PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. and a lovely squishy new set of twins

I heard that too, pink - it was one of those maxims I heard that did really help. They are not having your baby. Another one is "there is no limit on the number of women who can be pregnant at any one time". Both are completely obvious, but you do have to repeat them to yourself a lot to start believing them to be true.

It's taken years of practice!

Wow, I do try to catch up with this thread every day buut you guys are so chatty! Don't know where to begin.

kjh Not sure if you saw my post a few days ago but I have exactly thing with a friend being due on my due date of the mc. I also felt devastated despite having fallen pregnant again quite quickly. I just feel so envious that she has got past the 12 week wait and I am still only 7.5 weeks. Seems like such a long hard slog ahead to get where she is now. I'm sure it's totally normal to feel like that. I am also in bed with ginger nuts while MIL takes DS to the park!

Santa your mw sounds lovely. I bloody hope mine is like that in a few days when I should have my booking app. I very much doubt it though - I've already been told no early scans unless bleeding so I doubt my tears will help. Actually I've found it really hard to cry recently. I had some very bad news yesterday and I just couldn't cry. DOn't know whats the matter with me.

I've been up and down this weekend. had a much longed for lull in sickness (about an hour) and convinced DH the pg was over. Its now back with avengance.

Also have started to believe its ectopic. Would that be showing itself so late (nearly 8 wks)? I have this funny pain in my lower back but its in a really specific place - to the left of my spine. Maybe kidney kind of area. Although I'm 90% sure I ovulated from the right side when I concieved as I get quite distinctive ovulation pains. But my mind is still running away with this one. Might ask the mw when she calls back with my booking app date later one...

Ok screw everything I just said about not crying - I just burst into tears on phone to midwife when she called to say that she still hasn't received my referral from GP (I saw them 2 weeks ago!) and she can't book me in yet. I just really wanted to start the ball rolling and hopefully talk them into giving me an early scan. Anyway my tears did nothing and she still said I wouldn't be able to get one and just to wait to hear from them re booking. Will probably be another week now...

Hi all.
I can join Sleep Tea and others on the ups and downs. I have completely lost any posifrickintivity. Woke up at 2 this morning wishing i could rewind 6 months to before MCs and pregnancy. Pulled myself together enough to play with DS. Now at airport by myself to travel home for a funeral having discovered none of my smart clothes fit (bloated & cake-weight gain). Haven't slept more than a couple of hours last few nights. Will prob feel better if i could get a good nights sleep. (Funeral is relative i havent seen in 15 years so stressful rather than very sad.)

Even on good days I've been having terrible anxiety dreams since MC about things happening to DS so not feeling good leaving him for a night.

Oh well. Tomorrow is a new day (after the funeral anyway).

Anda hows that for me me me wallowing?!
Hope you're ok. Sounds frustrating but like you are being taken care of. Not long now. x

Guff, what time's your scan tomorrow? (sorry if you have already said)

I absolutely love the posts about feeling kicks, reaching 20 wk and 3rd trimester milestones and nursery decorating. They really give me hope in these early weeks.

Sleep did I see an earlier post that your EDD was 1 April? Mine too.

rainbow yes, due 1st April as well. Although I have convinced myself its all over this afternoon and am also all out of positivity. I am very much wallowing.

(Just started another thread on this - my horrendous Morning sickness is on its way out already at just 7 and a bit weeks. It was coming and going last night and today, but in last couple of hours its pretty much gone completely. I've convinced myself I've definitely miscarried. First pregnancy I felt sick until 11 weeks...)

on plus side mw has pulled out stops and I have booking tommorrow at 2pm. fingers crossed she pities me and gives in to my pleas for a scan

Hi ladies sorry to hear so many of you are feeling scared and worried as I've said before the only thing that helped me was to stay as busy as possible and mostly pretend to myself I wasn't pregnant (apart from when it came to obviously!). This has been a bit easier because we have told so few people so I haven't needed to talk about it. I really hope the days pass quickly for you.

Guff loads of luck for tomorrow.

Anda you must be getting so frustrated. A friend of mine used the 'I haven't felt baby move all day' card to finally be admitted, worth a try?

Yay for 20 weeks and 3rd trimester ladies

I am feeling quietly positive this week in the run up to my 12 wk scan on Friday. I figured I may as well feel positive as if the worst happens there will be plenty of time to feel devastated afterwards but horrible thoughts do creep up now and again. I feel pretty pregnant this week, my hips and pelvis has been painful for days so think SPD or PGP has set in now. I told my manager today hoping she might mention doing some working from home but instead she said I might want to think about reducing my hours - they are due to go up in Sept to cover a colleague, so I don't have to do the extra but I've booked DD in at nursery now so I kinda need those hours to cover the extra nursery costs

Hey pixie if you do reduce your hours and it affects your pay you should definatley not do it before the allotted time they use to work out your maternity pay if you get more than stat pay. I think its somewhere between 20 and 28 weeks xxxx

Good luck guff for the scan tomorrow! And good luck to pumkin & pixie for scans on Friday! I've got my 16 wk appointment on Friday and hoping the midwife will dopple me. Would be lovely and reassuring to hear a heartbeat.

Bod you are right I need to keep an eye on when that is!

Fingers crossed sleep that you get your early scan and all is well.

I had my booking in appointment with the Doctor a week ago so I'm planning on calling hospital to see if I've got a date for the scan. I'm not expecting one before 12 weeks but I want to know the date so that I can tick off the days. Unfortunately I am unable to follow pixie's advice and try to ignore that I am pg - my pg and previous MMC is consuming my every waking moment.

guff massive good luck wishes for today. Let us know how you get on.

I was eventually admitted last night. Current management plan appears to be to keep giving me more and more medication until eventually it has an effect. BP checks overnight have been better. They've talked about changing my medication but not about delivering earlier.

37+0 today though

Wow Anda 37 weeks, you are one awesome mummy to be! Glad you have been admitted (if only because at least then you have a little bit less stress with the to-ing and fro-ing). I notice you posted at twenty past four this morn! I hope they haven't put you on a ward full of new borns where you can't get any sleep or something as silly. Really not long for you to wait now. Eeeeeek!

Good luck with your scan today Guff xxx

I'm in Devonia at the mo, going camping for a couple of nights tomorrow...DD has never been before but is very excited about being in a tent! Any tips?

Oh Anda, why don't they just deliver the girls now? 37 weeks is full term and you've done a bloody amazing job keeping them in there this long! Instead of pumping you full of drugs wouldn't it make more sense....?

xx

Good luck for the scan, guff!!

Good luck today Guff.

Hope your scan goes well Guff.

Andadietcoke - thinking of you and your girls, hope your BP settles and your girls come soon. 37 weeks is amazing, I can't imagine how that feels as at 25 weeks with just one I feel big enough.

Pentagon - sounds like we are very close geographically! I am just near Watford.

guff best of luck for scan today! Will be thinking of you.

pixie I'm desperately trying to adopt your approach as well - distracting myself from pg as much as possible, and attempting when I do think about it neither to get my hopes up too much or be too relentlessly negative. I agree there's no point in putting yourself through all the worst case scenarios until they're actually happening. Just taking it one day at a time and slowly inching towards towards 8 week scan - like kat I've circled that date in my calendar and am counting down - when i find myself getting really stressy, i count the days again and tell myself we can't know anything constructive before then anyway. kat when is your 8-weeker? I've decided I'm going to epu walk-in clinic next wed 28 August when I should be 8 weeks (or only a couple of days short of 8 weeks if I've got my dates a bit wrong). sleep and tea and kjh and any other early pg ladies I've stupidly forgotten - hope you're hanging on in there. sleep was it you worrying about morning sickness coming and going? If it helps (poss not!) mine definitely does that too depending on what I've eaten, how tired I am, etc. not that it's very bad but I was ludicrously pleased when I was dry retching yesterday morning and this morning I feel a bit queasy but basically fine, but I think it doesn't necessarily 'mean' anything.

pumpkin congrats on 20 weeks! Amazing! Like someone else said, I love hearing about all these milestones and nursery decorating etc - makes me feel like perhaps it is actually possible to end up with a baby at the end of it all rather than just a ton of anxiety. When I think about it I can't quite believe there are actually women out there who go through this process with all this heartache. Though even if my first pg had been straightforward I don't think I'd have been like a couple of the ladies on the October bus who started discussing buggies to buy at about 6 weeks pg!!!

anda really glad they've admitted you and hope that helps with the stress levels and you're able to get some sleep - at least you don't have to go back and forth now. 37 weeks woo hoo!

Sorry for bumper post - back from Scotland now so can check daily, and post shorter messages but just wanted to get all that off my chest...

Ha ha just stood up too fast from sofa after typing this and had to do a little puke into my (empty) cereal bowl! Nice. Am I over sharing?

Anda how exciting! Hope the girls are here soon! 37 weeks is great going for twins!
Guff - good luck for your scan today.
I am having scan doom already, so scared that something is wrong, but just keep trying to tell myself it's natural paranoia after the MC and the hell-ish time we had pregnant with DD.
Knee update - it doesn't hurt so long as I don't bend it too far/kneel on it. I'm going to give it a few days and see if it eases off. I have both jobs today, one sitting on my bum all day and the second waitressing in the busiest restaurant in the area. I figure if the rest doesn't help I can try shake it off at job 2 tonight!

Guff- Good Luck with your scan today What time is it?
Anda- I hope the blood pressure medicine works soon I am glad they admitted you all that going backwards and forwards to the hospital would have driven me mad.

37 weeks is amazing anda! Really not long now! Hope the medication helps the bp and if not maybe they will decide to deliver sooner. Keep us updated! X

Sorry not posting much, things are tough so not got much to say that isn't a moan

But am thinking of you all the time anda you really have done well to get to 37w with twins so whenever they take you down now you should just be excited to meet your two little girls Hope you're getting some rest in there

And big love to everyone in the wait for 12/20w stress fest, it is so tough but worth it when you get to the end like anda

Thanks everyone, scan is at 12, feel sick!

About to package DS off to his grandparents so I'll check back in later.

Hope you're ok anda you've done AMAZINGLY well to get to 37 weeks with twins, well done you x

Oh ands so close!! Annoying being in hospital but hopefully comforting knowing that you're in good car :) thinking of you and wishing you all the luck in the world if you meet your girls early :) eek!!

Guff good luck today, will be thinking if you at 12 x