Early Pregnancy After IVF: Worry-warts and wimps gather to whimper and wobble.

[PramQueen1971]

Yes! Happy Birthday to me indeed! Fanks for all the I would say 'nom-nom' and 'it was awesome!' but I would have to stab myself for being an irritating twat. I digress..

Come here, ladies who have survived IVF and are now battling the first trimester nerves and scans. We did it...we did it!!

Sorry for my moan...

You moan away Bird. I totally know where you're coming from. It's like you're in limbo land isn't it? But the chances are that everything will be just fine. When's your scan?

Yes, it was my 12 week scan. 13 weeks tomorrow. I never thought I'd get here, it still feels so surreal. Once you are that heartbeat, it will make things seem so much better x

Hi all! I have returned from the Lakes and had a lovely time just being with DH and the countryside. I have come to realise that I simply do not have the levels of energy I used to - we did a 13 mile hill walk and it absolutely exhausted me. I plan now to be more assertive about what I can and cannot manage. I got off lightly in the first 12 weeks, with no sickness or nausea, I know. Now I have constipation which I have to manage with great vigilance to my diet and lactulose twice a day. And heartburn. Sometimes I think I am developing a baby bump, but I think it is just my slow digestion.

maybe great to read your 12 week scan news! My anxiety started reducing after that - you? Really sorry you are still feeling ill - are you working?

I'm now 14 weeks and starting to doubt if it is all real again. Another 6 weeks until the next scan - not sure I can wait that long. I'm really hoping that the MW will listen for the baby's heartbeat at the 16 wk appt - that might keep me going.

bird hello! Maybe you should just be honest with your mother. It is totally natural to not want to talk about 'the baby' this early on when things feel so uncertain. I still get that now. What you have to remember is that nobody else shares your anxieties - they are just excited (wouldn't that be nice?!) Everything will be okay at your 7 week scan - you must be pregnant or why else would you be retching and feeling sick?? Not long to go now.

Hi beetle I don't think any of us have got away without spotting and cramping, and as someone pointed out, you have two of them bedding in at the moment, and that cyst too, so please try not to worry too much

How was the wedding wim? Did the vom on a tight fitting dress look go down well? Hope you are not feeling too rough.

Hi happily - I feel for you with this horrible waiting. My clinic said that after 7 weeks they can always see what they need to see (yolk sac, fetal pole and heartbeat) so maybe you could assertively ask not to have to wait two weeks for the next scan - that sounds like hell. I hope you get a good outcome.

Hello pram - lovely that you got to hear the heartbeat! How reassuring. I'm so hoping they will listen for it at my 16 week appt - I've heard that some places won't do it, but I don't know why.

Hang in there, Bird. Weeks 6-9 are shit.

How is everyone? Sorry I've been AWOL but I've been busy planning the murders of anyone who has annoyed me for the slightest reason (pesky antidepressant withdrawal).

Prambo, 42, 16+2

Motor!! We have missed you Glad to hear your hols were good but you are batty to attempt those kinds of walks. I had to run uphill in 4" ankle boots to catch a bus today and couldn't speak the words 'Rover ticket please' I was so breathless. So instead I rasped: 'Rooove piss'.

Happy, how are you, love?

Motor, try, try try to insist on listening to the heart beat.

Hi everyone,

I'm doing ok, really busy at work and over the weekend so I'm pushing it too the back of my mind, looking after myself and thinking positively! I've had bad morning sickness today which is making it a little hard to forget though!

I'm slightly worried as we are going on holiday the day after our next scan for three weeks, so if its bad news I will be too distraught to go away! :(

Really pleased that everyone is doing well though :)

Yay! So lovely to have you back Motor! And so pleased you had a good time in the lakes. I think the anxiety is easing off. Though my pelvis is all achey today, but I think it's cos im sleeping funny in bed. No, I've been signed off. There is no way I could work. I dont even think I'd make the walk to the station. Took the pup out today and had to turn round and come back. I miss my fit, energetic self. I decided week 14 was when it was going to come good. 6 days to go.......

Happily try not to think about after the scan. Just concentrate in each day as it comes. Did you not magage to get a blood test done?

Ooh, Motor I thought it was a standard practice to listen to the heartbeat at the 16 week appointment? It's in my maternity notes in the checklist section bit.

Firstly sorry for my rant below... The rage I'm feeling in the evenings is quite extraordinary! Hehe... And no one pushes my buttons like my mother... Especially after she's consumed a whole bottle of wine to herself. Which is most evenings.

I'm back to work tomorrow... not sure how I'm going to manage without my afternoon nap. My job involves working with new mothers and their babies so have had to do abit of Psyching myself up. To be honest I think going back to work is going to be a good distraction... Too busy to sit and think or calculate how pregnant I am by the hour hehe... Not that I've actually done this but just illustrating that I'm sat at home obsessing....

Happily that fact that you are still feeling sick I would assume gives done hope things will turn out well... Which I really do hope happens.

I saw that Pramo put her age and how far along she is.... I'm fast approaching my 31st birthday and 6+1 weeks

How about everyone else?

I know what you mean about not obsessing Bird. The early weeks drag so much. When is your scan again? And rant all you like. It's what we are here for

Maybe, 28, 13+1

It's hard not to obsess isn't it!! Everyday does seem to drag.

I spoke to my midwife the other day and she told me not to worry just yet, she said that these things grow at different rates and that it's still very early days where a few days can make a big difference. So we will just wait and see, I decided against getting the blood tests as I thought that would just give me more information to analyse and google!!

28, 7 weeks exactly

My 7 week scan is on 27th September... As the Midwives counted I will be 7+4weeks or as my IVF clinic count it I will be 7+1weeks on that day.

I thought IVF would mean you would get exact dates but apparently not...

Happily- I had a conversation with my IVF clinic about dates and hormone levels. As I said above our dates are counted differently and our hormone would be lower than someone who conceived naturally. So your dates may well be out and a blood test when compared to what is perceived to be normal level may have been falsely un-reassuring. I get a feeling alls going to be fine with you Happily.

Thanks for information bird it's very useful to know. It's just a waiting game now. At least waiting two weeks gives me a good idea if its grown etc...I will be 8+2 by then so there should definitely be more to see! If there isn't at least I know and can stop worrying about it!

Bet your looking forward to your aren't you? Not long to go!

I remember being 6 or 7 wks pregnant and wracked with anxiety that I would lose my baby (I was spotting brown which turned out to be innocuous). I found a mumsnet thread called Night Owls where folks who can't sleep just chat shit with each other to pass the time. I remember parachuting in there and wittering about my fears of losing my baby. They were all very nice but looking back it was totes innapropes when they were happily discussing Coronation Street

Prammy!

With regard to the dates, they are fairly accurate. I mean, you know exactly when the baby was conceived. Yet I have been put forward by two days, purely cos I'm measuring slightly bigger.

I think HCG levels are only relative if measured every 48 hours to check they have doubled.

Not long till the 27th Bird!

Happily I was 8+2 at my first scan and saw a lovely clear heartbeat, head and the beginnings of limbs, so there will definitely be something amazing for you to see in a couple of weeks

motor 41, 14+1, bloated, tired, constipated, but happily amazed to be pregnant!

Hello all

I'm chuffed to buggery, too, to be preggo. It's just bastard amazeballs. I've managed to sneak another free scan in on Thursday when I'll be 16+5

Pramo... Another scan? You will get to see quite abit at 16weeks. #scan envy hehe

Can't wait to get to 16 weeks

Brilliant to hear from you Beetle. Glad you've had your mind put at rear with another scan. How lovely to see them both again . Glad your mil is keeping you occupied!

Can't wait to hear scan news on Thursday Pramble

CutiePie! Lovely to hear from you and the twins. Glorious news that they are okay. What are the risks of sharing a placenta? Will you be joining us on the Martians 2014 antenatal thread? They're all desperate for twins over there. It's multiple-craving madness!

Yes, my seventh scan tomorrow at 3.30pm. Can't wait but still got them bothersome pre-scan nerves

Where are Caip & Wim? I do believe Nook has left for good. How strange.

Pram, 42, 16+4.

I'm here, knackered and slightly wishing I hadn't taken this new job but I know I'd have gone mad in my old one. It's just full on and I'm only dreaming about work or pregnancy. I just lie on the settee every night knackered willing the end of each week.
God what a moan! Sorry. I'm pregnant - woohoo!!

Sorry for just a me post, am running v late.

Caip, 35, 9 + 5

Looking forward to seeing the scan pics pram. Hope the scan nerves aren't too bad today.