PG after MC - Keeping the worries at bay with Posifrickingtivity!!

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New thread ladies!

Happy birthday for tomorrow Bod sounds like you have a lovely day lined up!
DH is looking after DS tomorrow so I can go for a trip into York and a mooch round the shops. First stop will be a child free latte in Betty's!

Oh Diy that is wonderful news to end the day on! Congratulations

Aw DIY that's just fab!!! And a little boy to join the gaggle of girlies on the thread!! Delighted it all went well :)

Hi rainbow, welcome to the best support group on earth (or online!!). Fx this one is a nice wee sticky one x

Yay DIY! Really happy for you

Welcome rainbow, and all the very best for a healthy one this time xx

I surprised myself by getting very emotional at royal baby too! Bless them all! Now if they'd only just tell us his bloody name!!

Fantastic news DIY

wonderful news, congratulations DIY!

Yeah DIY- another member for team blue.
Terrible confession here, before I had children I had always thought that boy children were boring and not as fun as girls. When I was pregnant with my first child I was convinced he was a boy and when I met him I fell in love so deeply and honestly believed he was the most gorgeous totally wonderful baby in the world and I love having a boy!!

Well Ive had my chips thoroughly pissed on tonight.
I told my friend about the baby. One of my best friends, my horsey friend who I see every day, and have done for nearly a decade. The friend with whom I share everything and who does the same to me. The friend who knows how upset I was to MC and what I went through TTC...
Her response? "So that's you sitting on your bum for the next nine months doing nothing I suppose!" and she walked away!
This is all because when I was PG last time, and bleeding, and worried sick, I refused to help move a 4ft round bale of hay. Apparently I was milking it.
I am really hurt.

oh saggy that's awful - how rude and insensitive of your friend. You should tell her how your comment made you feel. I would be really hurt and upset too...

her comment, sorry!

Cam So sorry to hear your sad news. Be gentle with yourself and take time to heal. xx

Oh, saggy, that's rubbish! Really not a nice way to react, and even worse if it's coming from someone you trusted. Sounds as if she managed to crush your high from the scan .
Let me guess - she doesn't have children or has ever been pg?!? Surely not, to make a comment like that! I can understand that you are hurt, any chance that you can sit down with her and talk about how you feel? Because she needs to understand what's going through your mind, if you are to stay friends. Being around horses/doing horsey stuff is really tricky when you're pg. Hopefully, you can sort it all out with her.

I am so unbelievably tired, it's not even 10pm, but I'm heading for bed. It's really strange - I'm fine during the day, no problems with tiredness or concentration, but the minute I come home, I crash.

Guess that'd be a symptom, then...

I can understand that she doesn't have children and never wanted them, and she probably isn't that interested, but I didn't even get her generic "ah, well done" that she normally gives people when she isn't interested.

Jbrd I think this might start a real cooling off in our relationship. DD has been really fed up with her for some time. She is growing more and more cantankerous, and DD and her friend have no fun anymore. They just get nagged and moaned at. Ive been building bridges for a long time, because she is my friend, and we have shared a lot, but I think a break would do us all good.

jmf thanks, I'm glad you said that! I have a dd and love her more than I can describe and I was kind of thinking I'd l

Saggy that is horrible. She doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. I think you need tell her she owes you a serious apology. She obviously has issues with you being pregnant and that is not what you need right now x

DIY congratulations on your scan and little boy news xx

Eek just ordered a recaro car seat form kiddicare as they are 20% off right now x

Saggy- she obviously has issues with you being preg but it's way out of line to talk to you like that. How rude. Could she be jealous and resentful that she hasn't got any children?

DIY- I have a boy and a girl and while I'm delighted to have my girl, I ADORE my boy! I'm actually hoping number three is a boy although I have loads and loads more beautiful girls names

So sorry cam hope you are being looked after x

Welcome rainbow and congrats

Loved the royal baby and Kate looked great...I thought they did very well, DH was joking at the state I would have been in! I did not envy her one bit but thought it was great

Great scan news DIY and a boy Get thinking of names now...and share with us of course!

Sorry abt your friend saggy bit of distance is prob for the best

bod not sure what the seat is you have bought, but I was getting a new seat for DS the other day and they told me in mothercare not to buy yet for the new baby as the laws changing soon to be rear facing up to 15m so all new seats are coming out...apparently that's why loads of good offers on seats at the min as they will be out dated soon

Ooh bod well done!! Our car seat got delivered to my parents house last week and I'm yet to visit it heehee! This is real!

I'm convinced I'm having a boy, no real reason, just an inkling I have! Most of my friends have boys and I've only ever had boy cats so maybe that's why! Ha!

Saggy, sorry to hear your friend has made you feel so down. Could she be jealous? Or just an insensitive cow. Maybe it's time to keep some distance and maybe she'll realise how out if order she was. Chin up, today you are pregnant and that's the awesome bit

Ill get over it. That's her all over! Very selfish really. Luckily underneath there is usually a heart of gold too! She is just having a lapse!
Janie Im convinced Ive got a boy too! at 6.4!!
I was convinced that the mc was a girl.

diy congratulations! I don't have any DCs but I have two nephews and they are gorgeous.

saggy I am at your 'friend'. Time to cool off indeed methinks. How bloody rude.

Just got 3+ on my last digi

It came up within about 5 seconds

bod yay for car seat buying

janie that made me smile. I haven't 'visited' my car seat or buggy yet either.

Sorry, have been a bit out of it the last couple days, doing some shitty stuff at work, very much looking forward to may leave now! Although it's still ages away.

Cam - so sorry to hear your news.

Saggy - yay for a great scan! So pleased. Your friend doesn't sound like a friend at all. I agree she sounds jealous. Mine has been a little like that on occasions, although not to the same extent.

Thunder - fab news on your 3+! Step by step....

DIY - a boy! Wooooo! That's great news and there is loads of cute boy outfits around! how lovely.

Bod and Janie - fab news for car seat buying! Another step closer...

Diet - how are you doing? Is it time to get scan fear yet again? You get seen a lot more towards the end with twins don't you? Do you have another appointment soon?

Gary - all stopped? Or any signs?

Could everyone who has a big list of girl names share them?! We are still struggling! DH doesn't see this as a problem, I keep thinking our poor baby won't have a name!

I liked that K Mid was still showing a little bump the day after and wasn't trying to hide it. Shows that it's normal not to "ping" back into place immediately - funny how we don't see many celebs immediately after they've given birth!

Saggy - sounds like your friend has her own weird issues going on, I think your plan to cool off is a good one, esp if she is also not great with your DD. either it' s a natural end to the friendship or it'll give her a kick to make more effort with all of you.

Hi Rainbow and congrats! Don't believe anyone who says that taking a rest makes any difference. We either have the bad luck of something going wrong with the dividing cells or we have something wrong with us that "resting" can't cure. But today you are pregnant!!

Ooh yes, hi to rainbow and congratulations. Don't worry - as others have said it just seems to be about dating and your mental well being rather than changing any outcomes for your pregnancy.

ibip no scan doom yet. Have 8 more days at work so that's pre-occupying me a bit. Scan doom normally sets in in the second half of the four weeks, so this time next week it'll be on its way. It's easier at the moment because I feel them both moving regularly, but in the next week or so they'll start to run out of room and I won't have that luxury. Next scan and appt is the 13th August at 36 weeks. Given 60% twins arrive before 37 weeks getting to that appt might be the challenge!

We're struggling with girls' names too - we've considered:
Sophie, Charlotte, Mia, Mila, Naomi, Ruby, Poppy (which I absolutely love but surname is Brown and it sounds like a half dead Poppy to me), Eleni, Xanthe, Elodie. Not sure what else. Still haven't been brave enough to post on baby names!

Ooh, nice SiL has her 12w scan today - exciting!

Argh! Over emotional, hormonal mess here. Childminder is packing it in at the end of August. She's a saint. DD adores her and talks about her ALL the time, she is going to be gutted I keep welling up at how upset she will be when she can't go anymore and now we are childcareless from Sep-Nov with no help for when I pop! Sob. I need a magic fairy wand please if anyone has one?