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Some idiot walked against me in a shop

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syl1985 · 21/07/2013 21:02

I was in a supermarket. I was walking and this other person was walking towards me.

On his side of the aisle was someone standing. He clearly looked at me and I thought he was going to stop as this person was on his side.

So I kept on walking and right on the place where it was narrow he just walked right against me.

I was angry, but didn't know how to respond. All he said was sorry and I said: 'Thanks for that'!

He just continued, not worried about my belly (29 weeks pregnant) nothing.

Just a sorry he though that that was enough.

I had a pack of ice cream in my hands for me and my family to enjoy. It was soooooo warm and this idiot who so clearly did see me just walked against me.

I really thought he was going to wait as the person standing there making the path narrow was on his site, not mine!

He looked at me in the eyes and looked like he was going to stop and still continued.

I was furious at that moment!!!!
In my head I've said a lot of things to that person. But the only thing that came out of my mouth was a very annoyed:

Thanks for that!

And all he did was saying: 'sorry'.

Totally not concerned that he walked against me and my belly. He totally didn't seem to care.

How can people be so unbelievable stupid, inconsiderate and rude?
Or maybe he wanted to say more, like me, but things didn't came out of his mouth.
In the end we all sometimes make stupid mistakes.

It's still in my head, although I'm not angry anymore on him. On that moment..... I was boiling hot!!!

It annoys me that in the supermarkets people sometimes can be so rude. Rushing to get past you.
Not wanting to wait a second and if they need to wait some make noises like: hhmmm, ggrrr....

What is the problem with waiting 2 seconds? You're not online in this shop.

Especially with small kids. Some don't care and nearly run them over with their trolleys.

Or people who don't watch, they just walk like they're the only persons in the shop.
That's why I LOVE ordering my food online and someone comes and brings it to my door. Soooo much easier. No idiots and no kids who I need to keep close to me.

Or people who just make a mess in the shop. Placing foods they in the end don't want to buy on other places.
Or even food that was stored on room temperature they put it in the freezer.

Trolleys all over the parking.
Or if they bring the trolley back to where they belong they are to lazy to push it in the row of trolleys. They just give a last push to the trolley and it ends up somewhere between the other trolleys.

Originally I'm from Holland and people are totally not like that in the shops. If you haven't brought the products yet it isn't yours so you're careful with it. If you brake something, you buy it.

Other people and the shop keepers / workers will tell you off if you put things on a different place.
For us it's such a rude thing. We usually work with coins that need to be put in the trolley. To get the coin back we'll have to bring that back. It's a normal thing to do. We wouldn't even think of not bringing the trolley back or leave it somewhere on the parking.

With Easter those bunnies with broken ears. They're in every shop. If they see that in Holland that you do that, you're going to buy them. If not, either police gets involved or you'll get kicked out the shop and don't bother coming back. You won't be welcome anymore.

Most people thank goodness are ok. I think shops are to much busy with being nice to their customers and let them get away with these things. Some idiots just take full advantage of the kindness of the shops over here.

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WhatILoved · 21/07/2013 21:52

Syl I sympathise with you as you are clearly stressed out, but please try to relax a little. Remember your little one can feel your stress. Maybe some relaxation techniques, yoga or meditation would be helpful?
As a londoner my bump must be brushed up against aboyt 20 times a day on rush hour commute. I don't really think twice about it, but understand we all have different personal space limitations. Just take a few deep breaths and forget about the whole day.

KrazyKurls · 21/07/2013 21:53

But you said "he walked against me and my bump" this implies a light brush not a full on bash Hmm

How do you cope with busy places normally, you will be a lot bigger in 10 weeks time and harder to avoid...

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 21/07/2013 21:53

How do you know that the chap even noticed that you are pregnant? You said he looked you in the eye - presumably your eyes haven't changed to the outside observer in the last 29 weeks?

As you prefer online shopping just crack on and do it that way. You so won't enjoy shopping with a newborn in tow and the unwanted advice that people have to give you.

As for rudeness - the guy said sorry. How is that being rude?!

Reebok · 21/07/2013 21:53

Op sorry but I also think you're over reacting. You're lucky the guy said sorry. I have been knocked over on the ground and hit in the stomach while pregnant by commuters on trains while heavily pregnant. And not once did I receive a 'sorry' or was I helped up despite screaming in agony (when I was hit in the stomach by a very heavy guitar case). So yes the guy shouldn't have pushed you but at least he apologised and you were only pushed into and not knocked over.

Futterby · 21/07/2013 21:54

He bumped into you. He apologised. End of story.

He probably doesn't even remember it yet you're fretting over it hours later. From what it seems like, there was no possibility of you or your baby getting hurt so I really don't see what you want from him.

GertrudeMorel · 21/07/2013 21:54

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scottishmummy · 21/07/2013 21:55

Your post,the content it's bit disjointed,het up.it all seems v disproportionate

eurozammo · 21/07/2013 22:01

Your reaction is completely out of proportion. He bumped into you, he apologised. Move on. Or move to somewhere with a lot fewer people, because you don't seem to be managing at all well with normal human interactions in a busy place.

FraggleRock77 · 21/07/2013 22:04

I have a headache from reading this thread!!! Shock

LittleBearPad · 21/07/2013 22:08

Seriously you should calm down. You aren't hurt and he said sorry

TrulyMadlySleeply · 21/07/2013 22:18

Hmmm, o kaaaaay.......

LunaticFringe · 21/07/2013 22:20

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Passmethecrisps · 21/07/2013 22:27

OP I think we should be pals.

I love a good rant. And for what it is worth I agree with you about the food left lying in aisles and trolleys left lying.

However, I think in the probably not very cool light of day you will reasses and get that it wasn't such a big deal.

Feel free to PM me with any rant any time, however. I did enjoy that. Grin

I hope you have your feet up now.

LadyBeagleEyes · 21/07/2013 22:30

Do people never bump into each other in Holland then? Confused

NickyNackyNooNoo · 21/07/2013 22:32

OP chill and relax, you were bumped into he apologised no harm done.

If you over analyse & stress about stuff too much that's way worse for you and your baby. Later pregnancy, new borns, toddlers, schooling, teenagers etc will cause you far worse stress Wink

Ls271082 · 21/07/2013 22:34

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notanyanymore · 21/07/2013 22:35

Op you sound like me when I was pregnant! Yes the man was a twunt, and your post does sound a little like a crazy rant, but yanbu, its called hormones and happens to the best of us. Smile

Chubfuddler · 21/07/2013 22:35

LOL at ten metre run up

I bet he didn't even notice you were pregnant. That's kind of irrelevant anyway as he didn't do this on purpose. He was just momentarily thoughtless and knocked into you. You will be fine.

Chubfuddler · 21/07/2013 22:36

I want to know about bunnies with broken ears now. Do you mean Lindt chocolate bunnies op? I've never seen one with a broken ear.

WandaDoff · 21/07/2013 22:38

FFS leave the OP alone.

She's 29 weeks pregnant & it's fucking boiling.

Have none of you ever had a pregnant hormonal rage & overreacted to something?

Passmethecrisps · 21/07/2013 22:39

I am not pregnant.

Simply too bloody hot.

Rage on!

HystericalParoxysm · 21/07/2013 22:39

TLDR most of it.
I think you need to chill out a bit.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/07/2013 22:43

Syl - it may well be that the man either did not realise you were pregnant or didn't want to assume you were pregnant (in case you were not and took offence at him implying you looked pregnant).

I think that it was a minor incident and the apology was proportionate. It doesn't seem like that to you because you were hot, hormonal and tired.

steakchipsandfriedeggs · 21/07/2013 22:47

OP, ignore the vast majority of replies on here (the negative ones that is) I understand how you must have felt, you are in a vulnerable situation and as a decent human, you expected some level of common courtesy from this man. Unfortunately there are some idiots out there who see a pregnant woman (or even just a woman) and don't think to be polite and let them pass first. Values have really taken a backseat in recent years I'm afraid.
I think you're right, there are some cultural differences judging by some of the things you have noted in your OP, but you are well within your right to rant so fire away, that's what MN is here for, just take no notice of the comments that can't offer you anything constructive, especially the rude ones!

Hope you're ok and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy (and if all else fails, stick your elbows out, that'll stop anyone from bumping in to you! Smile)

tethersend · 21/07/2013 22:50

I'm not pregnant, but I did call a man a cunting fucker very loudly as he pissed against my neighbour's fence today. And shouted at him as he sheepishly walked down the street.

So yes OP, you overreacted. But as one fellow overreacter to another, you must let it go or it will eat you alive.

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