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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Crying on the bathroom floor.

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Writerwannabe83 · 02/09/2013 09:48

Morning everyone, I don't really know what I need, advice or reassurance but I just need to have a release.

Due to health issues I have it was a long journey get the "ok" from my Consultants to try and get pregnant and me and my husband couldn't believe it when we then got pregnant on our first month of trying. I am excited, I really am, but I'm miserable too.

I naively thought pregnancy would be a magical time but I'm only 10 weeks in and sick of it already. I've had two separate occasions of bleeding, the first one turned out to be ok but I'm currently awaiting my 2 ND scan so make sure baby is still ok. I have felt ill for the last 4 weeks, I'm absolutely exhausted and I haven't seen friends and family for so long because I just can't bring myself to leave the house. I'm having painful restless legs, heads, nausea and all I seem to be living off is cheeses and onion crisps and crackers. The house is an absolute mess but I jut don't have the energy to care or do anything about it.

I woke up this morning with my usual nausea but then I realised that it wasn't just nausea this time but that I was actually going to be sick. Quick dart to the bathroom and then the vomiting started.

When I stopped being sick I just curled up on the bathroom mat and started crying. My crying episode lasted for ages. I only started feeling better when one of my gorgeous cats wondered in and was available for cuddles.

I feel awful when so many women would give anything to be pregnant, but I'm just so tired and ill. I want to have a happy pregnancy, not a miserable one. I just can't see how I'm going to cope with feeling like this for much longer.

Thank you for listening x x

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PrincessKitKat · 02/09/2013 11:18

OMG Saggy! I'm going to cease my moaning, you poor thing!

Ah.... do you remember just normal non-pregnancy, easy, regular poos? And when putting your make up on made you look 'made up' and not just alive?

Those were the days my friend.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 02/09/2013 11:19

Lol! I don't wear makeup! I may have to resosrt to a paper bag with two holes cut in it!

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Writerwannabe83 · 02/09/2013 11:20

Lol Princess regarding easy poos

No sickness now for half an hour so I've braved a few sips of squash and now I'm munching on a dry cracker....

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CrispyFB · 02/09/2013 11:26

This is my fourth baby (due two days before you!) and yep.. first trimester is the worst time by far. Not only do you have the uncertainty of things not working out, but you feel like absolute crap and no energy. And when you feel like that, everything feels impossible.

Weirdly I find the nausea is more constant earlier on, but by 9-10 weeks there is less of it, but more intense. I threw up for the first time at 9-10 weeks after thinking I was nearly over it!

Most people find they feel better by 12-14 weeks or so and get more energy back, I hope that's the case for you.

Good luck with your scan when you have it!

vkinski · 02/09/2013 11:58

The first trimester is by far the worst! Keep going, it will get better. This is my second pregnancy (now 30+1) and in my first trimester I fainted twice and generally felt pretty rubbish. Luckily for me it passed around week 10 and I have (so far!) kept really well. Now I'm in my third trimester, I am starting to feel a bit uncomfortable but for some reason it is easier to deal with when you can feel your baby moving and see the bump. Keep resting, don't beat yourself up about not being a pregnant glowing woman (I don't think she exists anyway!) and keep in your head that you will start feeling better soon xx

Bumpsadaisie · 02/09/2013 12:16

Bless you love. The first 15 weeks of both my pregnancies were just as you describe.

You feel dreadful and you are depressed and have no motivation to do anything. I was throwing up about 20 times a day, so debilitating.

They say pregnancy is not an illness, and yes, for many women, it isn't, they just feel more tired than normal. But for some it really is an illness, esp in the early stages.

Good news is that by 15 weeks or so you will be feeling much better. By the time you get to your 20 week scan I am sure you will be feeling more you.

And the last trimester will be a breeze for you - as you will be able to look back and say, well I'm uncomfy but its nowhere near as bad as the first 15 weeks! (While all those other women who breezed through the first trimester are reeling with the shock!)

Good luck. Just go with it, don't worry, and it will pass soon.

Bumpsadaisie · 02/09/2013 12:18

PS my two children derived their earliest in utero nourishment from crackers, copious amounts of coca cola, and fruit sherbets.

Needless to say they are absolutely fine in fact they are hale and hearty kids.

Bumpsadaisie · 02/09/2013 12:20

PPS dont think about 29th March. Just think about this week. You've got to pace yourself!

coffeewineandchocolate · 02/09/2013 12:26

I'm 7+4 and experiencing sickness too. I had it badly until 11 weeks with my first and then it just disappeared overnight. The sickness is caused by a fast increase in hormones as your baby grows so try and see it as a positive thing. Have you been to the gp to see if they can prescribe anything?

Just eat and drink what and when you can- the baby will get all its nutrients from you. Hopefully the sickness will stop soon and you can eat more healthily!

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/09/2013 07:09

Morning everyone, I'm feeling a bit better today.

I took some of your advice and decided to set my alarm early to enable me to slowly have something to eat whilst lying in bed. So I've had a lovely strawberry yoghurt and now I'm munching my way through some Rich Tea biscuits. I'm off work at the moment (due to the bleeding) so at least I can leisurely let it digest. I've got to be at the hospital for 9am tomorrow and Im dreading having to rush about or the potential sickness. I'm not sure how I'm going to drink 2 litres of water without it coming straight back up again......

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MrsSpencerReid · 03/09/2013 07:23

Hi writer, hope you feel a bit better today, if your scan is at 9am could you not just skip your first wee of the day? Then you prob won't have to drink extra my DS was grown on lettuce and vinegar for the first 12/16w and I don't think it did him any harm am 18w with dc2 and this one has been grown on snickers!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/09/2013 07:32

Haha Mrs Spencer - I feel a bit better now about all the pointless food I am eating : dry crackers, dry biscuits, chocolate milkshakes, yogurts, apples, custard and cheese and onion crisps

I actually can't remember the last time I ate a meal

That's a good idea about my wee, thanks

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PrincessKitKat · 03/09/2013 08:09

Pleased to hear you're a bit better today writer. I'm having my anti-sickness Cheerios in bed too

Let us know how your scan goes tomorrow please? Good luck.

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/09/2013 08:28

Course I will princess - I'm actually feeling pretty positive about it as I didn't have any bleeding yesterday. Still having the odd stomach ache and twinge though, but time will tell.

The problem I have now is trying to work out whether I'm hungry or I'm going to be sick. I have this horrible feeling in my stomach and can't decide whether to have another biscuit to see if it settles down or whether I need to make a dash to the bathroom....

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/09/2013 08:55

Spoke to soon - brown stringy mucus on the toilet paper...

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PrincessKitKat · 03/09/2013 09:17

Could it just be the remains of the bleeding the other day being flushed out?
Try to keep calm & call your MW or GP x

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/09/2013 09:39

I won't bother with the GP/MW - after all, I have got a scan in the morning, I'm not sure what else they could do?

I'm just staying in bed all day and resting and willing my Bean to hang on.

My Big Boss just called (who is lovely) and said under no circumstances am I to return to work all week. She said that my baby is what's important and if me going off sick for a month is what's needed then that's absolutely what she wants me to do She is so supportive. It really helps that I know I don't need to worry about work alongside everything else x

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x0gawjus0x · 03/09/2013 10:06

Youre lucky with work, i am 14 weeks today and cannot sit or stand without being sick. I was hospitalised last wk for high fever and was on a drip im now bed bound and been signed off work for a week my manager basically hung up on me when i told her so not only do i feel like im in my death bed ive got constant worry about work now too i sure hope theres light at the end of this tunnel n hope you dont suffer as much as some x

PrincessKitKat · 03/09/2013 10:17

Great to hear that you're getting support at work Writer. Try to relax today.

Everything crossed for good news tomorrow.

ZingWantsCake · 03/09/2013 10:59

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TarkaTheOtter · 03/09/2013 11:10

I agree, the end of the first trimester is the worst bit of pregnancy for me. Just eat what you can and survive it. You can catch up on 5 a day later in pregnancy.

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/09/2013 18:30

Well I have made it through the day with no vomiting!!

I haven't had any tears either...

Maybe yesterday was just a one-off ..... fingers crossed!!!

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FatPenguin · 03/09/2013 19:37

Well done! the good days make the bad days easier to deal with. I managed to go to Morrisons earlier and didn't heave once, go me! I did however stand sniffing the fabric softeners for 10 minutes.

Good luck for scan tomorrow, let us know how you get on?

FatPenguin · 03/09/2013 19:41

gawjus - don't you worry about work, you and baby have to come first. You are pregnant and your employer has to accept you are not fit for work. It will get better x

bouncysmiley · 03/09/2013 20:41

Congratulations and it does get better. I am just entering into morning sickness territory with number two. Last time it got better after week 10. Try eating something small regularly and fizzy water. I hope you're feeling better soon.

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