy bouncing twin boys is fabulous news!

I'm due end of this week and starting to really feel it! Even having waves of first-trimester nausea, eg when opened the fridge this morning (I've just cleaned it!! But think my jar of "very lazy garlic" might have leaked )

Anyway hope everyone is well. Cbeebies if you're reading, thinking of you! Xx

Ooh yes very exciting booty! I'm half hoping for similar news at my sweep on thurs but shouldn't get my hopes up as no symptoms yet!

Nerdy- hope the discharge stops or you can get more reassurance. Sone of the ladies here have had bleeding and discharge throughout. Xx

Hi ladies, welcome to those with bpfs or just joining us this week, hope you have smooth uneventful pregnancies x

nerdy have a big hug and I'm sorry you're feeling stressed, I really hope the discharge isn't anything to worry about but know you won't be able to relax until it settles. Keep talking about your worries xx

thinking of cbeebies - hope you are ok. miss hope you are alright as well-will you be on bed rest for the duration now? Sounds hard work but worth it for a healthy baby xx

hi booty nice to hear from you, hope all goes smoothly for you, keep us updated! choc santa blackholes and christine not long now! hope you can all avoid Christmas day, I totally understand the anxiety of wanting to be there Christmas morning, I would be heart broken to miss it especially this year as at 3 DD is so into it all now. however I'm sure she wouldn't notice if I wasn't there as long as the stocking was! I guess what will be will be. You could always think of it as popping out to get them the biggest present ever- a sibling!

garden so pleased wolfie is putting on weight, you must be so chuffed have been thinking of all you ladies with new ones and hoping you're doing ok. Can't wait to join you!

DD first Christmas play today. Excited

Ooh yes very exciting booty! I'm half hoping for similar news at my sweep on thurs but shouldn't get my hopes up as no symptoms yet!

Nerdy- hope the discharge stops or you can get more reassurance. Sone of the ladies here have had bleeding and discharge throughout. Xx

Nerdy I hope you're ok.
Pig - amazing news on twin boys, how lovely. You have a DS at home don't you?
Garden so glad to hear little Wolfie is doing well.
Black il be keeping my fingers crossed that you baby doesn't have you missing Christmas!
How scary that iv made the 'not long now' group! I've still not accepted that its really happening just yet. 34 weeks now, but with baby measuring at 37 I'm thinking/hoping they might come early. Preferably after Xmas as I'm away from DP until he comes to join us on Xmas eve!

Well still here and still pregnant (weird that after you reach EDD that isn't such a good thing )
Had some crampy pains last night and figured "this is it" but was just me needing a number 2 which eventually came at 1am. Now have odd gripes pains but really just feel like stretching and LO kicking me in the bladder and back. Frustrated as DS was quite straightforward - show, then contractions which built steadily.
Have been stupidly on mn reading about lengthy drawn out first stage labours

Blackholes good luck for Thursday

Hi all: I'm going crazy!
I went to the gp this morning just to get this pregnancy logged and ask her about the weird crampy pains that i've been getting.
I knew she'd say to go just away and try to relax, that they don't mean anything at this stage and that while I can get an early scan it isn't worth it until 7-8 weeks.
And that's exactly what she said - but then I had a mini breakdown, couldn't stop crying, and ended up having to go and drag hubby out of work for a couple of hours to calm me down.
ARGH!!
I expect it's pregnancy hormones, the stress of worry about another mc, and the stress of moving from the UK to australia in a weeks time all getting the better of me..... but I still felt like an idiot walking through the streets crying.
How do I calm down?

sorry for the memememe post, and good luck for all the upcoming births!

Hiya all, have read through a bit of the thread, lots of lovely bubbas due thats nice to hear :) Im glad there are positive stories on here to help with the worry!!

Dont worry Aly Im totally feeling the same and DH although chuffed to bits isnt really as excited as I would like him to be down to sheer anxiety we will lose this bubba too its hard being positive all the time but good advice to focus on other areas and try to take your mind off it all. Im quite lucky and have three DS's to keep me busy (only one at home during the day) but if I didnt it would prob be exercise/baking/other hobbies !!!

We have decided to book in for a reassurance scan after xmas so about 7-8 weeks privately. Ive never had one that early so not sure what to expect!!!!

Gosh aly no wonder you are feeling overwhelmed if you are moving to Australia on top of all of this, I would be having breakdowns just at the sheer organisation of all of that, let alone with the pregnancy anxiety on top of it

Be kind to yourself- don't try and deal with everything at once - and maybe make a daily list so you can focus on something but also not give yourself too much to do at once. I agree with kat regular distraction got me through the first 12 weeks, and I kept promising myself private scans if I made such and such week etc (although I never actually went for one, managed to hold on until 10wk NHS - I had mc'd at 8/9wks though so I felt earlier scans wouldn't necessarily reassure me).

Is there anyone you can sit down with and have a good heart to heart and some with?

I'm still reeling at the thought of moving continents just before Christmas, bless you! Do you have family at the other end? Will be amazing to go into summer though

Aly, that is a lot to deal with! Pixielady has good advice - when I came on here fretting and whittling and neurotic, someone mentioned the mantra 'Today I am pregnant'. It really helped me take it one day at a time. I hope you can find some peace and quiet and time for yourself among all the big events.

Yay Christine for getting into the 'not long now' group! Hope baby holds on until after Christmas for you! Also, go Booty and Blackholes for, er, pre-Christmas babies.

Thanks for the good wishes! Christine, I do have a DS already. Would anyone like to borrow him for a while? I don't know if its his age (3yrs 11 months) or just Xmas excitement but he's rather high energy at the moment. My sister was visiting the other day, and he was doing something annoying and noisy, and she looked at him, looked at me with a grin and said: 'You're going to have three of them. Hur hur.' Me: 'Sob'.

Aly I was exactly the same and still am. Its totally normal to feel like that, of course you are going to be anxious, scared, petrified. I am feeling the same - but please do follow the tips above 'today I am pregnant' all you can do is take one day at a time. Look after yourself and yes give yourself lots of treats.

PS - please say with us on this thread when you are in OZ - where are you going? Back home - I seem to remember you are Australian.... Aly's hand very tightly for the next few weeks until her early scan]

thepig they are going to be awesome company for each other though, their own ready made gang!!

Aly "today yoy are PG."
One day at a time. Throw yourself wholeheartedly into the move and try not to think about the pg.
As for crying in the street, who cares what others think. Ive been standing on my stall today crying quietly because I'm so tired. anyone v who doesn't like it can lump it frankly!

I'm booked into hospital for an emergency cerclage (cervical suture) tomorrow as, despite bed rest, my cervix is down to 4mm in length. I am 18 weeks today. Emergency cerclages have about a 50% chance of working so, unfortunately, I am starting to prepare myself in case the worst happens. What makes me angry is that I first went to the hospital with this 2 weeks ago when I still had enough cervix left for a preventative rather than an emergency cerclage which has a much higher rate of success but they have been dicking me around and even told me they wouldn't perform the surgery as it wouldn't be necessary. I'm sad and I'm scared and the worst part is knowing I am growing a healthy little baby that doesn't know that his rubbish mother is letting him down.

oh missM that sounds very scary. Best of luck for the procedure - I'm sure that it will all go fine but of course you're sad and scared. Especially since it sounds like your treatment so far has been sub-par, which must be making you furious.

thanks for the tips guys. I'm feeling better now, although still fragile - i might burst into tears at the slightest provocation.
Very nice to know that I'm not the only mad one. hello other crazies!

Yes emki good remembering - DH and I are both Australian so we are going home to family and friends etc which makes it less scary. But at the same time, we've been living here for 4.5 years so I'm going to miss a lot of people very much and that makes me sad

And I don't know how the maternity care all works back in Aus.
Oh I so hope that I will be able to get an early scan. I won't be able to handle getting all the way to 12 weeks again and then finding out that there is just an empty sac. I'd much rather find an empty sac at 8 weeks (or obviously not at all!)

miss I'm so sorry they've messed you around but it's not you letting your baby down - if anyone it's the care team who should have got you in 2 weeks ago. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to protect your baby so please don't feel guilty I really hope the procedure goes ok - I will be thinking of you.

aly that's great you are returning to family and friends but it's still a big upheaval nevertheless. Hope you can get an early scan sorted xxx

saggy sorry you feel crap I hope the next week doesn't drag too much for you, sounds like it's hard work.

Thinking of you missM and hope the op is a success.