A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

[barkingtreefrog]

All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!!

Haha! Thunder are you sure you're not a teacher?! Sounds just like me in the classroom:

• I can't do it.
• Yes you can.
• There you go, I've done it!
• Very good. Now go and do it properly.

Adding myself to the list...

Merkin 10w, sickness has thankfully gone leaving me to be permanently emotional and tired!
tallyra 6w+6, suffering mild hg on the sofa. dog breath is my current trigger....
boom 6+1, hoping to wangle early NHS scan. Slightly sensitive nips, otherwise drawing a blank on the symptoms.
thunder 10+5, feel rough in every way but eating my way through it
barking 6w+3, struggling to believe it is real. Random nausea, headaches and tiredness.
brodicea 4w+4, very tired and occasional nausea.
PoppySeedBun 6+1, MS and sore boobs plus TIREDNESS, MMC last time, TTC 3 yrs.
Wimwom- 7&2 on off a bit of all symptoms. IVF baby. Scan at 7+4
Haycorn - 7+1, constant (but luckily mild) nausea and hair loss (is that even a pregnancy symptom? Maybe it's just old age?)

I'm so sorry that your sickness is getting worse Tally. I really don't know how you are managing to cope with it. My nausea is only mild, no actual vomiting at all, but it's still really getting me down. I hope it gets better for you soon.

Wim I was on the way to the hospital in full blown labour and still could not think of life with a real baby so you're not doing too bad there

Bel is life with a real life baby the reason you're posting at 5.44?!

After the first solid night's sleep in a long time last night, I'm finally back in my own bed and I woke up at 5am with a headache and needing a wee. Can't get back to sleep now! I pimped on a cb digi (didn't dare try yesterday, waited for fmu) and it immediately said pregnant 3+ weeks. It's nice to see after seeing so many not pregnant but I immediately told myself that it didn't mean anything as even if something had gone wrong I'd still have the hormones to give that result ^^.
However the headaches, the insomnia and the nausea that has kicked in now I'm awake are definitely real!

How are you doing Tally? Are you sitting it out at home or have you gone back to the hospital?

Morning berries

I'm so exhausted. My face is full of spots and I really struggled to keep it together at work yesterday, I was so tired and hungry! All of which are potentially symptoms..(?) so in a perverse way I'm pleased that I feel like cack.

Merk ooooh well done finding the heartbeat! I've got a doppler too (tsk, because we're not supposed to encourage women to buy them, but seriously...who wouldn't) but won't try and use it until a lot later, my uterus is retroverted so no chance of finding a heartbeat until it tilts forward at about 12wks. Incidentally, that slow sound you're finding isn't the placenta, it's your own pulse. The placenta/cord pulses at the same rate as the baby's heart, but is a 'whooshier' sort of noise, whereas a heartbeat is a crisper sound. Either is a good indication that all is well in utero though!

Barking hurrah for CBD confirmation! I think it might do you good to get down to EPU, you're perfectly entitled to as that's what it's there for and maybe you could do with the reassurance of an early scan.

Tally boo to the sickness. How are you feeling this morning?

Thunder I don't know if I'll get the scan, the midwife has requested it but it's up to the ultrasound department to allocate scans according to urgency, so I'll just have to wait and see if I get a letter. Going on last time, usually takes 2 weeks minimum to get a referral anyway.

Right, off to work to prod some bumps. It's a bit surreal thinking that might be me in a few months...I can't picture it at all. I think the day I can't do my jeans up any more will be the biggest shock of my life!

Boom I need more details on the difference between wooshy placenta and crisp heartbeat!
Also, anyone know what q's they will ask me in booking about OHs medical history (as he's not coming with me this morn)

It's hard to describe Merk! The heart sounds more like knocking, or sometimes it sounds like a train or galloping horses, but quite a well defined sound. The placenta sounds a bit more, er, liquidy? Like water gushing in bursts I suppose. My powers of description aren't great, remind me never to try and write a novel!

OH's medical history - they're unlikely to want to know much apart from any genetic conditions in his immediate family. Poor dads don't get much of a look-in at the booking appt.

Thanks, was definitely an obvious train so going to take that as baby!
Off to get ready for my hour and a half with the midwife!

Yep barking was posting with baby attached to my boob where she is now and spends most of her waking life
Good news on scans.
I've no idea on Doppler merk

Morning all. It's Friday, hooray!!

barking you made me choke on my coffee with the teacher comment! Poor wim was subjected to my encouragement and empowerment bit. Sorry about the headache - lots of water (and I found a bit of caffeine because I'm addicted) might help. Regular good too to keep sugars up.

merk sounds like you definitely heard bubs which is fantastic. I tried last night but got nothing apart from my own blood which I hear really clearly on both sides just inside my hips. Just too early for me I think.

boom tired and hungry- you know that makes sense! It's hard work but I know what you mean, we wouldn't want it any other way.

Hello hay, how are you doing??

I have a week and one day til dating scan. Am trying desperately not to feel confident about it. Just need the week to pass and to get past that point! Can someone just fast-forward the week please

An hour and a half merk!? Holy crap! That's pretty hardcore!

Isn't that standard boom? That's how long both of mine have been...

Was an hour and 15 mins in the end! I now have my maternity notes so am 'official'. Midwife was lovely

Nope, we get 40 mins to do a booking where I work. My booking appointment took 15 minutes the other day (different area to where I work)! I think they split the booking into several appointments, because I didn't get my notes, so I'm still hovering on the unofficial sidelines

Hmm, so Mr Boom has just revealed that he's told his mum that I'm up the spout. A bit annoyed, I didn't want to tell people until we were safely past 10wks at least, but I suppose I've told my sister and best mate so couldn't be too annoyed. Guess I'll have to tell my mum now or she'll be upset if she finds out, looks like the cat's out of the flipping bag!

Hi all, think I could do with a wang if anyone is available and wants to get a bit of upper arm exercise?

Last night was first night in over a week that I haven't had to get up in middle of the night for a wee. Today is first day in over a week that I haven't had to lie down on the floor at some point to deal with nausea. Instead of feeling relieved to have had more sleep and an easier day, I am now panicking that my symptoms have disappeared because I'm not pregnant anymore. Is that likely to be the case? Please tell me I'm overreacting.

Haycorn I do not have any sausages handy but I can improvise with a baguette....
My symptoms disappeared between 7 and 8 weeks very abruptly, the bloating, insomnia, nausea and sore boobs all disappeared. I panicked then too. However remember that hormone levels increase at different rates and also plateau at times, and that your body also gets used to them hence the symptoms appearing to come and go. We have all been there hence why the first tri is so bloody worrying with a new worry round every corner. Deep breath, you will be fine, even if that's hard to believe today

Boom it is annoying to have not been prewarned! I've told my mum but I said to DP that although it was his decision I'd rather his mum didn't know until the scan. He knows what she's like and he agreed .

Haycorn it doesn't mean anything at all >

not that I didn't have exactly the same reaction when I woke up one morning without nausea and was so happy (briefly) to get it back the next day

Oh and Boom I would be cross too. Give him a slap with a sausage for being naughty

Ok, I thought I was being overly negative and anxious, but I've just told my best mate (didn't intend to, called her to tell her we were engaged and to ask her to be a bridesmaid and somehow I just couldn't help myself...) and she practically told me I needed to be more pessimistic! . She had two miscarriages before her successful pg so she's being realistic, but very harshly so I thought! 'Make sure you don't go to the scan on your own' (she did, and that's when she found out there was no heartbeat) 'Don't expect anything from the scan, then you're prepared in case it's bad news'. 'There's so much that can go wrong, don't get your hopes up'. 'We didn't really relax until (their son) was born'.

Ok, ok, I get the message!!!!

Was expecting it to be a more upbeat reaction, I have to admit!! The most positive thing she said was 'at least you know you can get pregnant now'.

It's almost had the opposite effect and I'm more determined to believe everything will be ok!

For those of you who have told people, what has the reaction been?

Ooh barking that's a bit harsh! She might have had a bad experience but I think a 'congratulations and I have my fingers crossed for you' would have been more appropriate.

I've only told my sister and best mate. My friend has been overexcited, in fact I've had to tell her to calm down (she started getting her MIL to knit baby cardies!); my sister's been more reserved, she's pleased but suggested very strongly that I don't tell mum until I'm 12wks at least because mum was so devastated last time and would be worried sick all the way through early pg. which is true, but hard to hear!

Glad you haven't let it shake you though. Has the spotting died down? Xx

No spotting yesterday . Awful insomnia again though. Gave up trying to get to sleep at 1am and started a new knitting project instead! Had about 3 hours sleep and now feel really nauseous. I think my plans for the day are pretty much scuppered! DP on a stag do so dog walks up to me as well. Dog already giving me the eye.

I was in two minds about telling my mum but figured I would want to tell her if anything goes wrong so I might as well tell her now. I decided the same with my friend, especially as she had confided her pg and then MC in me. However my other friend I'm meeting next week to ask to be another bridesmaid is an instadiffer with 2 kids who has always been full of confidence that it would happen for me, it was just a matter of time. She's the only other one I would tell but I don't know if I want to now! I think she's more likely to be the overly enthusiastic one and I don't know if I can cope with being pulled both ways!! Woken up feeling quite upset about first friend's reaction although 3 hours sleep could have something to do with that.

barking that does sound harsh my best mate is a doctor and was the first person I told after my OH, she was thrilled, she did say 1 in 3 pregnancies end in mc but once we had the early 8wk scan an saw the heartbeat she said that it was really unlikely things would go wrong.

Plus every day gets you closer to a healthy baby, I think you need to be able to believe and be positive, so I would try to ignore her as much as possible, this is meant to be an exciting time so just try to be as calm and happy as you can. Hard at times I know.

I wish I could knit barking! In fact, do you know what the best way to teach myself would be? Can you buy starter kits?

I'm not surprised you're upset. I can sort of understand her comments, she's trying to protect you from being hurt the way she was, but negativity isn't going to change the anything anyway so she may as well be hopeful for you!

I taught myself to knit using this book Boom. Very simple to follow .