PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. and a lovely squishy new set of twins

congrats on the great scans yesterday pixie and pumpkin! fab news :)

anda, you're going to be a mummy within a week! crikey! come on babi girls, come soon :) xx

blue, so sorry to read about your mc. i highly recommend the TTC after MC thread as well. it was such a support for me when i had no one in RL who would understand. i too hope you are here with us soon x

so i survived the wedding phew! was a fab day but too much wedding dinner and fizzy water gave me the worst tummy pains. was pleased to get home although it was after midnight and now i'm shattered!! sofa day here i come!

blue 3rd cycle after mc for me and I waited till after the first period. When we did our stats it seemed like it was 3rd cycle lucky for quite a few of us.

janie glad you had a good time apart from the tummy pain. I quite fancy a wedding!

shell I'll definitely be asking to be jabbed in my right arm then as I can only sleep on my left at the moment! I hope your arm is feeling better.

anda good to hear from you, not long till Thursday (easy for me to say!).

Was third cycle for me too blue but it felt like an AGE. The TTC after MC thread was a life saver getting me through those crazy, shagging like the world will end if we don't do it EVERYDAY in the fertile window days (thank goodness I can rest now )

I was going to mention to the rest of you, I have now tentatively started telling people I'm PG and most of the first reactions have been: 'oh that was quick after the MC'.

I thought you would all understand how I feel like shouting at them: "IF ONLY YOU KNEW!" The stress, anxiety and trauma of TTC after MC felt like one of the longest, most painful periods of my life and they just have no idea.

guff I couldn't agree more! To other people - and in hindsight even to me I guess - it's not that long but when you're going through it and you're desperately trying and wanting that BFP it is unbearable and feels like forever. On top of it all, I was convinced there was something wrong with me and I'd never be able to get pregnant again....the first time because it took me so so long to get my period back the second because my period was a bit lighter than normal and I had weird back pains which I'd never experienced before - it was hell both times

blue good luck!

blue I can't add much more than the other ladies. It does confirm that you can get pregnant and that you want it to happen. I was also 3rd cycle after AF came back. But don't leap too far ahead - do give yourself time to come to terms with the MMC. It can take longer than you think, and I would have odd sad days for weeks and weeks afterwards. It's OK to have those.

So pleased for everyone's good scans this week. I finally got some measure of acceptance on Friday and called my GP to make an appointment, but she's on holiday, so rather than see a locum, I've made an appointment for week after next when I'll be 7wks - so that's something to focus on.

Have also been distracting myself with a great new book: 'Expecting Better: why the conventional pregnancy wisdom is wrong and what you really need to know'. Sounds quite hyperbolic and American, but actually well written and smart.

anda sending lots of good wishes and positivity to you.

katatonic I can't imagine what you ended up with for dinner last night!

blue between this board and the TTC board (as well as the mc support forum that saggy mentioned) you'll find a wealth of advice and support.

I was told to wait two cycles before TTC again after my mc. I think though, from talking to other people that that advice seems to be different depending on your Doctor/hospital and seems to be as much about mental health as physical health - some people try again straight away. I waited one cycle and was really glad I did because my first AF after the mc was horrendous - much worse than the mc itself. I was very lucky - I got pregnant on the second cycle (digital OPKs and conceive plus ).

You will get through this. Promise.

blue so sorry to hear you have had an mmc one of the things that terrified me was that I wouldn't conceive again or it would take a long time (it had taken 2 months and 6 months to fall pregnant with my first two pregnancies and I found even just a 6 month wait sooo long so was dreading it taking longer post mmc). we waited for first period and then tried, took 2 cycles. I feel very lucky. I think trying again really helped us to recover as it focused us on the future rather than thinking too much of what might have been (although it is very important to give yourself time to grieve equally). Anecdotally among my friends, those who have started trying again immediately after mcs have conceived sooner (within 2-3 cycles/3 months) than those who waited 3 months before trying (6mths+ from point of trying again). Really hope it happens quickly for you xxx

I know sone if you will appreciate this...Tangfastics are 59p in the co-op.

Thank you so much for all the positive advice and kind words. I know I won't really know how I'm going to feel until after. I'm hoping everything goes well with my ERPC.

Poppy, you are right and I am focusing on the fact I know now that I can get pregnant, and also that I do want to be. I think it also shows that it might be worth getting on with things as there is nothing to stop the same thing happening again (fingers crossed it doesn't).

Wishing you all the best of luck with your babies. Thank goodness for these support threads. It has helped me beyond measure.

Hello peeps! Back from camping; DD loved it and cried when she got home as she couldn't sleep in a tent

Fan scan news and hello newbies x

Hang on in there Anda, only a few more sleeps sweat pea x

Hi, I was on a waaaaay previous thread. I had had two losses and found pregnancy absolutely terrifying. Every hour of every day I prepared myself to lose my pregnancy.

Well, my little precious son is now an amazing 20 weeks old, I spent two hours after giving birth just repeating "it's a baby, a live baby" (wasn't even in shock that he wasn't a girl! just alive!).

Anyway, this thread gave me a huge amount of support, hope and strength. I am so pleased you have each other, pregnancy after loss is hard, but when you meet your baby, swoooosh!

Lots of luck and love girlies, one moment at a time.

What a lovely message Sundae thank you! Congratulations on your precious little boy!!

Thanks sundae and congratulations on the birth of your son! Really good to get this message.

sundae that's so lovely to hear, many congratulations!

garden did your DD settle ok at night and wake at a reasonable time? last time we went camping in our van DD (2.5) refused point blank to go to bed until half ten as it was light and children were still up playing! I'm hoping the nights drawing in a bit will help but still apprehensive about early starts- we had black out blinds for the van so bright mornings weren't as much of an issue. Any tips appreciated! glad you had a good time

Hurrah for brilliant scan news pumpkin, pixie, omri & rock!

Congrats on the birth of your son Sundae

Anda, hope the week passes quickly for you & Thursday is as straightforward, uneventful & cool as possible (gave birth on the day the heatwave 'broke', t'was excellent planning on DS2's part!).

Blue, sorry for your loss.
I had an early mc & started ttc again the day the bleeding stopped, got my BFP that cycle, although I think they advise you to wait a cycle or so with an ERPC? good luck & hope to see you here with good news very soon. x

DS1 shook DS2's hand t'other day! Vair formal in this house apparently.
They're waking each other up at night occasionally but aside from that it's lovely, shell I think you're going to have a similar age gap (19m)?

Sundae it's so lovely to hear from someone that came out through the other side and has a lovely baby.

Anda it's getting closer now. You must be so excited!!! ( as well as scared)

Blue so sorry for you loss. It's so horrible waiting to try but i would def give at keast pne cycle as period never normal after mc. I had to wait two months when going through all my tests. Then they messed up bloods and told me to come of the aspirin for a month before doing another blood test. I was so upset I burst into years. Dr couldn't Understand what the big deal was. A month seemed a lifetime and it would have meant two more cycles missed. Anyway i didn't come off which was a good job as I was pregnant already!

So my friend asked me if I want a baby shower. I have only been to one and found it a bit odd. We ended up playing strange games like making babies out of play doh . It probably didnt help that was only a week after my first mc.
Anyway I was thinking maybe suggesting we all go out for a meal instead. Anyone else been to one, having one. What do you think of them?

Bod I've only been to one baby shower and it was a bit odd, lots of massive gifts and a bit American and over the top. The paranoid lady in me doesn't like the idea of getting so many baby presents before the baby is safely here. However an excuse to see friends and eat yummy food and maybe have a glass of bubbly strikes me as a lovely idea. I'm sure it would be less weird without play doh babies! Pre DD two of my closest friends took me on a spa afternoon which was a similar idea and totally lovely, and my colleagues took my out for dinner and made me a box of little baby bits and pieces. That was nice

Anda well done for hanging in there so long with twins, the last days must be dragging but soon you'll forget about the wait and the worry and just have two gorgeous babies to snuggle with.

Gary that is so gorgeous and about your DS shaking hands. Precious times xx

Hi sundae and congrats Thanks for popping back in to share your good news

Ah gary that's lovely shaking hands! Yeah we will have 20m gap and I had 4D scan last week and am totally convinced its another boy so will be the same set up as you, can't wait Glad to hear its all going well, I am expecting the night waking thing so you've not panicked me

bod I was gonna have a meal when PG with DS but unfortunately my best mate had a bereavement in the family so we called it off, I've been to one like you said and it wasn't my cup of tea either!

bod I suppose it depends on your friends, I had one but was really just a meet up to give me some presents and have a chat. I quite liked it :)

Congratulations sundae what a lovely post

Hi gary very cute :) maybe ds1 was waiting for a proper introduction!

bod I didn't want one because I didn't want to be the centre of attention. My sister and friend both said they wanted to throw one. Friend forgot about it, and I asked my sister whether we could just go for afternoon tea with a small group of select friends and our mum but she's forgotten about it too so I think I've got away with it!!

glad you had a good time camping garden! i can't wait to take a little one camping, we love it (so long as you are mega prepared!)

sundae congrats on your little baby! always good to hear lovely new like that :)

bod one of my friends has asked if she can organise a baby shower for me. i really don't know what happens at such events. it's a bit like my hen do...i don't like making people think they have to spend money on presents etc... along with us not knowing the sex, i really don't want presents before the baby comes along...an old superstition of mine. i'm worried it would make me look ungrateful for me to say 'no presents'? would they be like 'er don't flatter yourself'?!?!? and i know i might not be in the mood after the baby comes along for a party!

so i just said maybe we could have a saturday or sunday afternoon at my mums and we could have tea and buns and some non alco cocktails or something but nothing over the top.

went to another concert last night, to see james and suede (total blast from the past). i think baby enjoyed blur last month more!

Guff couldn't agree more. TTC never seemed to take so long as post mc. I thought conceiving again would make it all better, and it has helped a lot, but it brought a whole bunch of other worries (less, I'm sad I lost the last one, more I'm sad I'm going to lose this one maybe). This post is a total life saver (and not just for the pointers of cheap fangttastics ;-)

Anyone who tries to throw me a baby shower will get a swift but polite kick up the bum!

I agree saggy! No. Just no. Baby showers are an awful American import.

I got wind of my mother trying to organise a surprise one in my last PG and I really had to put my foot down to stop it happening!!

Even worse though is the 'gender reveal party'!!