PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. and a lovely squishy new set of twins

guff all the best for today!!!

anda 37 weeks - whoop, whoop! You're doing so well! I'm glad you've been admitted and are being monitored constantly, not long now!

jmf we're close indeed!

To all the ladies in the first trimester, I really sympathise...it's nerve-racking and all you can do is wait and deal with the anxiety (which can be crippling sometimes) in any way you can. You forget all about it when you have a good scan at 12 weeks - I have everything crossed for all of you! Miscarriage is awful...I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy and envy women who have never been through it.

kat only 12 days between now and then! Not that long! Although I know every day grinds by SOOO slowly. This morning I circled the day of my scan on my pregnacare pills so I can see how many there are to go before 8 weeks...childish tactics but it makes me feel I'm getting somewhere albeit at snail's pace.

christine glad your knee's feeling better - did you go to gp in the end?

Miscarriage is awful...I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy and envy women who have never been through it.
This^^
I actually had to leave the March Bus because I couldn't cope with their optimism. They just seem so innocent and I just feel so old and cynical!

Hi all, not been around for a while - found that reading about pregnancy loss wasn't helping me stay positive so tried to avoid anything to do with it for a while. Scan doom has now set in, I'm 12 weeks today and have scan on Thursday. Currently want to cry whenever I think about it. How do you all cope / have you all coped? Can't stop thinking that the last time I went to ultrasound was for previous 12 week scan where I found out about my MMC (EPU scans are in a different part of the hospital). I'm terrified

Guff good luck for today.

Guff best of luck for today. Let us know how you get on!

Anda, thinking of you and hope all goes really well for you. Lucky you to be so close to meeting your little girls.

Rock chick, I'm only 10 wks and already have scan doom. Can't imagine what I'll be like the week of. Distraction distraction distraction I suppose. Cinema, shops, visiting friends all helps. And cakes.

By the way wondering if anyone is drinking coffee. I'd love a cup today but feel its a big no no. But if I'm not really drinking any tea surely a milky coffee is no big deal..... Just wondering if anyone here is still drinking little cups of coffee..

rockchick I think we're probably all in the same boat as you - I certainly am. I feel so anxious and doom-laden that it makes getting through the day a real struggle. The thing is though, throughout this pregnancy so far, I have constantly felt like it must be all over, but then have had a positive HPT/beta hcg/ scan. I guess what I'm saying is that you are dealing with past trauma, but it doesn't mean that it will repeat itself. You're more likely for everything to go right, than for it to go wrong. It is so hard, I know. Best of luck with your scan. X

Omri- you're allowed 200 mg of caffeine a day, which is 4 cups of tea (tea is 50, can of diet coke is 40 I think). I have been having one or two cups of tea every day and a can of coke too most days I think there is more caffeine in coffee than tea but you can still have one or two! Google caffeine content x

omri have your coffee - guidelines are not to have more than 200mg a day. I don't drink tea so treat myself to one cup of filter coffee a morning (that's 140mg) instant is less - there is a list on the BBC of how much caffeine is in tea and coffee, coke and choc (www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-15982904). I don't think a cup will do any harm.

Sleep how are you feeling today? My MS comes and goes, yesterday I had barely any and no sore boobs, today I woke up feeling like death. Although I haven't actually even puked or retched yet... can't believe I actually yearn to feel so ill I need to stick my head down the loo! Kat yay on orange juice nausea!! Hang in there, my scan is 5 days after yours on a Sat morning. I'll be 7+6 by then if I make it that far so dealing with time in weekends. Two more to go, making plans to stay as busy as I can.

Guff thinking of you today and sending out hugs to everyone else with scan doom (rockchick, omri, christine, we'll get through this...

Anda so glad they have admitted you, hope it all happens for you soon!

I've drunk one strong black coffee a day throughout all my pregnancies (and sometimes I've had a second) - the nausea/tiredness are bad enough without having to cope with a caffeine withdrawal headache as well. Bizarrely though the smell of coffee made me want to vom, but I could drink it fine.

Remember that all the food things are "guidelines" - not absolutes. A really interesting book just out points out that a lot of the data the guidelines are based on are crap. e.g the main study that showed that drinking moderate amounts of alcohol caused development problems failed to factor in the fact that of the alcohol drinkers in the study, 45% were also drug users!! So although the guidelines are there to help, don't kill yourselves over them.

xx

I've been very good on the food front, mostly, and only having one cup of tea a day - v occasionally two - and have even given up runny eggs which I adore (might have to break that rule once or twice along the way I think, if this pg proves a go-er). Don't fancy wine much at the moment anyway. But en route back from Scotland we went to an amazing restaurant in the Lake District for their tasting menu and one of the courses was venison tartare. Don't judge me . It was FANTASTIC and I figured less risk than riding my bike into work which I'm still doing... (I skipped the raw scallop though).

Anda glad they are looking after you, congrats on 37 weeks!! , yay not long now eeek!

On coffee: started of really good then realised i drank coffee through all my other healthy pregnancies with no problems so why worry, aslong as i don't drink it excessively!

Alchol: personally i don't see the harm in a small drink if there is a celebration and have had a shandy now and again. Obviously alchol is bad so don't drink it too often & avoided it completely in the 1st trimester.

Anything else i eat in moderation and don't worry about it, the rules around what to eat in pregnancy are forever changing then changing back again. Can't keep up it's all so over the top.
Only things i avoid is liver (hate it), alchol unless v small, unpasterized stuff such as cheeses, recreational drugs (obviously), and raw eggs.

Soft icecream: already failed and ate some last week- me & baby are still fine lol

I've been terrible on the eating front. I haven't drunk enough because diet coke is the only thing which doesn't make me feel sick, including water!! I can't eat bread or vegetables, fruit is waay to acidic and potatoes and cheese are about my limit!
So that's chips, jackets and diet coke!

I felt so shit on Sunday I had a Mr Whippy at the park then Shellfish cocktail (with lobster mmmm), rare steak with a blue cheese dressing and a glass of red wine at a restaurant!

The guidelines have changed since I had DS and that was only 17m ago so I research and make my own decisions....if its just a risk of food poisoning I take a view based on the restaurant but i wouldn't have liver etc. that are to be avoided because of something in them. And I will prob have a small glass of wine once or twice a week now, I think I deserve it coping with this pain

Omg I love you all! It's only a Nescafé that I'm craving so prob not that bad! Yay! Going to treat myself now to my fav combo- milky Nescafé and almond croissant. Guilt free! I will do a toast to all you lovelies as I sit down to that

Saggy- my diet currently consists of white toast, Cheerios, Crisps and chicken super noodles. Oh and almond croissants

Lol at shellsocks - now I don't feel half as bad about my milky nes.

Shell - I have been craving a steak like nothing you have known! Maybe I will treat myself.... Seeing as you said it okay.... ;)

Saggy - first trimester I went off everything- so ate nothing but mashed potato. With cheese. And sometimes gravy. So good.

I have recently allowed myself back on one can of diet coke a day...... So good!

Guff - guessing you are waiting or done by now, hope you okay.... :)

We aren't suppose to eat soft ice cream?! Whoops!! We have a whippet machine in work and more than once iv had a nice ice cream to cool down after a hectic shift. (At 11pm but shhh!)

Hi everyone,

All looked good at the scan

Was very emotional and I cried. Baby was wriggling so much I had to get up a couple of times to try and get it back in the right position for the measurements, but it was lovely to see such a live wire in there

I really toppled from dainty crying into sobs when she showed me its little hands reaching up over its ears. Amazing detail for such a tiny baby.

So I got through the first 12 weeks and the rest of you who haven't made it there yet will I promise. Am going to try and have a least a couple of days of joy until I start worrying about the next thing...!

Thanks for all your support, you are an amazing bunch of ladies.

Hurrah! Guff that is awesome happy happy for you!

Oh guff that's amazing. So so happy for you! Brilliant news. You should definitely relax and enjoy things a bit more now! will you be telling work etc or did they know already?

Whenever I think about the possibility of next week's scan actually being good news rather than bad I start welling up so I think I would be exactly the same, very emotional with good news - but possibly not with bad news, at least not straight away. Your post made me well up too! Incredible to see all those gorgeous details x

That's marvellous news! YAY!

oh guff congratulations! So happy for you! x

Fantastic news. So pleased :)

Guff that's brilliant!! Yay! I've cried my eyes out at every scan so far!!!