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PG after MC - Keeping the worries at bay with Posifrickingtivity!!

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Chocolateteabag · 20/07/2013 23:30

New thread ladies!

Happy birthday for tomorrow Bod sounds like you have a lovely day lined up!
DH is looking after DS tomorrow so I can go for a trip into York and a mooch round the shops. First stop will be a child free latte in Betty's!

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Pixielady83 · 05/08/2013 17:40

Hi ladies

jbrd I'm so so sorry to hear your news. I hope you've got someone looking after you xxx

saggy I have a scan tomorrow too. First one, gulp. This week I've had to undo the button on my work trousers due to little tummy popping out, never got to that stage last time so really hoping that's a good sign. Really really hoping to see a wriggling baby but think I will keep eyes closed until they tell me its ok as I really don't want another sad scan pic indelibly marked on my brain.

Sure yours will go well. I think I might be on here in the morning needing random chat distraction as DH has to go to work before scan so will have 2 hours to sit and wait at home on my own.

Ladies with pelvic pain its horrible isn't it, you have my sincere sympathies, last time my pelvis quite literally fell apart at 28 weeks and it was agony Sad

Pixielady83 · 05/08/2013 17:44

janie just see you're thinking about when to finish work, I thought the same as you that I didn't need long and worked (albeit at home) up to 2 weeks before due date. Then DD was a week early so I only got a week in the end! from that experience I would recommend finishing a bit earlier if poss, even though I only had to log in from my home office I was so tired at the end and longed to be able to just nap and watch crap tv. Just my experience though, I imagine it could well have been different if I had gone over Grin

Lieslvontrapp · 05/08/2013 18:02

Good luck Saggy & Pixie for your scans tomorrow!

Myrtle when are your next scan & bloods? Hope you get an answer this week.

4 days to go until my scan. Really hope things have progressed well over the past 4 weeks since last scan. Just want Friday to be here now so I know!

BlackholesAndRevelations · 05/08/2013 18:09

Well.... I'm sorry to post this after jbrd's sad news but had my 20 week scan and all is good! I was a nervous wreck and nearly cried in the car on the way there. Have been emotional the rest of the day. Thank god there is no heart defect x

Lieslvontrapp · 05/08/2013 18:38

Great news blackholes! Did you find out the sex?

IBelieveInPink · 05/08/2013 18:47

Jmf - so sorry :( can't really add to all the other messages, but thinking of you.

Blackholes - fab news! So pleased :)

Good luck to scan ladies tomorrow! Will be thinking of you

IBelieveInPink · 05/08/2013 18:48

Oh balls - jbrd not jmf. Sorry

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 05/08/2013 18:58

aw blackholes that's great news :) hope you can start to relax a little bit about everything...i think the 20 week scan is a bit of a turning point (for me anyway).

good luck tomorrow saggy and pixie - and pixie thanks for the ML advice. i'm thinking 37 weeks at the latest - i can't quite believe it might happen - i've been sitting at the same desk for 11 years - 2 weeks off has been the longest i've ever been away from that bloody desk!

GuffSmuggler · 05/08/2013 19:10

saggy what's the carbon monoxide test, to see if you smoke!? That's crazy! How come you refused?

Fantastic news blackholes is such a massive milestone I bet you feel brilliant Grin

Good luck tomorrow pixie and saggy I hope you sleep ok tonight and wake up all positive.

LuckySocks13 · 05/08/2013 19:15

So very sorry for your loss JBird. Sending you thoughts of strength at this difficult and sad time. I hope you are able to have tests and find out some answers as soon as you are ready x

LuckySocks13 · 05/08/2013 19:20

fab news on your scan Blackholes. Such a relief isn't it! :)
Janie - I'm also having to tell work 2mor. I aimed for 2 weeks before with DS then couldn't manage it and bad to finish 2 weeks before that. I had a lot of pelvic pain at the end! I think in going to do 2 weeks maternity leave before bit also have over 2 weeks holiday to take too so going to make the most of resting before hand and stocking the freezer with per cooked meals I can re heat!
Good luck to who ever has a scan tomorrow. I have my 25 week appointment! Wowsers!

RainbowConnections · 05/08/2013 19:31

Saggy that was a good distraction today. Home birth sounds lovely. Anxiety dreams are horrible, hope you have a spider free night. Good luck for tomorrow, and also Pixie. (Hurrah for the little tummy popping out.)

Waiting for a scan really tests the sanity. I too have a scan Friday when I'll only be 6+5. I'm worried it might be too early to see a heartbeat but GP was keen. Both MCs have started over next few days so i think if i make Friday i'll be feeling good anyway.

Blackholesglad your 20wk scan went well.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/08/2013 21:08

Guff its a new test. There was a thread about it on here a while back. It's like a breathalyser. It detects traces of carbon monoxide in your breath. Women who test positive are referred to quitting smoking services. According to the thread, in some places its being pushed as 'compulsory' and there were some women who had been told they HAD to take it regardless of whether they told the HCPs that they don't smoke or not. Almost like they couldn't be trusted. It was a very controversial thread, several posters were upset with how they had been handled. It really touched a nerve with me, I am very anti cigarettes, and being a cantankerous cow I was all geared for a fight when I said I wasn't doing it!
In the end, the midwife just said "ok", and wrote 'declined' on the paperwork! Confused

GaryBuseysTeeth · 05/08/2013 21:23

Great news Blackholes.

Saggy, interesting to hear about the carbon monoxide test. Hurrah for her, in principle, agreeing to your homebirth.
I'm not upset, because for both DS it was in their best interest to hospital birth, but I feel sad that I missed out on the experience of home birthing, so do it for me Grin

I'll stick around here for a while then, you've twisted my arm. Maybe when enough of you have had your lovely, full term no ishoos, stitches or prolapse sneeze births we can start a postnatal thread...

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/08/2013 21:31

I am really tempted Gary. I just need clarification about group B strep and several more problem free months before I make any decisions.

shellsocks · 05/08/2013 22:02

That's great news blackholes what a relief Smile I think it was you that helped me with a fancy dress idea? Well it's on Sat and DH is going as Dr Octopus so Im wearing goggles, green leggings and a green vest, with a sticker on my bump saying Doc Oc's baby with tentacles coming out of the sticker Grin Thanks for the idea, I'm made up with it!

Hey gary good to hear from you, how are you all doing? Getting much sleep? Hows your older DS getting on with the baby now?

Thinking of you jbrd x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/08/2013 22:47

I hate fancy dress, but since watching Despicable Me, I have a hankering to wear a yellow tshirt, PG dungarees and a snorkel mask and go as a minion! Grin

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 05/08/2013 22:52

Shell your costumes sound amazing!!! I love fancy dress!

Bootyluscious · 06/08/2013 05:39

So sorry to read your news JBrd Sad take care of yourself

Another 20 week scan here too - yesterday - all looking ok & I have an extra scan pic of he/she's tiny feet! which keep booting me in the groin Grin

Am feeling a little bit less detached from it now - might even put something on Facebook if I'm feeling brave later

Good luck for the scans today

BirdsDoIt · 06/08/2013 07:42

saggy and pixie hope the scans go well today! Keeping fingers crossed for you.

blackholes and booty lovely to hear everything was all good with yours - that must be such a relief.

rainbow hope you're not fretting too much about Friday's scan. It's great that your GP's being so supportive. Can you ask for another scan around the 8/9 week mark if this one looks good?

Having been quite calm here for the last few days I've been awake half the night sleepless and feeling boiling hot and worrying! Alarming absence of symptoms so far apart from a pukey episode on Saturday. I'm now about 6 weeks i think. So long to wait until 8 week scan - week of 25 August - and feel very on my own with it all because DH is effectively refusing to talk about it. I feel quite angry actually because that's what he did with the first pregnancy, and if I'm honest, my mmc as well. I guess he finds it's easier to compartmentalise and pretend it's not happening until it's more of a 'reality' but to me it feels pretty real already. And just a bit of a cop out on his part, and not very supportive. If I try and mention anything to do with it, the conversation just dies immediately. He's wonderful in every other way but this is beginning to make me feel really upset. Has anyone else had this experience with their DP/DH?

Sorry for epic post - needed to get this off my chest!

GardenWorm · 06/08/2013 08:01

Great news Blackholes and Booty! Did either of you find out flavours?

Good luck for today Saggy and Pixie sending lots of scan posifrickintivity your way xxx

Gary how's it going? Has DS1 adjusted to DS2? Have you got a name for DS2 now? Smile

GardenWorm · 06/08/2013 08:07

Sorry Birds I forgot to add....I think it's a common thing amongst man folk, I suppose it's harder for them to feel its real especially when physically you are not showing. Did he get a bit more into it once you had a bump with your first pregnancy? My DH was a bit distant from it all at first but I think it was just because he didn't want to get his hopes up and have them crushed again. They aren't that different to us with the worrying but they don't have the hormones to contend with!

BirdsDoIt · 06/08/2013 08:18

Thanks garden - I guess it's reassuring that it isn't just him! Didn't get as far as a bump with my first pg because it turned out to be mmc. I'm pretty sure I'm being uncharitable and he is thinking about it a bit but I wish he'd just bloody SAY something!! 'How are you feeling about things' would be a good start. Grrr. Maybe I need to say all this to him, just worried I'll get blank incomprehension - 'what do you want me to say?'

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 06/08/2013 09:17

Just checking in, I've been scanned, all present and correct and the dates match from last time.

Pixielady83 · 06/08/2013 09:30

birds my DH was like that in first pg, completely disengaged, not showing much emotion after positive test, but instead obsessing about an utterly unimportant set back in his work. I was furious! I think he just finds it easier not to engage in deeper emotions and his brain is wired to deflect attention onto stuff he can cope with instead if he feels overwhelmed. Come to think about it he was the same with 2nd pg. This time he was more interested in positive test result because it meant so much more after mmc. Since then he has been pretty disengaged, but so have I so it has suited both of us to stay detached to cope with uncertainty. I sympathise with how frustrating it is though.

Thanks for your kind thoughts lady and positive vibes Smile I am pretty much in scan doom. I can't stop thinking about the symptoms being far less than previous pregnancies. I don't know how I'm going to cope with another mc. All of our close family are on hols so we have no back up to take DD away for a couple of days if I go to hospital and for recovery... that is maybe a good thing as I will just have to hold it down. Sorry to be so lacking in posifrickingtivity Sad I have held it down pretty much for 6 weeks and fallen at the last hurdle. I keep thinking of the awkwardness of the staff last time and the stupid things they said which made me feel worse. I almost feel like saying as soon as I go in, this is prob a mc, just to prepare them. Last time the sonographer more or less told me I should stop crying as I would upset people waiting outside and then while DH was waiting for me to go to the loo they had a chat without realising he was still there saying 'so ironic isn't it, they're the only ones who have had money ready for scan pics this morning'. Pretty minor stuff but still upsetting.