Pregnant (IVF) Worriers Part 3

[Buzzybee123]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

ceara congrats on your little boy :) competition indeed, I come from a family of girls but have no idea what to do with this one, Barry is from a family of boys, your baby will be loved and that is the main thing

mrsh i'm well at the dancing, I'm knackered just thinking about it

onion at your husbands dancing

fairy my work place is all about shared lunches, any excuse to skive from work when I moved from community to bedded area, still in the same team, they gave me a lunch it was nice to feel appreciated, maybe a tea and cake thing might be better.

Well I have ordered my pillow thankfully as my hips were hell last night, I got my baby box back today, had a good cry about the babies I have lost and what could have been. I have alot of my old toys and have found 2 blankets I have already knitted. MIL has said she will happily help us buy a pram and cot, and the aunt has said she has some bits for us, not sure what but still very kind of her.

The Cat has become a kamikaze we have a window that only opens at the top, its not very wide but she managed to be sitting on the edge of it while it was open looking out, did I mention we are 9 floors up

mrsh I have bought a swaddle and grow bag of ebay, it really is my obsession I thought I'd see how they go, I think mine has velcro on it, very true that they might not like it :)

The hospital appt was fine, thank you! She gained weight so i can relax a little on the force feeding regime!

mrshy We did indulge in a proper coffee at Starbucks yes!

Hi all, I'm back after a brief hospital hiatus...went to my consultant appt last week NAND she admitted me, yikes! Wasn't expecting it so unfortunately was still wearing y council estate leggings (leggings that are so old/crappy that they are thin enough to see your underwear through where your arse stretches it, can't remember who asked!), bed socks under ugg boots and a naff old t shirt. Was admitte due to heart racing all the time making me feel faint - had loads of tests which found that heart is v fast (100bpm resting! Although this is apparently quite normal for twin pregnancies) but gladly nothing sinister. They were also worried about the amount of braxton hicks I was having so did all the prem labour checks and tests which was terrifying - I didn't think I was in labour but they started to convince me that I could have been. Staff were amazing and I got discharged a few days later, thanking the heavens for the NHS which sometimes just pulls it out of the bag and delivers awesome service. So have now been signed off work until the start of mat leave, which was a bit shocking but am getting my head around it and doing a shitload of unnecessary Internet shopping

Mememe bit over now, sorry!

mrsHY crocheted bikini, awesome. Am planning on teaching myself to crochet soon so I'll knock you one up. Glad you had good hols.
fairy congrats on full term, an awesome achievement, can't wait for the news and to hear about blissful stories of you having a chilled labour in a living room hot tub
madness welcome. Step away from the tests! I did hundreds and panicked every time the lines got more faint. Basically a test is just a yes or a no, no real degrees within them. Have you got a scan booked in yet? It does get a little bit easier when you see a hb although we are all familiar with irrational mentalling about things so feel free to rant if needed!
ceara congrats on joining team blue! Does it seem more real now you know? I've found it so much easier since knowing that we have girls on the way, it makes it more part of this world rather than a dream I think.
noks how are the wammers today? Mine are out of control. I was a 30K before being pregnant and they now need their own postcode, but look strangely small compared to my huge bump.
onionring i don't class bloody as swearing either, and my DH says the same to me about DD, but so far she knows it isnt a nice word and hasn't embarrassed us. she does call people 'silly buggers' all the time though, courtesy of her grandad...we're trying to stamp that one out but not laughing is a trial! How is trenchlet (sorry forgot her new name!) sleeping at the moment? I remember the sleepless days so well that I am terrified about it soon being doubled.
shazza helloooo, how goes it.
buzzy I've had a pillow in between my legs for the last few nights which really helped my hips...it only works if the pillow is along the whole length of my legs (I.e. not just at the knees) but worth a try maybe? How are you feeling?

Sorry to anyone I have missed!
Today's moan: I am now so big at just 25 weeks that I have grown out of most of my maternity clothes. My jeans, trousers, all but one pair of leggings and tights no longer fit. I was already sized up so if I get size 18 mat clothes they just won't fit the rest of me. I have about legging based outfits on rotation now and no pyjamas, why doesn't anyone make twin maternity clothing for the terminally colossal among us? Anyone know of a shop whose mat clothes are big?

Missed you dildals sorry! Your Bella bubble sounds perfect, she is such a doll. Glad you are venturing out, I loved those first days, bliss. Glad hospital appointment was good too, long may she feed and grow!

crisps sounds frightening, glad all is ok and that you are signed off work now, rest up

oh wow crisps that sounds scary, am so pleased that all is looking ok though. And how nice (in a way) to be signed off until your mat leaves starts! My goodness, you won't be at work for absolutely ages! Hope you don't get too bored waiting around though. I have no idea about the mat clothes, but maybe just have to try different styles. EG i think over the bump trousers are better once you're bigger.

dildals glad the appointment went well, and well done for getting her to put on weight! How much is she now?

ceara! we've not heard from you in a while. Glad the second scan was more co-operative, and I'm pleased to hear we have another boy in the mix. Yes, there are a few of us who don't know, so maybe we're alll having boys - it's shaz me noks at least who are waiting to find out.

oh buzzy :( on what could have been. you're great to be doing knitting - I am completely uncreative

as for me, I now have a pile of things starting to make up a hospital bag . But it seems that DH is scheduled to be on nights the week that I am due, which he claims not to be able to change. Given that it seems most people go into labour at night this is hardly ideal. But hey ho.

crispywispy shit a brick pet. That must have been really scary for you. I am sending you a virtual family sized bag of salt and vinegar discos AND cheese and onion twirls to make you feel better. You should rest-up and read utterly vacuous publications until the girls are born too. I am glad you are ok though. Xx. My whammies have gone down I think ( or my bump has got bigger, I dunno) but cannot wait until they have another growth spurt. Big boobs rock (I have never had them before so they are a bit of a novelty). My mate has norks your size. She insisted on going topless on holiday too. That made for some interesting conversations around the pool, I can tell you.

ceara congrats on team blue. You'll be fine with a boy. keep shazza and myself could be harbouring boy children too so you and sweetie may not be alone !

onion 'kinell had me chuckling for hours afterwards. My image of you, clad in fluffy polyester, swigging from a can with a baby hanging on your hip, rolling your eyes whilst saying 'kinell' is priceless. Here, have a family bag of twiglets for making me chuckle ( I bet you're a right glamourpuss in real life).

Where on earth is shazza. Did she exhibit herself as some sort of real life art installation and some rich oligarch has bought her ? Come back shaz.

madness welcome my lovely. Book a scan ASAP and hopefully seeing a hb will put your mind at rest.

fairy you next ! I loved the thought of DS giving you kisses and cards but only if you keep it a secret. Very cute !

buzz I was looking at Velcro swaddles too. Can you send me the link ? Ta.

mrsh you are an inspiration ! I cannot shove my puffy trotters anywhere near high heels so good on you. I don't think the world is quite ready for the junk in my trunk to be squeezed into a crotcheted bikini either.

gin sweetie dildals* g'morning. My fecking trains are delayed because of some shit arse excuse about overruning engineering works. Pffff. Whaddaloadofoldballs.

We had a lovely time away. I wanna go back there.

X

Crisps that sounds absolutely terrifying. I'm so glad you're alright. It's good that you're signed off, you will be off for a long time but see it as a chance to rest rest rest.

Regarding clothes. I grew out of a lot of my maternity stuff by about 24 weeks, I refused to buy anymore as I knew I wouldn't be doing it again. For the last weeks I lived in maternity leggings and stretchy dresses and open cardies, some were official maternity dresses, some not. I had one pair of trousers for work but I only went in for two days a week so got by. I don't know about where does big sizes I'm afraid.

In mememe, we were back to ten minute feeds every hour last night, plus I have a blocked duct or something on one side which is really sore. I've massaged it with the shower and expressed all I can but it feels sore and bruised. I'm starting to get fed up with breastfeeding, but don't know whether that's because I'm so very tired today.

Anyway, must cheer myself up somehow. Yes, going to B&Q for a light switch, that'll do the trick...

Noks! Glad it was good. I'm very jealous.

By day I wear an vintage ancient jean and a muted washed out, drapey floppy top (for easy nork access) with a casual jacket hoodie. For going out of the house vintage jurassic, slouchy battered, ankle boots DMs.

By night it's fluffy polyester all the way.

Hello Ladies

I'm still alive. I'm off work this week and LOVING IT!!! I've got my mum here and we are doing the decorating. Well tbh she is doing the decorating and I'm sitting on the computer writing this!

Expat, lovely to hear from you. I'm so sorry you have been ill. What a bummer at such a time. But hurrah for mini Al. Can't wait to see the pictures. Bore away

Fairy you are on the countdown. Glad the client saw the error of their ways and you can hopefully wind down as the week progresses basically the maternity leave starts today. Re leaving party, I know what you mean. It is impossible not to talk to my lot about the pregnancy. They are so supportive and excited and not a day goes by when someone doesn't ask me about Shazlett. They are having a tea party for me. I don't want to call it a baby shower as I'm embarrassed about it all and feel uncomfortable about receiving presents. They keep asking me for a baby list. Do people make such things? I don't think that people need to buy gifts. But if they insist, I'm going to request John Lewis vouchers so that I can put them towards the car seat. Congrats on being full term. How long do you think you will wait until discussing sweeps or induction? Sweet about your DS. I've also had people tell me that little boys love their mums. DPs sweet nephew tells his mum that he will marry her when he grows up. She hasn't broken the news to him yet!

Onion We have measured the bedroom and the Gulliver cot from IKEA and we have 1 cm leaway! So that is definitely our plan and will save a fortune in the process. Thanks so much for the tip. Plus the cot will become a bed later. Bargain! Good plan to enlist the help of the Grandparents to grab sometime for yourself. I admire all people who can write academic papers. I'm not very good at writing.

Welcome Madness! And many many congratulations on your BFP. So exciting.Pull up a chair and get settled. You don't need a slap. it is worrying at first, as the others have said we have all been there. But in a funny way, I'm abit envious of you starting out on this exciting journey. I'm nearly 33 weeks with my first child and excitement and worry is starting to give way to panic. I find that I've been very teary last couple of days. I'm loved up but also very emotional.

Keep How are you feeling at 30 weeks? I felt that was a milestone as suddenly 40 weeks is so much closer. the single figure countdown begins! If DH is at work when you go into labour, will he be able to get cover? i know he is a doctor so it might not be that easy. Well done for starting to prepare the bag. i've got as far as getting a bag out of the loft.

Buzzy Hugs re your box of baby stuff. It must be so hard. Good news that Barry has been reading up. I had a row with DP yesterday about him not reading the Hypno book. If we are going to go with that then he has to fully participate otherwise I'll be left on the day with no hypno AND no pain relief. Glad the new drugs are helping. Fingers crossed that things get easier now. My work love a shared lunch as well. Any excuse to go out to lunch together. I tend not to join in every time. Mainly due to cost but difficult dietary requirements also make going out to lunch tricky luckily. Good news that MIL is going to gift you the pram. that is such a huge purchase that it is lovely if that can be a cost that you don't have to worry about. Eeek at the cat. Does it have a death wish?

Dildals good news re appt and our Bella is doing well. Have things settled down at home and are you feeling better? I can't wait to meet up in Starbucks with babies in tow!

Ceara, A boy!!! Congratulations although I understand your apprehension. I also feel that I'm not sure how to deal with a boy. But you will love him and he will be loads of fun. Are you glad that you found out? Now you will be able to adjust and get used to the idea.

MrsH welcome back! I'm also packing a bag just in case of transferring. Fingers crossed we don't have to though. have you been practising your Hypno? Do you feel confident about using it? I was feeling ok but the doubts are starting to creep in. I'm impressed with the crochet bikini. Maybe I should make myself one?! Good luck with NCT. Looking forward to comparing notes. Ours was better this week I thought. The quiet ones warmed up abit. Shame about Colleen. She would have made a good celebrity godmother . I'm in awe of your moves on the dance floor. Long may the energy last. Mine is definitely dwindling now.

Crisps oh my goodness what news and what a shock. I'm glad you are ok and that you have been signed off. It sounds like you definitely need to take it easy and rest. Don't worry about work, they will cope and as long as you are feeling better, enjoy having the time to potter and not have to dash around. On the plus side you can feed your Geordie shore addition to your hearts content. I would love to teach you to crochet. One of my projects is teaching crochet and encouraging others to pass on the skill. There are loads of youtube vids though so you should be ok.

noks Someone told me that at her degree show, one of the students was preggers and decided to exhibit her naked self. needless to say I wont be doing that! Glad you had a nice time away. Did you get out and about in 'Nam'? as they say in Stroud. Did you stay in the town centre or in a fancy country hotel?

Hello to everyone else. Are there any lurkers out there? Motor are you still around?

Well, I guess that I should make a cup of tea for the worker and go and help for abit. It's nice working together with the radio on.

hope you all have a good aftie.

xx

Glad to hear that Bella is gaining weight dildals - that must be a relief. How's it going being at home?

That sounds scary crisps, but good to know that your maternity services were vigilant when needed. Now off work - that sounds great! Hope things go smoothly for you from now on.

Not long to go now keep - when is your due date?

Hi to shazza and everyone else.

I had an appt with the consultant today, basically because I am elderly and had IVF, though to be honest there was very little to say. I did manage to persuade them to check for the baby's heartbeat, which they did - it took what felt like an age to find it, but they did. They had difficulty because he is situated just above my pubic bone, and they expected him to be a bit higher up. They didn't seem alarmed by any of this, so I will take it that all is okay.

She wants me to consider taking part in research which would mean that I would be induced at 39 weeks, as opposed to seeing how I go and inducing me at 40 weeks (or 41 weeks at the latest if I insist) which she said they would recommend given my age (I will be 42). I think I would prefer to be given a chance to go into spontaneous labour if possible. Any thoughts?

DH is cooperating in discussions about how the house may need to be re-arranged to accommodate a baby, which is good. I thought he would be reluctant to consider such possibilities so early, but no. He is a star.

Only a few days left at work fairy - I hope it goes quickly. Do give me a shout if I can help at all with any ferrying or collecting or anything.

Oh crisps that sounds right scary. I'm so pleased you're now back home and wohoo to no more work! I've got a couple of what are basically tents (dresses) from Asos, which have lots of expansion space and no waistline at all. Soooo comfy!

shazz hope the decorating is going well. You will do great at the hypno, with or without Mr S's help. My mum did it back in the early 80s and had my beast of a brother (almost 10lbs), sans any painkillers and had forceps too. She thought it was great and was lucky enough to get free 1 on 1 hypno sessions on the NHS, as part of a trial. I'm thinking about getting a CD.. If anyone can recommend one, do let me know.

Bloody hell onion, I'm amazed you are awake enough to type, let alone look after 2 kids. I would live in the fluffy polyester and screw day time clothes.

noks I felt all smug being off work today but hearing about the bastard train chaos! Hope you eventually got in. I too am loving the extra boobage. Bring em on!

keep does DH work a short drive from yours? Could he get back at short notice? Or will he not be able to escape at all? Mine will be at work in the day and it 'll take him about an hour to get home, but guess things move slowly to start with.

dildals hurrah for a growing Bella!

Getting your box out must have been v emotional buzz and taken some strength. Sorry to hear you are still having a rough time of it with sickness and your hips. Baby bee is giving you a rough time of it.

mrsh I've always wondered what the mama spanx do! I doubt I could get my normal ones over my cankles at the mo, let alone my thighs. V impressed at the dancing. I can't do anything past about 11pm these days.

Your little boy sounds just gorgeous fairy.

And ceara, having a little boy! How exciting! Now you can pin down some names... So pleased all was ok and you will be a great mum.

mad!! Fab to see you over here. Ignore the CB test - they are the work of the devil! I didn't get a 3+ for a while and it drove me nuts. I had to limit myself to pissing on them once a week, and they did go up on a weekly basis in the end. When's your scan? Hang in there lady!

Sooo I've spent hours at the hospital at various appointments and all is well, phew. No GD, the blood flow thing has righted itself, baby is the right size (estimated 2lb12) and BP ok. They are sending my wee off to be tested for a urine infection but that was the only thing wrong at the mo. It was fab to see ginster again - we got a great view of her face and saw her do a little yawn, plus a rather porno shot of her girl bits! They are still saying I have to be induced at 41 weeks and I have another growth/placenta scan at 36 weeks. But I'm feeling nicely reassured at the moment see how long that lasts

I dragged Mr G to a NCT nearly new sale yesterday and we got some amazing bargains - a gym for £4, a snow suit for £3 and some other bits. I'd def recommend and we plan to go again once the ginster is a few months.

Gin and motor why do you have to be induced?

Motor if you have a choice I wouldn't opt to be induced early. From what I've read and heard its better for the baby to take its own time if possible. Obviously if there are medical risks then that must take priority. Maybe I'm being all hippy dippy about it but the Hypno lady said that assuming all is ok no-one can force you to be induced and it's better not to be.

I will be 43 when this baby makes an appearance so although in the end I didn't complete IVF in terms of age we are the same and I'm planning a home birth and no induction before 42 weeks and even then only if I have to and if there is a risk to the baby.

Well that's my tuppence worth!

Nice to hear from you by the way x

Nice NCT purchasing Gin and well done for the scan. Glad the Ginster is growing ok and your results were good. That's a relief.

motor, what is the research for? Have you been given an information sheet about it that states the advantages and disadvantages of taking part? You should have this before you make a decision and not be put under any pressure at all. (I manage medical research for a living so if you want to run anything past me please do.) I have been induced and it's not fun, I would happily be induced if I were overdue and there were risks of placental exhaustion etc but not for no good reason. Contractions are very fast and fierce when you're induced and can be very hard to manage.

Anyway.

gin your mum is nails. I have heard good things about hypno but I'm too much of a non believer for it to have ever worked for me. Glad all is well and great that's you've no GD. More cake.

shazz your week off sounds great. Glad you can use the Gulliver option, thank god for that 1cm. They turn into a lovely dinky bed too which does them for ages. DD1 still happily sleeps on a cot mattress at my parents house.

I think most first time labours start very slowly so you're unlikely to be left to cope alone. I went into labour at 1am and didn't go to the hospital until 9pm the next day. This seems a fairly common experience amongst people I know.

I'm so tired I could weep. I do hope tonight is a bit less active.

Thanks for the wonderful welcome ladies. I don't want to voice my fears over on the 10 months+ thread as there are lots of women having a hard time. shazza I think that I will enjoy it a lot more once I've seen a heartbeat. Scan is a week from today when I should be 7 weeks. Glad that you're getting a chance to supervise decorate. Our nursery is teensy as well (loft conversion) but nothing will be done to clear it out until we are a lot further along.

gin I took a digi test a week after the first positive and it had gone up which made me feel lots better. The problem was that I had one more left and stupidly thought that doing it would make me feel better. It still said 2-3 weeks though which fuelled mentalling. I am steeling myself against buying any more..... Trying to tell myself that sore boobs and frequent peeing are symptoms enough for now but I could really be doing with a flashing neon sign saying all is well .

noks I am already a 30F. The thought of how huge my boobs will be by the end of this is quite terrifying. They have already inflated and I am dreading non underwire bras my husband is thrilled.

I can't remember who was talking about swearing around kids but my cousin was once called to her daughter's nursery (daughter was 2) because in an argument with another child over a doll her daughter had shouted "give me my f*ing doll!". Words were had with her husband at home that night .

It's lovely to hear about the babies that are here already and the ones that are well on the way. I'm still in shock that I may be joining you.

crisps that really does sound terrifying. Being signed off will be the best thing for you I'm sure but I can imagine it will take so e time to get your head around.

Apologies for not name checking everyone but I must go cook dinner. MrM is being forced to go get some exercise in exchange for me feeding him when he gets back.

dildals it's great that Bella is meeting her weight targets! You must be feeding her just fine.

crisps gosh how scary to be admitted! And now you are off work at 25 weeks? Can you manage that financially? Nice to have the extended rest period though.

I have found that maternity clothes are (weirdly) smaller in sizing than regular clothes at most places unless I am really kidding myself in how much I have put on everywhere apart from my bump. I am normally a small or x small at Gap whereas in mat clothes I have been buying medium since about 25 weeks. Same with New Look, I had to buy a pair of size 16 jogging bottoms when I am normally a 12. I have found JoJo Maman Bebe to be the most generous in sizing so you could try there. I think nowhere really caters for those of us who have particularly large bumps. I have grown out of a lot of things I bought in the first trimester but I think I can make it through to DDay without buying anything more as long as I totally slob out the last couple of weeks.

noks I also never have big bosoms apart from when PG or BFing so when I catch a glimpse of real cleavage in the mirror I am always shocked. I swear though that mine are bigger in the evening than in the morning, it must be the hormones again.

buzzy I hope it was a bit cathartic to have a cry over the baby box. I'm also really impressed by your knitting prowess, I have tried to learn to knit a half a dozen times but am so slow I get too impatient to keep at it.

shazza sounds like a great week off with Mum around. My DS has told me he wants to marry me too. It makes me all teary. The plan is that I have an appointment with the MW at 41 weeks if I haven't gone into labour by then and we can discuss sweeps, induction, CS etc. I have discussed this with about 4 midwives now, including the consultant MW and they have all been very relaxed about it and careful not to give any impression that I would be pressured into anything.

motor on that topic, v glad that your consultant appt went well and you did manage to get them to listen to the HB. It's such a nice sound galloping away. Like the others though I would think very carefully about agreeing to be induced at any stage, let alone at 39 weeks for no reason apart from (presumably) a small reduction in an already very small risk of stillbirth. I'm less than 2 years younger than you are and had IVF and have had no suggestion that I should be induced. As onion says they should be able to advise you on the risks and the benefits before you could possibly make a decision.

gin I am in awe of your mother's pain threshold! so glad that the scan and tests are all positive.

apols to anyone I haven't name checked. Feeling rather worn out at the end of the day, I think I will toddle off to bed soon. Bought some newborn nappies, breast pads and maternity towels on the weekend so I'm slowly building up my supplies for the blessed event.

Crisps what a scary time, so glad you have been signed off until your mat leave kicks in. I have a few bigger maternity tunics that I got from ASOS that I wear with leggings or tights. When at home I slob around in pyjama bottoms and tight vests with my dressing gown over the top. I dread having any visitors but am very comfy. My twin bump is coming along but doesn't sound that big and I haven't had any stares from strangers yet.

Onions hope Ringlett calms down on the feeding front. How is the sore boobage doing?

Gin sounds like Ginster is coming along great too, so cute that you saw her yawn on the scan. And loving all the NCT bargains.

Dildals glad Bella is going so well and putting on weight in her home environment too.

ceara another boy to join to outnumbered, I am sure you will be fine parenting a boy as you are parenting a girl.

fairy full term already, how time flies

I have a meeting with my line manager tomorrow to discuss mat leave and when I will be going off. I am thinking 32 weeks as I have 4 weeks annual leave accrued before my official mat leave will kick in at 36 weeks. If things change between now and then I am sure I can change it if needed.

hi everyone
madness that's exactly why we started this thred, to get out of the hair of those still trying. But although it seemed for ages like the BFP was the end of all the worry, it just gives over to a whole new world of it doesn't it?

shaz and gin I am thinking that labour will not be quick, so am planning to try and cope on my own for as long as possible, in order that DH can start his paternity leave as late as possible. So i wouldn't expect him to have to rush back in the middle of the night shift (arranigng cover would be difficult). He's about a 20 minute cycle, so not too bad though. gin is there any way your dh could work from home as you near your due date? It's obviously hard to know how things will progress, but having heard of early labour lasting days I wouldn't want us both just hanging around waiting for it to kick off, as the worry of that might even slow things down. My boobs started at 30D and now at 30F, but I have to say almost all that was in the first few weeks. I'm expecting another growth spurt towards the end.

In fact, I've ordered a couple of nursing bras which are quite stretchy rather than fixed cup sizes, then plan to go and get measured at 38 weeks and then once the milk has settled. I think i got emma jane nursing bra and bravado seamless silk - they should be arriving soon so i'll let everyone know what I think.

We had a good NCT class on pain relief last night. I felt she was quite balanced.

motor i agree, what is the reason for early inducing? I would not be against inducing for medical reasons or for being very overdue but am not sure I would want to do it otherwise. There is a 'cascade of interventions' whereby you get induced, then need additional pain relief because of it being more intense, then have higher rates of forceps/CS etc. None of which are a bad thing but something to be aware of. Having said that, i just want my baby out safely, and I can't imagine they'd recommend 39w inducing for no nmedical reason.

oh yes crisps, fairy is right, jojo maman sizes are massive. I have got sizes small, and am barely fitting into them at 31 weeks. (i'm usually a size 10). And they are really nice.

sweetie i think that sounds like a plan to go on leave at 32 weeks, given that you want to have some time before the babies come. I'm working till 36, so that'll be around the same time - end of October. Bring it on!!!

motor that's great to have heard the HB. They do like to hide sometimes!

shazz I'm v confused about why I'd need inducing at 41 weeks... At our booking in, the MW said they'd not let me go much over 40 weeks due to it being ivf and them knowing exactly how long the placenta had been functioning. The consultant told us they'd treat the pregnancy as normal, so no induction cos of ivf. When they found the blood flow issue at the 21 week scan, they then said that would mean being induced by 41 weeks. But I now don't understand why that'd be necessary, as blood flow is fine, but the scanner clearly said yesterday I'd be booked in for it. Gargh! Obviously I'd rather not be induced, but guess we'll follow their advice as long as they can provide a solid reason for needing an induction (or I'm just desperate to get the baby out!)

I assume I can't use the MW led birthing centre if induced :( onion did you have an epidural when you were induced? If I'm going to have to be strapped up to machines and have fast contractions, a bit of me thinks I might as well!

onion hope you had a better night last night. I'm so impressed that you're sticking with the BF. I think you are nails!

mad not long til the scan now. I remember in those first few weeks talking to the bean daily like a madzer, begging her to stay with us!

fairy I too have found Jojo to be generous size wise, although the stuff I bought earlier on now doesn't fit... And also Asos. 4 days of work left now?!

sweetie I 'm well jel of you possibly finishing work at 32 weeks! It just feels such an effort dragging myself in at the mo and I'm only 28 weeks...

In an attempt to get A Good Night's Sleep (which i feel guilty moaning about when compared to Onion's lack of sleep)I bought yet more pillows in TK max! These are wedge shaped ones that you put under the bump. I still woke up with a numb side, but think it helped. Slowly and surely I am pushing Mr G out of bed with my pillow collection...

X post keep! I too was looking at those Bravado seemless silk bras, so do let me know if they are good. Ps am jealous that you are a size 10 and have boobage, not fair

gin I'm being treated as normal in terms of induction. Here they want to induce at 40+11 so baby would be out by 42 weeks. But hopefully you won't get to 41 anyway!

I think we need a king size bed too for all the pillows and hefting around. Rather than a LILO. Yes, that's right, we've still not sold our rented house do still don't have our furniture, so at nearly 31 weeks I am still sleeping on a actually pretty comfy lilo. The lawyers are just so slow. Damn lawyers (sorry to any lawyers)

gin I have been told that I will be induced but not because of IVF but my age I don't see how IVF would alter things shazza I suppose it depends on who is looking after you , I know towards the end your placenta and cord can deteriorate, perhaps they have different policies depending on experience, we haven't exactly been told at what point any of this will happen.

I've know two people in central london have unpleasant experiences, one friend was told she was taking too long, my friend asked for another hour before they intervened, she was told she had 30 minutes

fairy i'm impressed with your organisation

sweetie sounds like a good plan to finish and take some time off towards the end, I'd like to do that, just to have a bit of me time before it all kicks off

keep still no bed, i'm glad the lilo is comfy, at least you have your cat though

niknoks You met me, did I strike you as someone who could use a computer I shall try and send you the link, i'm expecting one in the post soon, I thought I would try it out on the cat and just see how restricting they are then decided I enjoy having moving body parts so best to try on a soft toy :)

motor I was thinking about you the other day, the heartbeat is an amazing sound, I think induction is something you can discuss with them closer to the time, it is your body and your life, they can only advise you

mad its a funny time at this stage, well I found it was, I was pregnant and scared and wanted to chat on the other thread but like you felt it wasn't the best time but didn't feel I belonged anywhere else, this thread has been great and you are always welcome no matter what stage you are at :)

well i'm feeling a lot better but don't want to go back to work, tempted to take the week off which is a bit naughty

buzz we do have the cat but clearly she can't sleep on the lilo with us... so she's feeling a little sad. Though when i wfh she sleeps on the windowsill in front of me. Hopefully there will be a small window when we have our furniture but no baby and she will be allowed back in on the bed. Your kitty sounds hilarious - it's a bit scary to call them down when they're up somewhere dangerous, and you can't go and grab them in case they jump out, so you have to sort of try and entice with food and things, non? All my friends say their fur babies get ignored once the human babies arrive, but I hope that won't be the case for us.

gin i can report that my bras have arrived. I would say that at the moment the Emma Jane one is more comfy, but i think they're both going to be great. Plus the Emma Jane one was only £10.95 on ebay, so less than half the price. Recently I've been finding all the wires a bit annoying. It's rather odd having the boob access thing going on though... I expect DH will find it a turn on...

keep, gin I swear by Bodysilk bras for comfiness and I was a 32DD. I'm currently about a 32F and they are fine. Not the greatest uplift but frankly who cares at the moment. I also have a couple of Hot Milk ones (eurgh at the name!) that were reduced, they are better for shape but not as comfy.

I was induced after my natural labour stopped after nearly 24 hours, I was about 5cm dilated. I had an epidural shortly after the induction drip as I couldn't cope. There was no real gap between contractions to gather myself for the next one and I was frightened. The epidural was marvellous but I then went on to have forceps and a huge episiostomy. This was because the cord was twice round her neck and her heartbeat was dodgy. It was all very scary really. If I was to be induced again I'd have the epidural done at the same time. (This was why I wanted a section this time and that was waved through on the basis of the damage done last time.)

buzzy that is awful your friend was told that!

keep I'm very glad the lilo is comfy but I hope you're in a proper bed soon!

Up all night again as my poor little ringlet has an infection in both ears. Raging fever and much distress at 1am resulting in me stripping her off and dosing her up with Calpol but this of course woke her right up and I had to bring her downstairs for a couple of hours. Thankfully, DH is a prince amongst men and took her off me at 5.30 and let me sleep until 8. Then I took her to the GP to look at her ears (who marvellously gave me an appointment for an hour after I phoned). This is why the super accurate Braun ear thermometer is worth buying. If her temperature had been half a degree more I'd have whisked her off to out of hours.

I'm about to make beans on cheese on toast to cheer myself up. At least the boob blockage has gone too, I am still feeling a bit fed up with bf but I'm worried I'll not lose the remaining half stone of weight as easily if I don't keep it up. I think it uses 500 calories a day - which isn't bad for sitting on your arse!