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Some idiot walked against me in a shop

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syl1985 · 21/07/2013 21:02

I was in a supermarket. I was walking and this other person was walking towards me.

On his side of the aisle was someone standing. He clearly looked at me and I thought he was going to stop as this person was on his side.

So I kept on walking and right on the place where it was narrow he just walked right against me.

I was angry, but didn't know how to respond. All he said was sorry and I said: 'Thanks for that'!

He just continued, not worried about my belly (29 weeks pregnant) nothing.

Just a sorry he though that that was enough.

I had a pack of ice cream in my hands for me and my family to enjoy. It was soooooo warm and this idiot who so clearly did see me just walked against me.

I really thought he was going to wait as the person standing there making the path narrow was on his site, not mine!

He looked at me in the eyes and looked like he was going to stop and still continued.

I was furious at that moment!!!!
In my head I've said a lot of things to that person. But the only thing that came out of my mouth was a very annoyed:

Thanks for that!

And all he did was saying: 'sorry'.

Totally not concerned that he walked against me and my belly. He totally didn't seem to care.

How can people be so unbelievable stupid, inconsiderate and rude?
Or maybe he wanted to say more, like me, but things didn't came out of his mouth.
In the end we all sometimes make stupid mistakes.

It's still in my head, although I'm not angry anymore on him. On that moment..... I was boiling hot!!!

It annoys me that in the supermarkets people sometimes can be so rude. Rushing to get past you.
Not wanting to wait a second and if they need to wait some make noises like: hhmmm, ggrrr....

What is the problem with waiting 2 seconds? You're not online in this shop.

Especially with small kids. Some don't care and nearly run them over with their trolleys.

Or people who don't watch, they just walk like they're the only persons in the shop.
That's why I LOVE ordering my food online and someone comes and brings it to my door. Soooo much easier. No idiots and no kids who I need to keep close to me.

Or people who just make a mess in the shop. Placing foods they in the end don't want to buy on other places.
Or even food that was stored on room temperature they put it in the freezer.

Trolleys all over the parking.
Or if they bring the trolley back to where they belong they are to lazy to push it in the row of trolleys. They just give a last push to the trolley and it ends up somewhere between the other trolleys.

Originally I'm from Holland and people are totally not like that in the shops. If you haven't brought the products yet it isn't yours so you're careful with it. If you brake something, you buy it.

Other people and the shop keepers / workers will tell you off if you put things on a different place.
For us it's such a rude thing. We usually work with coins that need to be put in the trolley. To get the coin back we'll have to bring that back. It's a normal thing to do. We wouldn't even think of not bringing the trolley back or leave it somewhere on the parking.

With Easter those bunnies with broken ears. They're in every shop. If they see that in Holland that you do that, you're going to buy them. If not, either police gets involved or you'll get kicked out the shop and don't bother coming back. You won't be welcome anymore.

Most people thank goodness are ok. I think shops are to much busy with being nice to their customers and let them get away with these things. Some idiots just take full advantage of the kindness of the shops over here.

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PeazlyPops · 21/07/2013 21:09

I think you are massively overreacting. He shouldn't have bumped you, but he did, and he apologised.

Picturepuncture · 21/07/2013 21:18

From what I can work out, in that mammoth OP you said two things that are worth you retreading and taking on board:

Totally not concerned that he walked against me and my belly

Most people thank goodness are ok

TheSecondComing · 21/07/2013 21:19

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janey1234 · 21/07/2013 21:20

Hope you're ok OP...
But I agree you might be overreacting somewhat...

HoneyDragon · 21/07/2013 21:21

Erm..... In the nicest way possible. You're scary.

Easter was a while a go.

My dh works in Holland. On his last trip he got flattened by a small tribe of children and their father in a toyshop and took it with good grace as no real harm was done.

If you are concerned for your baby, it will be fine.

Are you really this angry? Or are you simply hot, pregnant and a little homesick?

MildDrPepperAddiction · 21/07/2013 21:22

Calm down.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 21/07/2013 21:27

When I'm pg I can get outraged at lots of things, ESP people bumping into the bump, you have to breathe and let it go. It's not good to hold it in so ranting on here is good. I used to feel so angry, it was horrible. It sounds like you're maybe a bit homesick as well.

MrsWolowitz · 21/07/2013 21:29

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Mckayz · 21/07/2013 21:31

I think you need to chill out. Stress isn't good when you are pregnant.

WandaDoff · 21/07/2013 21:32

There's no point getting wound up by it now. You'll just make yourself miserable

He apologised, just try & forget it.

It must be horrible being heavily pregnant in this heat. Two of mine were summer babies & I felt awful.

I remember that it wouldn't take much to get me into a rage, but I was so hot, tired, & hormonal with sore swollen ankles & in the situation that you were in today I probably would have punched him. Either that or burst into tears.

Go & have a nice cool bath or put some music on & put this out of your mind. You'll feel better for it.

syl1985 · 21/07/2013 21:35

I'm so not homesick. I'm very happy with living here in England.

Just the shopping here and the traffic are things I so need to get used to. It's so different from what I'm used to.

I'm surprised by the responses being so ok about someone walking against me and my belly.

But I guess as most of you're born here in England the way things go are normal for you.
But for me these things aren't normal and really rude.

Sure you can come across some idiots in Holland too, but it's not normal and not considered as normal behavior. Yet here in England (as example) no one seem to find it odd or rude to just leave trolleys all over the place.

Someone who walks against you who clearly has seen you and got to wait while the lady on his side of looking at some products. But doesn't let you walk first in this situation and just walks against you. It's very rude!!! It's so not done, especially when the lady is pregnant.

It's something that is so wrong. So not done, but by the looks of your responses it's not that bad over here.

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TheYoniWayIsUp · 21/07/2013 21:37

Hahaha! Makes me want to go to Holland and break a bunny's ears!

Mckayz · 21/07/2013 21:38

Maybe he thought there was room for both of you. I just don't see why you are so het up or what chocolate bunnies have to do with anything.

AmandaPandtheTantrumofDoom · 21/07/2013 21:39

What are you on about? Someone walked into you and you don't think sorry was enough? You seem to have decided it was deliberate and rude, but your description is nothing more than a misjudgement or accident. It happens all the time that two people think the other will stop, or both stop and then awkwardly move at the same point or whatever.

It isn't about being born in England. It's about the fact that a minor bump when someone walks into you is not a health risk.

I think you need some perspective to be honest.

KrazyKurls · 21/07/2013 21:39

I'm sorry I seem to have missed something? Did he punch you in the stomach Shock

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blondebaby111 · 21/07/2013 21:41

Are you a little hormonal by any chance op, Wink take a deep breath and chill!!

maja00 · 21/07/2013 21:42

Is this your first child? When you have a 3 year old headbutting/bouncing/kneeling on your pregnant belly someone bumping into you in shop won't seem so bad!

Honestly though - he bumped into you, he apologised. What more did you want him to do?

syl1985 · 21/07/2013 21:42

@wandadoff

Thanks for your response. Nice to hear of someone who understands how I feel. I might overreact and it's a bit the culture difference.

"I remember that it wouldn't take much to get me into a rage, but I was so hot, tired, & hormonal with sore swollen ankles & in the situation that you were in today I probably would have punched him. Either that or burst into tears".

That's so dead on. Although I didn't punch him, but I so wanted to do that. I didn't cry, but my partner had all my angry all over him. Poor thing.

Others who ask how I wanted him to respond:
To be more worried about me then just a simple 'sorry'.

Like:
I didn't hurt you?
Are you ok?
Can I help you?

Being a bit more concerned about me and the baby then just a simple: sorry.

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FannyFifer · 21/07/2013 21:44

That's some rant. Sorry you are so upset.
I remember when I was heavily pregnant, waiting to get on a bus (in Dublin no one knows how to form an orderly queue) and a nun shoved me right in the stomach to get on the bus before me, the rage descended and she got an absolute mouthful!

Try and forget about it. There are ignorant feckers everywhere!

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usualsuspect · 21/07/2013 21:45

That's an awfully long post for such a small incident.

AmandaPandtheTantrumofDoom · 21/07/2013 21:47

But you're not getting it. Why on earth would he think that walking against you in a shop would have hurt you? Why would you need help.

You have totally lost perspective I'm afraid. You were no more likely to be hurt by such a minor thing than any other man or woman. It's not like you fell down.

Sorry you are so miserable though.

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syl1985 · 21/07/2013 21:50

@fannyfifer

That's terrible and a nun none the less.

It's ok I guess how I responded, things might have escalated if I did something else.

But I soooo wish I could have given this guy a big mouth like you did. That must have made you feel a bit better on that moment.

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