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So scared.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/08/2013 13:06

Hello everyone, I need some advice or reassurance or anything really to try and make me feel better Sad

I had a reassurance scan yesterday which showed a lovely strong heartbeat and the sonographer was really happy with everything. I'm dated at 7wks and 3 days.

However, I woke up this morning with a stomach ache and now I'm having spotting Sad I thought I saw a bit of blood in my underwear when I went to have a wee, and after I wiped there was definite pink streaking. I have since gone the loo twice and the same thing happened both times.

I rang my Community Midwife who told me to go and see my GP as he will refer me to the EPU if he is concerned.

I have got my appointment in an hour and I'm so scared. This time yesterday I had just left my scan appointment on cloud 9 and now, 24 hours later I'm scared I've lost the baby.

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PumpkinPie2013 · 15/08/2013 13:08

I've no advice but wanted to wish you luck Flowers

Let us know how you get on xx

Iatemyskinnyperson · 15/08/2013 13:09

I had the same at that stage. He's a bruiser of a 6yr old. There is hope

Wishing you the very best of luck
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Makqueen · 15/08/2013 13:10

I hope everything is ok, let us know how you get on. Fingers crossed for you that all is ok, hope you get an EPU referal quickly.

Storeybird · 15/08/2013 13:15

I bled every day from week 6 to 13 and now have a gorgeous healthy 2 year old. Really hope all is okay for you. I have also had 3 miscarriages though ( funny blood condition that makes me high risk)Hmm.You are in the right hands going to see docs. No advice, just take each day as it comes and look after you. All the very very best. X

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/08/2013 13:22

Shall I tell him about the scan I've already had?? I'm worried that if I do he won't refer me to the EPU because everything looked well yesterday?

I got sent home from work, came into the house crying my eyes out and just blurted it out to my husband who was brilliant, lots of cuddles and reassurance. However, twenty minutes after I told him his dad called and said his Grandma had been rushed into hospital and is dying. Obviously I told my husband to go and see his Grandma but he kept refusing, saying he couldn't let me go to the GPs on my own. I told him that whatever is happening to me will happen whether he is with me or not, but that if his Grandma dies and he doesn't day goodbye he will never forgive himself. He said he couldn't bear it if he lost his Grandma and his baby on the same day. He was in tears when he left the house.

It's just so horrible.

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Storeybird · 15/08/2013 13:35

I would tell the GP about previous scan. In my experience it doesn't matter how many you've had, pregnancies are so unpredictable that sadly they can change very quickly. Were you bleeding before last scan? If so they may tell you to go away and wait and see if you get any heavier. Hideous mind game of a situation but as you've seen from a couple of responses, bleeding in early preg isn't always a sign of miscarriage.
I know too well how you must be feeling now- as I said before I've experienced this lots- with sad and amazingly happy endings. My son is a blessing everyday and I make sure I remind myself of that!
As for the terrible timing, that is sadly how life works sometimes. You sometimes get to the stage of feeling how much more can be thrown at you. Whatever happens you will be amazed at how strong you actually are. Really good luck at your appointment. X

jammiecat · 15/08/2013 13:42

I also spotted on and off until week 15, and have a healthy almost 3 year old as a result of that pregnancy so spotting is not necessarily the start of a miscarriage. You're right to get it checked though. In the meantime keep your feet up and rest. Good luck, hope it all turns out to be nothing to worry about.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/08/2013 13:56

Thanks guys,

I just went to have an other wee and this time when I wiped there were flecks of dry blood and a brown stringy bit, maybe about 5mm long. Isn't old blood supposed to be worse than fresh blood? Sad

There was also some thickish yellow discharge on the paper - sorry for the TMI. I'm just upset and confused.

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Makqueen · 15/08/2013 14:01

No, I think it's the other way round - it's fresh blood that is worrying.

Either way, at least you are being seen soon. I would ask GP for EPU referral, tell them about the other scan, but they will probably do another anyway if the first one wasn't done through them.

froubylou · 15/08/2013 14:02

Didn't want to read and run but not much to add other than I think old blood is better than bright red blood.

My sister had a bleed in pg and was fine so try not to panic. Know it's easier said than done. Xx

LittleWhiteWolf · 15/08/2013 14:32

Fresh blood is the worry; from the sounds of it you've had pink and brown blood which is less frightening. Spotting and cramps are normal as your uterus grows and changes shape to accommodate the baby and having a healthy heartbeat on the scan is a good sign, too. That being said a scan is definitely what you want to know how the baby is doing. I hope your GP refers you to the EPU and that you have a good outcome from that.
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TerrysNo2 · 15/08/2013 14:37

FWIW once you've seen the HB the risk of MC is far far reduced so take heart from your appointment yesterday.

So Sad for you and your DH, what a crappy day. I hope the scan gives you some reassuring news and I hope DH gets to spend some time with his grandma too.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 15/08/2013 14:46

I remember having similar in the early days...I thought it was to do with the mucus plug forming? (full term pgncy) either way OP all the love to you...try not to worry yet too muchxxx

LittlePeaPod · 15/08/2013 14:49

Writer sorry to hear you so distressed. I hope you get an appointment with the EPU. But just for clarity, brown blood is old blood and red blood is new blood. It's better if you are spotting it's brown rather than red. Hopefully it will stop soon. Flowers

Lj8893 · 15/08/2013 15:04

I had spotting from 6 weeks to 10 weeks and I am now 29 weeks and baby is kicking away.

I know its easier said than done but try not to stress and panic as it won't help.

Good luck.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/08/2013 15:09

Hello everyone, thanks for your kind words and reassurances.

As soon as I got in the GP's room I started crying - poor man. He has referred me to the PAU and I have got a scan there tomorrow morning. in the meantime he has told me to go home, get in bed and just rest. He said that if my stomach cramps or the bleeding worsens then I'm to go to A&E.

I rang my husband to tell him and I think he's disappointed that I didn't have more positive news. I asked how his Grandma was and it doesn't look good. I feel awful for not being there with him but I don't know what choice I have. Part of me really wants to go, but I know that if I do and then get told tomorrow I've lost the baby, I will always wonder if it was because I hadn't rested like the GP told me to. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself Sad My husband is being great and has told me that I'm to do what the doctor says and that he understands why I can't be there but it doesn't make me feel any less guilty though.

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Makqueen · 15/08/2013 15:18

Don't feel guilty - rest. Try and get some sleep if you can.

Makqueen · 15/08/2013 15:21

P.S, I am sure that if your DH's grandmother knew she would understand and be telling you to stay at home and rest as well.

justpoppy · 15/08/2013 15:32

So sorry this has happened writer. Try to stay positive though. Like the others have said the heartbeat yesterday and the fact that its not fresh blood are really good signs. Have everything crossed that you see that strong heartbeat again tomorrow. Flowers

whyno · 15/08/2013 16:56

Was it an external scan? With my son (now 2) I had an internal scan which must've dislodged everything a bit as I had old bleeding (which is the ok kind) the next day too. It was all fine though. Obviously I don't know but I don't think it sounds like a miscarriage and I've had a couple.

You must tell them about the scan tomorrow.

Lots and lots of luck.

armsandtheman · 15/08/2013 17:06

I bled until about 20 weeks and had fresh and old blood (Bright red blood more worrying than brown). I was in and out of hospital and they never worked out what was going on. My baby (now toddler) was fine. I know it's never guaranteed, but there is at least a 90% chance that all will be fine now you've seen the heartbeat. I hope it all goes well tomorrow. Good luck.

Sarahmains40 · 15/08/2013 19:15

Just rest Hun I hope every thing is ok for you tomorrow I've got every thing crossed for you :)

Misty9 · 15/08/2013 19:28

I'm guessing it was an internal scan at this stage?? If so, that is highly likely to have caused the bleeding.

I had spotting at 5wks with ds (now 23mo) and had a scan with EPU at 6+4 - then bled bright red for two days after (but they warned me about this).

It turned out I have what's called an ectropian cervix. Means that cells are on outside which should be inside - they are more sensitive and therefore bleed easily (big poo, sex, anything vigorous). V common in women who've been on pill for many years apparently. Often leads to increased discharge, pregnant or not.

I had two other episodes of spotting before 26wks, and he's now a healthy toddler :)

Hope scan tomorrow goes well - bear in mind that could irritate things again and cause spotting again... It was an emotional bloody roller coaster, I know how you feel. Oh, and seeing the hb greatly reduces your chances of mc. Congratulations!

CrispyFB · 15/08/2013 19:29

I often spot after an internal scan because things get knocked around in there, and in pregnancy the cervix is a lot more "friable". Hopefully that is all it is! Good luck tomorrow!

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Writerwannabe83 · 16/08/2013 06:34

It wasn't an internal scan, I had the standard abdominal one.

Before going to bed last night I checked my underwear and there was a definite patch of dried blood (about 3cmx2cm) and then more dry blood when I wiped after a wee. I sat up all night worrying and have probably had about 4 hours sleep.

The good news though, I just went and had a wee and there wasn't any blood in my underwear and I had a completely clean tissue after wiping. I'm clinging on to that as being a good sign.

The hospital where I'm having my scan is the same hospital where my husband's Grandma is so if we get good news we will go and visit her afterwards. We haven't had bad news about her overnight so I really want to get a chance to se her x x

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