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Annoying things people say to pregnant women

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MummyToToby · 09/06/2006 20:42

"Was it planned?" Like it's your business if our contraception works!
"You're pregnant again?!" Errrr yes and what?
"Not long left then ay?" - ok to you 4 weeks may seem like nothing, to a heavily pregnant woman in the middle of a heatwave its forever!
"God it seems like you've been pregnant for ages!" - Again do you think i need reminding?
"God you're big" - Yes and i don't need reminding of the huge lump i have to carry around every day preventing me from doing things "normal" people can do, and will then have to somehow push out of a very small hole.
"What would you prefer a boy or a girl?" I'm really not that bothered!
Even worse - "Oh i bet you wanted a girl/boy" after you've found out it is the opposite or if you can even imagine anyone doing this (they do) IN FRONT OF that girl/boy!!

Also i hate the way people think they own your bump and can touch it whenever they feel. i like my personal space as much as you!!

Also i can imagine this would annoy some non-pregnant people "oooooh you want to get a move on and have a baby. time's getting on now." Firstly do i need reminding i'm getting on, secondly maybe i don't want a baby, thirdly maybe i am trying for a baby and haven't been successful yet!"

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Lysettes · 16/06/2006 08:50

How long have you got to go? (normally before or after "you're big aren't you!")

How do you cope in this heat?

my favourite statement from DH at the moment "calm down or you'll put your blood pressure up"

RosieL · 16/06/2006 10:55

Someone actually asked me, "Do you know the father?"

Caligula · 16/06/2006 10:59

LOL

The only answer to that is "No it could be one of a number of men. I'm thinking of getting a DNA test but there are just so many men to get through, the baby will be about 10 before all the results come through!"

RosieL · 16/06/2006 11:01

But the person in question didn't ask 'do you know who the father is?' - rather, she asked, 'do you know the father?' Implying that I might be aware of who had got me pregnant but that I hadn't necessarily been formally introduced to him !!!!!

RosieL · 16/06/2006 11:02

lol caligula {smile]

RosieL · 16/06/2006 11:02

I mean

Jo2006 · 16/06/2006 12:22

I had one from a male collegue,
"God your getting big, how far gone are you?"
To which I replied "27 weeks"
He replied " My wife was 8 months before she had a bump...........mind you SHE was really skinny"
WTF, is it just blokes???? I'm only a 10/12 anyway and have actually lost weight (not deliberately) since becoming pgnt.
Oh and the MIL tapping my bump, I think I might start purring like a cat next time, or say " oh that really turns me on!"

mumfor1standfinaltime · 16/06/2006 12:23

Was it planned?

mumfor1standfinaltime · 16/06/2006 12:25

What are you having...?

Let me see, a giraffe or maybe a monkey..or possibly a polar bear??

mum2lulu · 16/06/2006 15:40

"with the way your carrying it its definately going 2 be a boy!"
from everyone i worked with, showed them all when i had a little girl!

kitbit · 16/06/2006 16:58

My glorious MIL (who has 2 sons and 1 grandson by BIL) to a mutual friend in my hearing: "well of course it's a boy (we'd had a scan and found out) , I always said I was cursed only to have boys and never a little girl so I'm a little disappointed but of course I'll love all my granchildren just the same" (oh that's big of you...) grrrr

and to SIL's mother again in my hearing, the first time I met SIL's mum who incidentally is lovely: "well of course we were disappointed when [my name] had her miscarriage last year ...oh didn't you know? (wtf??) but now of course we are all delighted to be expecting another little baby in the family even though it's a boy".

She's a gem isn't she.

compo · 16/06/2006 17:04

I don't drive and when I was pregnant with ds my sister and SIL told me I would be unable to walk the 20 minute walk to work everyday up to 36 weeks. i replied, 'well how do they manage in Africa when pregnant women still have to walk 3 miles each way to get water everyday and then carry it back'!!! That shut them up and needless to say I managed to carry on walking 20 minutes a day at least until I ave birth
They also told me it would be impossible to be a mother and a non-driver - WTF?!!! I manage fine thnak you

DogMum · 16/06/2006 17:12

kitbit, so why is murdering the MIL illegal?

squishy · 16/06/2006 17:58

Luckily, have not seen MIL or FIL since getting pregnant, but early on MIL said on the phone "take it easy......{{{pause}}} but housework is OK". I said "oh no it's not" (don't do much normally, but was feeling mega sick at the time!).

Work people keep saying "do you know what you're having" and then "why on earth don't you find out"

Dawnybabe · 17/06/2006 00:14

To Dogmum, sorry to be pessimistic but I am a dog trainer and it is a well known fact in our circles that even the most lovliest dog can become jealous when a baby arrives on the scene and steals his attention. Please don't dismiss the idea and please don't leave them alone together for a while! No dog owner in the world can predict how their dog will react to a baby. I have a beautiful working cocker and am due to have my first in a few months and it's worrying me already how my two babies wil get on.

h23 · 17/06/2006 13:05

i hated telling people that i was planning a home birth and having them say, "but it's so dangerous" and seeing them thinking, "she's going to kill her baby".

DogMum · 17/06/2006 19:52

Dawnybabe - jealousy is a concern whether it's a child or a dog you already have. Dogs don't know whether to like a baby or not - they look to our reactions (as Alpha dogs) to decide. So pessimism could be a self-fulfilling prophecy. My local dog behaviourist recommended an excellent book, 'Your Dog & Your Baby' by SA Kent. I'd be happy to discuss further - we could start another thread.

All - apologies for such a long response on an unrelated topic.

karma · 18/06/2006 09:26

I was amazed when I was pregnant with ds 1 and several people said to me "are you going to get rid of your cats now?" Why oh why would we want to do that?!

JakeysMummy · 18/06/2006 12:18

People asking 'is it a boy or girl'? when we didn't find out at the scan, then people saying 'why on earth not?' and 'but I want to know whether to buy pink or blue'. God how selfish am I for wanting a surprise?!?!?!

Oh and at 26 weeks mother-in-law saying 'you don't look pregnant, just tubby'. Thanks a lot.

JakeysMummy · 18/06/2006 12:21

Oh and by the way everyone told me to find out anyway cos they KNEW (how?) it was a girl. They even went out and bought pink, but I had a beautiful baby boy so HA!!!!

psychomum5 · 18/06/2006 12:31

Every converstaion (and I do mean every) that I had with any member of my side of the family, whilst I was pregnant with DD3 (didn't know whilst pregnant) ended with...
"well, I just hope its a boy for DH's sake"

that it seems only boys are desirable in my family

I Just wanted a healthy baby. altho by the end I did want to have a girl just to pee them off. got so upsrt at one point that HV told me to tell them.. "well DH gets out what he put in" Loved HV for that, and it did shut them up!

Sad thing is, when I did go on to have two boys after, every single member of my family disowned me as having more than 2 (3 was exceptable as supposedly we were trying for a boy..WTF?? we were wanting a baby!) 5 obviously in most wrong:(

Niether my 'sister' or 'brother'(really my cousins but was brought up by my aunt so we always thought of ourselves as siblings) have even met either of our sons and they are now 6 and nearly 4. so sad for them, altho tis nice to be out of the evil atmosphere.

fuzzywuzzy · 18/06/2006 12:33

This reminds me, when I went into labour with dd2. I called up the labour ward gave them my details, and they told me to go in.

Upon arrival I was asked to wait, and then a nice midwife came up to me and asked 'So, what appears to be the problem...???'. I was in a labour ward, I'd told them I was in labour on the phone, I'd told them I was in labour before they let me in the ward.... Swallowing back my (slightly hysterical) urge for laughter I replied 'I am in labour, so I thought this would be a good place to be at'

h23 · 18/06/2006 17:01

JakeysMummy- Yes! Someone also told me that it was selfish not to find out the sex of the baby, as people would want to know what colour to buy. Huh?

ditsymumtobe · 18/06/2006 19:37

I am due on Friday and all of the comments have brought a smile to my swollen face-thanks.
The Caretaker at school informed me that I must be having a boy as 'you have a huge bum as well as a bump-unless you had a big bum before, that is love.'
Believe me the 'love' didn't make me feel any better.

Dawnybabe · 18/06/2006 20:03

Dogmum - it is not necessarily a self fulfilling prophecy, it is a case of knowing the risks and being prepared for them. I am not the alpha in my family, my husband is, and I've had problems getting the dog to obey me sometimes. It's true dogs learn from our behaviour, conscious or not, but they are also pretty good at figuring out things for themeselves. We can start another thread on this cos it would be interesting to hear how other dog owners have got on.

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