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Annoying things people say to pregnant women

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MummyToToby · 09/06/2006 20:42

"Was it planned?" Like it's your business if our contraception works!
"You're pregnant again?!" Errrr yes and what?
"Not long left then ay?" - ok to you 4 weeks may seem like nothing, to a heavily pregnant woman in the middle of a heatwave its forever!
"God it seems like you've been pregnant for ages!" - Again do you think i need reminding?
"God you're big" - Yes and i don't need reminding of the huge lump i have to carry around every day preventing me from doing things "normal" people can do, and will then have to somehow push out of a very small hole.
"What would you prefer a boy or a girl?" I'm really not that bothered!
Even worse - "Oh i bet you wanted a girl/boy" after you've found out it is the opposite or if you can even imagine anyone doing this (they do) IN FRONT OF that girl/boy!!

Also i hate the way people think they own your bump and can touch it whenever they feel. i like my personal space as much as you!!

Also i can imagine this would annoy some non-pregnant people "oooooh you want to get a move on and have a baby. time's getting on now." Firstly do i need reminding i'm getting on, secondly maybe i don't want a baby, thirdly maybe i am trying for a baby and haven't been successful yet!"

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nicnack2 · 12/06/2006 21:59

you are looking tired(heavily pregant with ds2 ds1 a toddler)

DH saying why cant you bend down !!!!!

You have just been to the toilet

will you try for the girl (ds2 less than 24hours)

trefusis · 12/06/2006 21:59

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juuule · 12/06/2006 22:03

"So, when are you due? You can't have long now." by someone who stops to talk as you are out for a walk with week old baby in pram.

dinosaure · 12/06/2006 22:06

I hated it when people asked the due date and then started working backwards to figure out the date of conception Blush Angry

Tex111 · 12/06/2006 22:06

Agree with the 'you look tired' comment. I was getting up twelve times a night to go to the loo. Of course I looked tired.

The worst thing someone said to me was on my due date. A cashier in Boots had started chatting to me about pregnancy and labour and then came out with this little gem - "Have you had any runny poos?" Apparently this is a sign of impending labour. This was in front of a whole line of people. I was so embarrassed.

hunkermunker · 12/06/2006 22:09

My favourite was "Is this going to be your last baby?" when I was pg with DS2. Or "Are you having any more after this one?"

WHY does it matter to people?!

And when he was born, people said "Aww, you'll have to try for a girl now" Angry No, I'm allergic to ballet shoes Wink

hunkermunker · 12/06/2006 22:10

But the funniest was the cashier in M&S who said "When is your labour?" when I was 40+2 (two days before DS2 was born).

How to answer that one?!

Caligula · 12/06/2006 22:11

You're not going to eat that peanut/ brie/ goats cheese/ prawn / any other piece of food that it's fashionable not to eat in pregnancy at the moment are you?

Oh, you're going to have a glass of wine are you?

So you're not going to go for a water birth?

And the most startling: So I suppose if you've got no partner, you can't really do perineal massage?

eenywifemum · 12/06/2006 22:25

When you say you havent been sleeping because of being heavily pregnant and uncomfortable and people say 'Oh well you had better get used to it, it's practise for when the baby's born'

Um no actually it isnt. It isnt the same at all.

'Are you sure there's just one in there?'

'Is your DH happy you are having a baby?'

When you say you are planning a waterbirth and they say 'That's what you think!' Implying something is either going to go wrong and you will have complications (scaring you!) or that you will demand an epidural - So what if I do, let me work that out my own way! Dont just shoot me down weeks ahead of time & tell me it will be more awful than words can express!

There is more I'm sure I'll remember later, I am particularly bitter & hormonal the last few days!

Melpomene · 12/06/2006 22:28

Early in my pg, my boss (female) commented that my breasts had got bigger.

I'm vegetarian, and a colleague told me that I needed to eat meat or else the baby would be malnourished.

Later on, some people remarked that my bump was small, while others reckoned it was big. The two cancelled each other out, so I wasn't bothered!

chocolatequeen · 12/06/2006 22:42

Classic one on here somewhere......

Stranger " Do you know what you´re having?"

Preggy one " Well, we were hoping for an antelope, as they can walk immediately after birth and there´s none of the nappy malarkey, but we´ve been told it´s a baby"

love it.

southeastastra · 12/06/2006 22:47

hee hee

someone actually apologised to me on the tube, he came over and said 'i'm sorry you're pregnant' whatever that meant

eenywifemum · 12/06/2006 22:56

Oh I've remembered another one!! You wont believe this...

When I told my boss I was pregnant she said (within about 2 mins) 'Well it's early yet you might still lose it'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Angry Shock Angry

WTF?

bubble99 · 12/06/2006 23:01

I hate the " Are you hoping it's a girl?" comments. I've got three boys and would have had four but my last son died during labour.

I usually tell them this, and that a live baby of any gender will do fine, thankyou very much.

I would love a girl. I would love a boy. Heck, I'd probably love a bloomin' antelope, too.

eenywifemum · 12/06/2006 23:03

bubble I am so sorry. Of course you just want a healthy baby!

bubble99 · 12/06/2006 23:09

eenywifemum. I'm Shock on your behalf at your boss's comment. And please tell me about your name. Grin

biglips · 12/06/2006 23:13

i HATED when people (well my ex work mates) said to me "Do you know what youre having - boy or girl?" "dunno, as i want to keep it as a surprise" "but do you KNOW what you think youre having?" "eerrrr... no!?!" (this was my first baby and im supposed to know what sex it is without revealing the sex!!) WTF??!!

eenywifemum · 12/06/2006 23:14

Thanks bubble its nice when people can be irate with you over something awful like that! :)

What do you want to know about my name? Well Eeny is one of my nicknames as it sounds a little like my first name (care to guess?) and when I chose it I was all loved up about being a wife and mum (to be) so there you go!! I kinda wish I had just had 'eeny' as this one is a bit long winded but I've posted so much under it I dont think I should change. Is it too long? What about your name?

bubble99 · 12/06/2006 23:17

Bubble is DS1's nickname. I'm not sure about the '99' bit. Maybe I thought it made me sound a bit 'exotic'? Grin

eenywifemum · 12/06/2006 23:18

biglips I can sympathise, but the other side to that issue is when you do find out the sex and people really disapprove and act like you have been naughty and say 'Didnt you want to be surprised?'

And I think... Well I was surprised!! Surprised at the scan! I'm sure holding HIM for the first time will be enough of a treat!

For the record I dont care if other people find out or not! Its just what was right for me and DH.

biglips · 12/06/2006 23:20

well EVERYONE at work - 30 people - was convinced that i was having a boy cos i was carrying high and all front but had a girl and they were all gobsmacked!! Shock

biglips · 12/06/2006 23:20

so i couldnt win!!

eenywifemum · 12/06/2006 23:25

bubble - fair enough! Grin

Freddiecat · 12/06/2006 23:59

this woman at work said to me when i was 38 weeks "oh it's just lovely the last few weeks of pregnancy isn't it" and she went all misty eyed.

i was at that point trying to get myself out of the toilet cubicle without getting the bump stuck on the loo roll dispenser for the 45th time that day so no - i did not agree with her.

Arabica · 13/06/2006 13:14

Your bump is low, so it must be a girl. Your bump is round, that means it's definitely a boy. Your bump is low but not too low, you're having a girl. You've got a bit of a messy bump (?) there, it's probably a boy.
Well, we'll find out soon enough!
Also hate--Baby been kicking a lot? Because I always get paranoid that it doesn't kick as much as it should.

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