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Spending spree what to tell DH!

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MultipleMama · 26/07/2013 19:46

Light hearted post.

Just received the next catalogues. And just bought the whole (and I mean whole) panda (4 pages full) newborn range plus others. To be fair I did alternate in sizes. Spent over £300+... I'm only 20w.

Also bought DS and DD panda onesies...

Do I tell DH that I ordered them ages ago and they've only just come or that I've had them in the cupboard for ages? Or do I hope they come when he's not here and shove them in the cupboard.

Who else has already been spending on their bundle/s?!

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mumoftwoboysS · 26/07/2013 20:12

wow! I wish I could go on such a spending spree my technique has always been to hide then gradually bring stuff out so it looks like I haven't bought it all at once - god I didn't realise I was so deceptive! lol!

cathpip · 26/07/2013 20:29

I have just purchased the dc's summer 2014 wardrobe, I like Boden but can't quite afford it at normal prices so dh has got used to the clothes stored under the beds for the following year. He still shakes his head and tuts silently, I just point out that if he would like me to pay full price then I'm quite happy to wait and do that.! :)

Andanotherthing123 · 26/07/2013 22:51

Your post made me laugh...my mum used to take us shopping and on the way home she briefed us on what to say if my dad clocked the bags on the way in. She'd send us in the house first with the bags with a directive to run fast, then she'd distract my dad.i've turned out to be a crap shopper but I know my two sisters use the same techniques with their kids!

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MultipleMama · 26/07/2013 23:00

I use the popping to toilet excuse and put bags in nursery in wardrobe then return downstairs purposely leaving just a few bags on the sofa. However my oldest son likes to tell on me - he's only 4! Haha.

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mumoftwoboysS · 29/07/2013 21:05

cathpip lol I do the same! The Next sale and Jules -put it in the wardrobe for the following year- I think it's a great way to save the pennies and get the clothes you like for the kids

multiple I have a 4yo and know just what you mean- they just HAVE to tell especially when you tell them not to!

urtwistingmymelonman · 30/07/2013 07:10

im with mumoftwo.
I bring them out gradually and say 'oh that? bought it in the sale ages ago! was a bargain!'
lol.

AhoyAhoy · 30/07/2013 16:12

Wow, wish I could get away with spending £300 and the OH not notice the gaping hole in the bank balance!

mumoftwoboysS · 30/07/2013 19:49

Ahoy me too!! a DH who budgets for everything means no sprees for me lol!

purrpurr · 30/07/2013 19:55

Oh the panda stuff is so gorgeous! I am sooo tempted to get some things for our DD even though she reeeeally doesn't need them.

Maybe just a couple of things.

No one has to know...

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MultipleMama · 31/07/2013 15:11

mumof and ahoy DH is in finance and has us on leash when it comes to spending, he has spreadsheets and everything, but I bought this out of my account not our joint one. I can't spend over £200 in the joint account without the bank phoning and asking if it's an "authorized transaction"... Damn DH Haha.

purr Those were my thoughts exactly and buy the time I had finished...

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Franykins · 31/07/2013 15:56

I went to the recent next sale with my sister, at 5 in the morning! Mad, yes. Spent £200, and that was with putting half of it back.

When I got home I proudly showed DP everything, having woken him up to do so (aren't I kind ) He aske dhow much it was and I told him. First his response was f hell! but then I pointed out that we had next quality at primark prices, and to be fair I got about 72 bits of clothing He then said oh that's ok then, but we both agree with twins on the way we still don't have enough as I got a range of sizes. Had he said I'd spent too much I would have pointed out that I bought it all out of my money so it doesn't make a jot of difference to him win win really.

Franykins · 31/07/2013 15:57

Oh meant to say he knows just what i'm like with shopping so no point in hiding any of it lol.

purrpurr · 31/07/2013 16:27

Mama I got everything (inc cot) for my dd from my personal savings, around a grand in total, as my DH had us on a tight leash also even though I earned the same as him, just was proper miserly about ANY spending for dd, didn't see the point, didn't see why we needed to stockpile wipes when they were on offer or get a few different brands of nappies or cotton wool and why do we need sleepsuits and what's a vest, why do we need them, blah blah, what do you mean, we need bedding, blah blah... I called him The Joy Stealer until the day my dd arrived. Now he is much much less mean with money and pays for everything so it should even out.

Still a pain though. There should be pleasure in shopping for your new arrival surely? Bah.

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MultipleMama · 31/07/2013 16:49

Purr - DH likes to note everything, no expense is unaccounted for. If we want something expensive we sell stuff we don't need to pay for it. We did it when buying the Donkey. However, he's fine at spending for nursery furniture etc and toys for the kids. He's... sensible and when you look at the big picture we've saved a load of money by it.

DH would be happy to put new arrival in the dc's hand me downs and we are for the most part, the newborn stuff ans gdiapers anyway but I want them to have new stuff too.

I told him about the spending and he asked if I could afford it. I said yes. He sighed with a smirk and wrote it down. DH handles my spreadsheet (i.e what I spend, incoming and outcomings, what needs to be left), I rarely hide spending from him, he finds out eventually haha.

DH buys for his baby (his bike), I buy what I want haha.

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Franykins · 31/07/2013 16:51

DP got the buggy and a few other bits. So with the clothes I've bought and the carry cots for the buggy we've spent about the same so far. He is defo more practical about it all than me though (is that a man thing or because he already has 2 DS's whereas these are my first?) By they time the arrive I think we will have spent the same as each other, just he will be spending it on the big stuff, car seats, cots, matrasses etc and I will be getting all the clothes etc.

RobotHamster · 31/07/2013 16:52

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MultipleMama · 31/07/2013 23:13

Franykins - It might be a man thing, his dad and my dad are the same. Very practical but luckily DH isn't too strict! I think DH has gotten more practical with each child. These twins are #5 & #6 and can afford them because of DH's money wisdom!

robothamster Link?

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Franykins · 01/08/2013 09:39

MultipleMama your probably right. As long as I put my half (for now) into the joint account for bills and things the rest of my money is mine to do I want with, and same for him. And just like your DH my DP buys for his baby (car) and I buy what I want too. It works I'm used to being independent so although he earns quite a bit more than me I insist on paying half the bills - even for his boys. He hates that I do that but I have always said to him look once we have kids that will change, I will be on lower maternity pay and then working part time (I hope) so I won't be able to pay half and half. That he was happy with (although I know I will find it hard not paying half but I just won't be able to afford to)

Defo helps for them to be practical I think

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MultipleMama · 01/08/2013 12:44

Franykins - Same here. I've always been working and being independent. I love when he wants to spoil me etc as I try to spoil him too but I refuse to let him pay all the bills and DC. I have 2 jobs that I do from home with no set hours and it pays enough for my half of the bills & spree money. Numbers calm DH so if his practical thinking works for him then I'm not complaining. I just hate when people assume he's "controlling" me over it haha.

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RunningBear78 · 01/08/2013 12:50

I've done all my spending sprees on eBay thereby circumventing awkward conversations as I can automatically say I've saved LOADS even though I have also obviously spent loads

I have just realised I did slightly not tell the whole truth about two cute polar bear hooded towels that were stupid expensive, but they were in the sale, does that count?

I have also been trawling the house for things to sell on eBay (which seems to be equally addictive) to make up for spending sprees!

You can promise to sell it all after you've used it to make some money back?

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 01/08/2013 12:50

I just tell DH the truth. We're both adults and trust each other with money so assume that the other is buying things we need

I'm on mat leave and have given up work as expecting DC2. We both, luckily, have I had well paying jobs but I couldn't have given up work if I felt I was going to have to pretend to DH about buying things. My dad treated my mum exactly the same so I just don't have experience if this kind of thing.

I know it's a light hearted thread but I'm a bit about it.

CelticPromise · 01/08/2013 13:04

Me too Gobbolino. DH and I share money and neither of us buys anything that costs over about £30 without discussing it with the other. Luckily we are equally tight frugal!

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 01/08/2013 13:10

celtic - glad to see I'm not just being PO

mumoftwoboysS · 01/08/2013 15:16

Multiple DH here uses a spreadsheet too! And since I don't work I don't have my own bank account so can't just dip in whenever! Have a weekly budget that we stick to so I buy stuff out of that but it means spending little bits here and there rather than all at once. I respect it (grudgingly!) as it keeps our bank a/c healthy- just wish I worked (was made redundant and now pregnant so a job will have to wait till after DC3 is born) so I could justify buying more sometimes!

For those of you that work gobbolino and celtic you're lucky you can spend your own money -and as for both being adults etc- it's just that sometimes one adult thinks something is a necessity whilst the other disagrees lol! perhaps it depends how you and your OH are personality wise- me and my DH are quite different so we see things differently but he does trust me to get all the stuff the kids need luckily!

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MultipleMama · 01/08/2013 15:24

I tell him the truth, also and we trust each other. I don't have to tell him what I spend, I don't lie about it either, I usually end up telling him what I've bought anyway. If it's my money, then he doesn't really care. If it's our money we discuss it, also.

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